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Old Feb 19th, 2011, 16:10 PM   1
KittyMcKeen
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Does being scared mean not being ready?


This is the question I've been dying to ask other people! My fiance and I haven't been together that long but the topic of marriage and babies came up very very quickly. Before we got together I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend for 3 years. She had no intention of having children, so it was agreed that if we stayed together there would be no kids and I would have to be okay with that. At the time I was fine with that because I had never pictured myself with kids, never really liked them and (being an only child) was absolutely clueless about what to do with these tiny humans! But boy has that changed!

I am now more broody than I ever imagined I could be and my fiance is even worse than me! The problem I have is that I am absolutely terrified of the whole thing. Not just pregnancy, which has always freaked me out! But because I have never been around kids I am constantly worried that I'm going to be utterly hopeless and a terrible mum. I am a broody woman missing the maternal gene!

My OH is typically brilliant and tells me I'm being silly and that I'll be an amazing mummy but I kind of feel that he HAS to say that I really want to come off the pill in a few months and NTNP but every time I think about it I feel so panicky. OH being perfectly calm is almost making it worse!

So I guess the point I'm eventually getting to is- am I completely normal? Do loads of women feel this way when thinking about doing this? Or does being scared mean that, even though I really want this, I'm no where near ready?

...and I'm done!



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Old Feb 19th, 2011, 18:18 PM   2
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I was scared s***less until the moment she was born, I wouldn't worry xx



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 01:55 AM   3
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i think feeling scared shows you care about your future baby, its completely normal to worry and that maternal gene will show its face when you see your baby



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 04:20 AM   4
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I don't think being scared mean's your not ready. I feel ready to be a parent but it doesn't stop me worrying about it.



 
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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 04:52 AM   5
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im totally ready to have a baby but my husband and i are still really scared of the thought of looking after a baby on our own etc
but as a woman your body prepares you to look after the baby, so as soon as baby is born your hormones kick in and you should just know what to do. its the natural thing x
if both of you want a baby then thats all the matters, youll get through it x



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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 06:30 AM   6
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Thank you so much everyone. My fiancÚ and I spoke about it last night and it turns out he just didn't want to tell me that he worries too! But he was right when he said that getting responses from others in my situation would make me feel better.



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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 08:01 AM   7
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It's natural to be scared. I'm scared too. Having a baby is a huge life step and not something to be taken lightly. I keep thinking how would the pregnancy be like. Will I be sick the whole time and then will I be able to manage the baby etc. I think your fears are very natural.



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Old Feb 20th, 2011, 10:42 AM   8
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I asked this same question afew months back and as everyone said above its completely natural its a huge experience and life changing x



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 05:15 AM   9
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It is totally normal I think, I only got more scared when I was pregnant. But when I look at DS all I can think of is how mazing he is and how much I love him so I have no idea why I was scared. Now I am scared that a second would not be as great as my son.



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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 05:57 AM   10
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Completely normal! I was even more scared when i got my positive test! But i have a beautiful nine month old baby boy, and i wouldnt change it for the world x



 
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