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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 13:51 PM   1
PrincessKay
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Dont know what to do :-(


Sorry this may be just me but...

Last week my colleague told me she was pregnant (great!) what do i do about TTC?? She will have just gone on mat leave when i TTC, i dont know if this would make me selfish as work could be 2 staff down for some months (if she comes back).

Also...My best friend just told me shes getting married next year which is really great but i will be maid of honour, im really happy about it but if i dont get pregnant right away i could be pregnant for her wedding (End 2012) or even if i do get pregnant right away i would have just had baby literally 3 or 4 months before and i know its shallow but i dont want to be a fat bridesmaid

I dont know what to do? I dont want to put my date off, its already taking long enough as it is

Has anyone been in a situation like this before?



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 13:56 PM   2
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I havent been in this situation but i dont know what to suggest, i wouldnt worry about covering u at work as the company would have to find someone to cover both of u (thats really not ur worry) I dont know what to say about the wedding though u could be lucky and lose baby weight quickly, who knows x



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:24 PM   3
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If I were you I would stick with the original plan. It's wonderful that two of your friends have such exciting things going on in their lives but there's no need to put your life on hold incase it might cause slight inconvenience to others. Your work will have to cope and there's no knowing what stage you'll be at when your friend gets married, if you decide to breastfeed for example apparently the weight drops off.

Whenever it happens it will be wonderful and you and others will find a way to work it out.



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:28 PM   4
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I agree with Button - this is your life and your plans so dont put them on hold for other peoples plans-i know i wouldnt!!

either way at your friends wedding you will both be going through an amazing experience in life - a wedding for her, and pregnancy/breastfeeding for you

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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:33 PM   5
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Seems like your scared or trying to find reasons to put off TTC? Because to me I won't have cared if I was going to be maid of honour for Kate Middleton, I would be there with my big pregnant belly, pregnant and proud. As for work it's the companies problem really not yours when I was pregnant another lady was pregnant too she had her baby 6 weeks before me and they're surviving but I didn't worry about it.

Just focus on getting pregnant luv



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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:37 PM   6
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Hi, i haven't been in your exact position but i believe there is always something going on in our lives which could make us put back TTC, but it depends how important it is to you right now.I honestly wouldn't give two thoughts about the work situation-they'll deal with it when it happens.

In terms of your friend's wedding, just deal with whatever happens at the time. If you are preganant for it, then fine-you can get a nice dress to cover your bump and if you have just had a baby-you can see how you feel at the time. If you want a baby, just ttc-you can't really plan it anyway as it could take much quicker or longer than you expect, good luck



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:41 PM   7
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Yep, as all the other ladies have said, work isn't for you to worry about, that's your companies issue. They're well aware women can choose to get pregnant and require leave so let them worry about cover etc.

As for the wedding again personally I wouldn't let it stop my ttc plans. if you happen to be pregnant then you'll be glowing and even though you won't be drinking I'm sure it won't stop you enjoying yourself, and if you've just had your baby then just be proud of your post baby body, it's the one time when women shouldn't have to worry about how their body looks. And anyway as the others have said you may find the weight drops off you anyway. You don't want to find that you begin to resent the girl from work or your friend because you're letting their lives controlyour ttc plans.

Just go with the flow and enjoy whatever happens!

X



 
Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:49 PM   8
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Thanks girls. I am just going to continue with my original plan and see how it goes. I just dont want ppl talking at work iykwim? I just didnt know what to do about my friends wedding. Hopefully i will fall pregnant right away!!



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Seems like your scared or trying to find reasons to put off TTC? Because to me I won't have cared if I was going to be maid of honour for Kate Middleton, I would be there with my big pregnant belly, pregnant and proud. As for work it's the companies problem really not yours when I was pregnant another lady was pregnant too she had her baby 6 weeks before me and they're surviving but I didn't worry about it.

Just focus on getting pregnant luv
This is not the case. I have been waiting for what seems like forever.



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2011, 14:59 PM   9
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I'm sure people at work will be more understanding than you think. I'm sure they won't be thinking you purposely planned to be going on maternity leave at the same time as this other girl. It's life, people get pregnant and your company will be able to bring in temp if necessary before you leave so they will have adequate cover.
I'd only been in my job 4 days when I had to tell them I was 3 and a half months pregnant, I'd been stressing so much about telling them and worrying about what they'd think but they were brilliant. A week later another girl announced she was also pregnant (due the week after me) and then 2 weeks after that my boss found out she was also pregnant. Since I've been on leave another girl from my officer has gone on maternity leave so in total that's 4 of us on maternity leave at the same time, but they're coping fine. They've brought in a few temps but everyone has been lovely!

I'm sure everything will work out great for you!

Good luck with it all!

X



 
Old Feb 13th, 2011, 15:06 PM   10
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Aww thanks hun this has made me feel much better

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