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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 03:01 AM   1
blueeyedgirl1
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MC to TTC to WTT - life's unfair


Hello all,

Seems like I've frequented just about every area of these forums now.

I was pregnant last year but lost our baby in December. Spent January WTT until first AF showed. Started TTC from late January but haven't ovulated and it seems my cycle's just stalled.

I'm now facing great uncertainties at work with regards to contract extension, redeployment or unemployment and OH and I have decided we've got to put TTC on hold until my job situation sorts itself out.

Our previous pregnancy would have worked out really well for me, work-wise as I would have started maternity leave the day before my contract was due to end and I had already confirmed they would pay my entire entitled maternity pay/leave in that case. But now it's too late. If I get pregnant now, I won't be anywhere near the point of starting ML when my contract ends.

So it's a waiting game. I'm pushing & pushing for a contract extension, and am bugging HR about getting the paperwork done for possible redeployment to another role. But redeployment isn't guaranteed and I could see myself out of a job come July 1st.

I hate this waiting game. Life can be so unfair.

Thanks to anyone who's made it through my rant without moving on!



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 05:50 AM   2
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Firstly I'm so sorry for your loss hun.

And secondly I'm really sorry that there's so much uncertainty surrounding your ttc date and your work situation. I know wtt is hard enough without knowing that day it turns to ttc! Vent here anytime you feel the need to.

I really hope HR offer you the extension you want and you don't have to put your plans on hold.

Sending you big hugs

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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 06:02 AM   3
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Hi Blueeyedgirl1. I'm really sorry for your loss - you're having a really tough time just now.

I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you but I think you're wise to wait and see how your job situation pans out - I'll keep my fingers crossed that its resolved over the next couple of weeks either way. To you a few months probably feels like an eternity but the benefit of waiting mean some kind of certaintly and a lot less stress while pregnant.

Really hope you ovulate soon too.

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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 09:17 AM   4
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Sorry about all this. DH and I had to go WTT within the last few months because of medical concerns. It really tore into me. In the end I concluded that our time will come but that's better said than done. Recently I've been very frustrated with it all. We start next month again, but there are so many things that have made me sad in the waiting process. So I understand.

I wish you the best honey. And who knows, you guys may get to try again before expected. That's what I'm hoping for! Keep your head up!

Good luck!



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 09:43 AM   5
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Thanks everyone, your messages mean a lot!

I'm not good at being patient, that's my problem. Lots of things going on in my life right now are requiring patience: we're buying a house but suddenly it's turned from being no chain to three people in the chain and we have to wait for them, this whole job thing which could take until June to sort out, and even just waiting for my cycles to start sorting themselves out again!

I guess at least now I know I can take certain supplements (like EPO) to try to regulate my cycles again without potentially harming a baby. I'll give it a few more weeks, then see my doc and start taking stuff.

At the moment, I'd love to just go to sleep and wake up at the end of June when hopefully everything will be sorted out!



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 09:47 AM   6
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lol I am the same way. You see my "feeling" Tag. It tells it all. I don't know why I'm like this. lol smh



 
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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 10:59 AM   7
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Patience is such hard work! Lol!

I know how you feel about the whole buying a house thing, our house is on the Market at the moment and we had an offer etc so we found a place we wanted and it was all systems go until our buyers pulled out and we're back to square one. I'm terrible, when I want something I want it now!

I hope things fall nicely into place for you in every aspect!

X

Oh and I noticed you're in Bristol. That's where my oh is from and where we lived for 5 years before moving where we are now (about 20 minutes or so from Bristol!)



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Old Feb 17th, 2011, 12:54 PM   8
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I am sorry for your loss and that you are having a tough time with WTT.

I got pregnant right after I got married and at my 12 week scan found out I had had a MMC and I was devastated. We tried again and I had another MMC and I was left a total mess. We waited a while because I just could not face trying again for a bit but then when we got pregnant for the third time it worked out and my son was born last May. The reason I am sharing this with you is because I feel so differently now DS is here, he is the right baby at the right time and I am so happy to have him, I love him more than I can articulate. So once you have your LO in your arms in the future I swear that you will feel like it is the right baby at the right moment in time.



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