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Old Feb 15th, 2011, 18:48 PM   1
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Is it just a fairytale?


(I have posted a similar thread in the toddler section)

My scenario goes like this....

LO is 15 months and I really really wish for her to have a little brother or sister and really broody at mo but LO has been a very demanding baby and the only help I get is from OH (who has struggled with the reality himself).

LO at 15 months still wakes at night and Im trying to wean her off the boob but were not quite getting there. She also hates eating with a vengeance so I just feel very drained and if it wasnt for OH being able to flexi work, he says he would have been sacked by now.

Having said that and despite the 'demands', LO is absolutely the most amazing and bright and beautiful little person. The love of my life who I cant live without and brings sooo many smiles and laughters in my life. She is just amazing and when I look at her I cant get enough which makes me broody for another.

OH is reluctant and doesnt think we would cope, or rather I wont cope as he wants to concentrate more time on his career. Im 32, dont want a really big age gap and want to TTC when LO turns 2. OH is just not so keen.



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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 02:54 AM   2
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Hi LOL. Your wee lady sounds like a determined baby. I'm not a parent yet but I know from all the family babies and friends kids that no two children (or babies) are ever the same. My best friend says if she'd had her little girl before her son she'd never have had another as she has been a nightmare (I like to call it character!) Her son on the other hand was a total dream throughout the baby and toddler stages.

I think somehow you just cope - no matter what you get. My mum (who had loads of kids) says with the second and third it just got so much easier because she wasn't able to get so consumed with just one. Routine became really important and kids LOVE routine so we all responded really well and with being the eldest I felt so grown up having something smaller than me to look after and protect.

I think your feelings are totally natural and maybe you just need to take the next step to another child without too much thinking!

Good luck... X



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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 07:46 AM   3
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Even though I'm not a parent myself I too agree with Blaire. No two kids are ever the same and somehow you just cope. My sister had hers 2 years apart and it was hard but they got into a routine etc much faster with the second one and didn't panic so much when she cried and that because they had a little more experience under their belts. It's nice to have the kids not too far apart as I think they can be friends too.



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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 07:50 AM   4
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My sisters both had boys 1st and now have baby girls and they are completely different they both say that the boys were much calmer as babies than the girls!
My friends have just had another boy and he is a lot different in nature to their 1st!

I agree with the ladies above, I also do not have any children yet but I know a lot of people that do and not one has had 2 with the same temperaments! I think they all are different depending on their characters

Good luck with it all x



 
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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 14:47 PM   5
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I'm in a very similar situation LOL.

Isla was very hard work and very demanding as a little baby and I wondered at the time 'How could a cope with a toddler and this baby as well?! How do people do it?!' But as she's got old she has got -a lot- easier to look after and once they hit 2 and a half to 3 they can play on their own a lot more and are less demanding of time.

OH was always reluctant to have any more and it's only in the last month or so, now she's almost 2, that he's saying that another wouldn't be so bad.

There is a vast difference between what Isla was like at 15 months at what she's like now, so give hubby time and I'm sure he'll come round



 
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Old Feb 16th, 2011, 14:47 PM   6
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I'm in a very similar situation LOL.

Isla was very hard work and very demanding as a little baby and I wondered at the time 'How could a cope with a toddler and this baby as well?! How do people do it?!' But as she's got old she has got -a lot- easier to look after and once they hit 2 and a half to 3 they can play on their own a lot more and are less demanding of time.

OH was always reluctant to have any more and it's only in the last month or so, now she's almost 2, that he's saying that another wouldn't be so bad.

There is a vast difference between what Isla was like at 15 months at what she's like now, so give hubby time and I'm sure he'll come round



 
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