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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 12:48 PM   11
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I think it's a personal choice too. I was married at 17! But we chose to wait to try for kids because we wanted to have our own "couple time" for a while. We took some amazing vacations together, had all kinds of ups and downs, and finally felt we were ready 4 years into our marriage. I do think people rush into kids sometimes.



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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 14:25 PM   12
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im 23 and although im only a few years older than teenage i wouldnt have wanted a baby any sooner. ive been with my OH for 5 years and we rent a house and both work and i feel ready now. but ive always been very aware of not wanting to make 'mistakes' like missing out on things id regret doing or making sure i was in the right relationship. i think if you feel ready in yourself, have achieved or experianced what you want to than your ready to have a baby.



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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 14:50 PM   13
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I had my dd at 29. I had an absolutely wicked life from 16-25. I did everything I wanted, and visited allsorts of wonderful countries! The only one I didn't get to do was New York - but we're going for our 10th wedding Anniversary! We married quite young at 25 (or so I'm told!) and had another couple of fab holidays, got a good lump in the bank, and both me & my hubby got our careers established! I'm not ambitious, and I'm quite happy to be a grafter and let someone else deal with responsibility of hitting deadlines, but I am part qualified which in my field means more money! I was able to take 12 months off to be with my baby, and it was the best year of my life! I now work 3 days a week, so most of my time I am with my dd. I am not bragging or anything, but we have a 5 bedroom house, and a 2 bedroom house, that we rent out, we have a car each, we have 2 holidays per year, as well as many weekends away over the summer months. I am really proud to be able to say I have paid for EVERYTHING we have. But if I had had a child 10 years earlier, my life would be nothing now! I am the happiest I have ever been. I know money doesn't make you happy but it certainly helps!



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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 16:05 PM   14
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Personally for me I agree with I want it all. My life has been very similar, from getting married at 25, both being established in our careers, owning 2 homes one of which we rent out, able to take a year off with my daughter, able to have the holidays we want when we want and knowing that we were able to do all the things we wanted to do before we chose to have a baby at the age of 27 (well 28 a few weeks after)!
We certainly wouldn't have the amazing life we have now if we'd have had a baby 10 years back. But then again if you're ready and feel you're able to provide the life you want for your baby then there's no reason why age should be a factor!



 
Old Feb 16th, 2011, 16:16 PM   15
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I don't have any issues with teenage mums, what i think is important is that you are emotionally ready for a child, have a strong realtionship with your partner and can support your child financially. Generally, you would achieve these things when you are a little older but if you have all that at a younger age then i see no problems with it.



 
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Old Feb 18th, 2011, 15:16 PM   16
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I also think its a personal choice, and I think its OK as long as you and your OH are both committed, have an income, aren't doing any bad drugs/drinking, etc. and taking all of the responsible actions that are necessary for having a baby. I don't really know if there is an "age" limit..

And I know some things can happen when your a teenager when having sex- sometimes you may have to raise the baby on your own, or with the help of your parents. I don't believe in Abortion- there are alot of women out there who cannot have babies themselves who would love to adopt... think of the best situation for the baby!

I didnt date until I was almost 18- never ever been on a date, or kissed a boy or held hands with a boy! When I did meet my husband, just before my 18th birthday, we waited to have sex for about 2 years, then I went on BC and we also used condoms- we knew we wernt ready. We recently bought a house, bought the things we need- the house isnt quite finished yet- but thats always a fun project.(LOL)

I think when your ready, your ready. But if your one of those teenage girls on Maury who just wants to have with any guy just to have a baby when she just finished elementary school, who doesn't have a job and doesn't have any support, I don't think your ready!



 
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Old Feb 18th, 2011, 15:54 PM   17
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Hey all i'm 20 and we are TTC this summer after our wedding in August. I've always known since i was 10 or so i wanted to be a mum, around the time my 1st nephew was born. At the age of 16 i would of happily had a baby however looking back now im glad i didn't. I'm much happier with the situation i am in now. Also it was pretty impossible as i didn't have sex until i was 18 with my current fiance i'm actually quite proud of that lol I've always been more mature than others my age but i think my maturity level now is alot better. It is largly an emotional decision as in you know when you are ready. Obviously there are other things to consider as well. Me and my OH both have full time jobs. We live in a 2 bed (rented) house and obv are getting married. I just feel now is definatly the right time. Also i have always had the mindset of where ever what ever we do the baby/child can come to. I'm not bothered about holidays. We will still go. Yes it will cost more but i want to be able to take my children places. Also in my job i am already a deputy manager, doing qualifications whilst i work, on my way towards a managerial role. I also have a business plan in mind for the near future to become self employed. I've never been a big partyer or drinker. I don't go out every weekend etc. I don't smoke, neither does my OH. Its just all different factors that combine to help make your decision. My OH is ready now as of around christmas time which is why we decided to leave TTC till after the wedding (as well as fitting in my wedding dress ) also pure and simply i want my Oh baba's haha x



 
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Old Feb 18th, 2011, 17:44 PM   18
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I've been ready for years. It's all I thought about since I was about 19. But just remember you don't just suddenly have a tiny sweet baby in your arms. Now that I'm actually pregnant I'm having a really hard time. Haven't left the house in ages, sick ALL the time, in pain, my friends won't talk to me, can't do a lot of the things I used to, and am constantly worrying. And I'm not even close to nine months! That's not to say I am not thrilled to get my wish, but I think a lot of young people choose not to think about things like that. I knew it wasn't going to be "pleasant" though and I think that's something you need to prepare yourself for as well, not just for having a baby to take care of. Not trying to put anyone off it of course, just pointing out the part that most young people overlook.



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2011, 11:02 AM   19
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i already know i'm going to have really bad morning sickness due to the way i reacted to the pill. the doctor said it was the eastrogren (?) level in the pill that was making me sick and not wanting to eat and during pregnancy your body produces more that whats in the pill so....i'm thrilled :/ lol I've got to be honest there isn't really anything that i feel i will loose when having a baby, and thats not me just being short sighted x



 
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Old Feb 19th, 2011, 12:13 PM   20
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im 25 , got married at 24 and been with my husband since i was 16.
i have wanted a baby or felt broody from the age of 18 but knew deep down that we werent living together at the time and just wasnt ready to look after a baby.

We moved in together at 22 we thought if we had a babay then, we would never save to get married or have travelled abit before we had a baby.

i think i have more patience now and more life experience and have been totally ready to have a baby since i was 23.

Something always get in your way too, if i fall pregnant now and have to give up work, we wont be able to borrow as much money for a mortgage, so wont be able to move into a house, ( currently in a flat which we own) so i have to wait to sell our flat and as soon as that happens we will start trying.

My stepmum had a baby at 45, too old in my eyes. as my brother doesnt get as much attention as i did as a child, because she has lived her life for a lot younger and finds it hard to give uo the things she does, which i dont think is fair!

sorry for the essay x how old are you by the way ebony rose?



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