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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 00:33 AM   1
nightkd
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Oh my gawd, what is wrong with me!?


One day I'm super broody, the next I'm cacking my pants thinking about looking after another baby... I was thinking today and decided that I may even want to wait until Evey is 3 or 4...and right now I'm thinking 'I miss the newborn days, maybe we should TTC NOW!!'

DH has pretty much thrown the ball into my court, at least for the most part. He said we would TTC now if he knew I would be 100% happy (had depression with Evey)... I'm thinking changing my mind from day to day makes it NOT the right time!!

I can't help but want to start NTNP right now though...what will be will be and all

Just wish I could make up my damn mind!



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 03:19 AM   2
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Hey!!!!! How have you been? I remember you from the Tri's.

I know how you feel, i'm planning on coming off the pill when my LO is 1 but the closer we get the more i think can i really cope with the whole being pregnant again especially as i got really bad sickness, but i guess that just comes with the package! My DH would try now if i said i was ready



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 05:41 AM   3
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I know how you feel hun, I've been broody almost since the day I had Summer and we know we want a close age gap so we set out ttc date as 1st May when she'll be 10 months old.

I have days when I'm so excited I want to just start trying now, then it'll change to being absolutely terrified and thinking how will I cope with another. From what others say I think it's a completely normal thing to feel that way. It's daunting to think about looking after one baby let alone being able to split your attention between 2! Somehow our instincts kick in and we do cope.

Maybe have a word with your doctor beforehand to discuss the depression you had and explain you would like to try again and is there anything they can suggest etc.

Good luck!

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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 06:32 AM   4
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I feel scared too and my LO is almost 20 months old! A toddler and a newborn!! Eek!



 
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Old Feb 18th, 2011, 13:52 PM   5
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Yeah like you say the fact that you keep changing your mind makes me think you're not ready yet! I'm scared of being pg again which is why we're waiting until Charlie is nearly at school x



 
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Old Feb 18th, 2011, 15:06 PM   6
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Your definatly not alone!
i always get broody and my friend has a 16 month old and a 1 month old baby! when i see him and hold him it makes me even worse lol! i miss being pregnant i think i loved my bump when carrying mason but some days i think why am i wanting to TTC middle this year will i be able to do it and all that stuff but i can't TTC now so it does give me a big gap just for the fact i dont want another baby around january and feb its really hectic with familys birthdays and masons too! but still id love to be pregnant right now lol!

Good luck if you do try
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Old Feb 19th, 2011, 05:16 AM   7
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My son was born 30th June 2010 so our LOs are around the same age. I definatly know how you feel. 1 day i think i can't wait to have another and am so broody and the next I think i could never possibly handle another because Nathan is such hard work!!!!

DH wants to wait which is probably best since i keep going back and fourth. If he left the decision up to me, I'm sure i would be pregnant by now and probably worried sick about how i was going to cope.



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Old Feb 19th, 2011, 12:30 PM   8
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Maybe with NTNP its up to nature to take its course



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 14:47 PM   9
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ooooh yes, i completly get how you feel. the more I think about it the more I flit between the two. surely EVERYONE is intimidated by the thought of a toddler and a newborn so this is natural?

i thinkk the thing with already having one baby is that you know what you're in for. its easy to say you want a 1.5 year age gap between your children before you've even had one but when the first comes along, it makes everything more real iykwim

I am broody, I do want another child, i can wait for my LO to be a big sister but my practical side starts kicking in when i'm running around after my LO as shes just got into mischief and i'm trying to cook her dinner/do a million other things and i think "errr how on earth do i do this with a newborn?!"

one day i want to be pregnant NOW, the next I think no way hehehe



 
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Old Feb 23rd, 2011, 15:19 PM   10
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Hey Heidi, I'm good thanks, how are you?

Thanks for the replies!

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My son was born 30th June 2010 so our LOs are around the same age. I definatly know how you feel. 1 day i think i can't wait to have another and am so broody and the next I think i could never possibly handle another because Nathan is such hard work!!!!

DH wants to wait which is probably best since i keep going back and fourth. If he left the decision up to me, I'm sure i would be pregnant by now and probably worried sick about how i was going to cope.
Totally the same here

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Maybe with NTNP its up to nature to take its course
That's what I've really really been considering..but then I think about how I'd react if we do get pregnant from that (probably SUPER excited tbh...) then I start thinking about how I was during pregnancy (the sickness and just wanting to lay around doing nothing...and how E is just getting more and more demanding for my attention and active..!) and then think how will I cope with E when there's a baby around. It would certainly be much more handy to have her old enough to help out more (it doesn't help that I can't really gauge what stage she will be at when she is 18 months-2 years-2.5 years etc) but then again I want them to be close enough that they can really play with the same stuff/be at similar stages.

Blargh!

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ooooh yes, i completly get how you feel. the more I think about it the more I flit between the two. surely EVERYONE is intimidated by the thought of a toddler and a newborn so this is natural?

i thinkk the thing with already having one baby is that you know what you're in for. its easy to say you want a 1.5 year age gap between your children before you've even had one but when the first comes along, it makes everything more real iykwim

I am broody, I do want another child, i can wait for my LO to be a big sister but my practical side starts kicking in when i'm running around after my LO as shes just got into mischief and i'm trying to cook her dinner/do a million other things and i think "errr how on earth do i do this with a newborn?!"

one day i want to be pregnant NOW, the next I think no way hehehe
This is another thing I was thinking of....I really think I could cope with the newborn (much much much much much better than I did with Evey) and then when the new baby is at the 'demanding' age like Evey is (she just started REALLY wanting interaction all the time, separation anxiety is kicking in etc) Evey will be around to entertain her and they will provide another 'outlet' for each other. It's just E... She's SO whiny and demanding at the moment, bedtime is a hassle some nights & a breeze others...she goes to bed at 9pm earliest most of the time, otherwise she screams because she doesn't want to lay down (even when she's SUPER tired). She's just hit an awkward stage and it's tough WITHOUT another baby around/sleepless nights again etc... Of course she will be out of this stage by the time a baby arrives (and into another ) but it just puts me off, iykwim?

I'm also worried about money. We still have hospital bills (just got another $5000 bill through the mail ) and I'd rather get them paid off before having another baby (hopefully won't end up in hospital again with the next one (was supposed to be a homebirth, which was planned to cost $2300...so we paid that AND hospital bills, grr) though)... It's not a necessity, but nicer to be able to save up money to buy nice baby things, than have to worry about these huge bills AND saving up for baby stuff. Stoopid money. I'm budgeting to get on top of that again. TBH I think I just need to make a nice, neat, organized list of what we should do (though there's nothing we NEED to do ) before TTC (or NTNP ) and how we will do it.

Sorry that turned into a brainstorm/ramble

I just wish I could drive because then Evey would be entertained easier (and I would ) and then we can get out of the house, particularly handy when number 2 arrives....so I don't go totally crazy!



 
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