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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 13:04 PM   1
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How do I get out of this rut? Long


Did you ever feel like you were just stuck? I know the right things to do but can't seem to sum up the energy to get started.
OK a bit about me. I'll write a little bit in case some of you haven't read my other threads.
Anyway here goes. I'm married to a wonderful man called Dan. I'm 38 years old. I have lots of health problems. I'm about 60 pounds overweight. My prolactin is too high due to me having been on ssri for the last year and a half and because of this I haven't had a period since last April. I have an underactive thyroid, suffer from Irritable Bowel syndrome and have OCD and panic disorder. I'm a disaster. Now I told my shrink that I want to get pregnant so he is weening me off my ocds meds so that's good. I've been given tablets to take for the prolactin problem and still haven't started them because I'm afraid they will make my IBS worse. I don't eat a lot but eat unhealthy and have joined the gym but don't go. The problem is I have absolutely no energy at all.
I think all in all I'm probably depressed and that's why I can't motivate myself. The weird thing is we never had wished for a child before and now it's all I can think about but I feel we were never be able to TTC because I can't pull myself together and get out of my rut.
I would love some advice about how other people have maybe pulled themselves together and gotten out of their rut. I think I would be a good Mom given the chance. If my biggest wish is to have a child then why can't I motivate myself. I'd appreciate some advice from people. Thanks



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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 13:31 PM   2
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I think you need to do 1 thing at a time! You have so much going on you probably feel a bit overwhelmed. I think if you eat a littler healthier (notall the time but a couple of days a week) you will probably feel a little bit better. then maybe start going to the gym, again ease it in say twice a week? Is that doable for you? I just htink that if you feel a bit better about yourself, and a little more in control of something you will feel better in other departments too. Little steps is the way to do it!



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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 13:34 PM   3
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Oh goodness sweetie, I'm SO terribly sorry to hear about your rut, I'm sure many of us can relate in one way or another to feeling completely unmotivated, hopeless and helpless, down and depressed, it's just the worst bundle of feelings ever! I personally hit my low before conceiving my son, I had several surgeries on my arm that left me partially disabled and my employer fired me because of it, I felt so depressed and like my life was spiraling down down down, and to top it off I found out that I have unexplained infertility and my dream of becoming a mom would be a lot more difficult than I once thought. I don't think I would have made it through all of this if I didn't have a wonderful family and the most amazing husband, it took awhile, but I realized that I cannot be in control of everything in my life, but I can control my happiness and although I might not be in perfect health, I am alive and still have SO much living left to do! I know it's not much, but my advice is to maybe try to focus on the things in your life that you are thankful for, I felt it helped me to write things down, make a short list of what makes me happiest :-) surround yourself with the one's you love and have faith that you will become a mom, there are so many medical options that help couples becomes families each and every day so there is help and there is absolutely hope!

It may sound corny, but I love this quote..."In the end, everything will be OK, if it's not OK, then you know it's not the end"

Hope you feel better soon!



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 14:07 PM   4
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aww huni, im really sorry about the situation your in, im not sure i can offer much advice, sometimes i get stuck in a rut with my uni work but the only thing that keeps me going is being able to see the end...im not sure this is much help to you though.

i agree with taking things one step at a time though, sometimes the smallest steps make the biggest difference x



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 14:17 PM   5
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chick i know how u feel i feel that way sometimes, i have gotten into a rut and really feel i need a change. I know that having a LO would get me out of that routine.....But that cant happen any time soon. As said above concentrate on one thing at a time, its so easy to get into a rut when there is so much going on at one time. Any idea on when u can TTC? x



 
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Old Feb 21st, 2011, 14:24 PM   6
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chick i know how u feel i feel that way sometimes, i have gotten into a rut and really feel i need a change. I know that having a LO would get me out of that routine.....But that cant happen any time soon. As said above concentrate on one thing at a time, its so easy to get into a rut when there is so much going on at one time. Any idea on when u can TTC? x
Well we were hoping for about May as I will hopefully be off the OCD meds which are antidepressants by then. They're the worst of the meds and would be the most dangerous for a baby but the weight loss is going very slow. My gynae was saying to try anyway and that I could loose all the weight after the baby but I also don't want to be a giant whale when pregnant.



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Old Feb 23rd, 2011, 13:44 PM   7
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Aww hun hope you feel more hopeful soon! I too feel stuck in a rut & have lack of drive & motivation. I was made redundant after working full time since leaving school 8 years ago & have not been able to find work. I get so depressed being stuck in all the time worrying about bills etc, but im a great believer in positive thinking goes a long way! I have my off days but i try to concentrate on all the things in life that i am thankful for. I also go for walks somedays even just to the shop thats half a mile away for milk, the freshair & walk does make you feel a bit betta. Definatley agree with the other girls though, little steps at a time. Im doing this myself! Good Luck hun x



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