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Old Feb 23rd, 2011, 18:19 PM   1
Hs1987
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Extreamly broody


I'm 24 and don't have any children and have been sooo broody for about 6months or so. It is getting worse by the day. I feel most days I could jus sit and cry it is getting me so down. It is all I can think about and even dream about most nights. When I c someone pregnant or with a baby I just feel a sudden ache in my stomach and just want 2 burst into tears. It doesn't help that most of my friends have young children. I'm beginning to feel like I'm going crazy. Iv been with my other half for 2 years he has told me that he doesn't want to start trying for another 3 years and thats the end of the conversation. My heart just sinks when he tells me this. I don't no what else to do. Has anyone else felt this way or offer any advice?



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Old Feb 23rd, 2011, 18:40 PM   2
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didn't want to read and run, but i have many friends in the same situation and really don't know what to suggest some men are just not ready for "growing up" as such. :s xxx



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Old Feb 24th, 2011, 01:34 AM   3
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Aw im so sorry you're feeling so down about it, I know once that broodiness sets in it's not going anywhere. Men see it all so differently to us, they just see the massive changes to their lives etc and men hate change lol! You may find that as he gets older and more of your friends have children or your own lives change that he comes around to the idea of trying sooner than 3 years but unfortunately until he does there's no quick fix for your desire to want a baby.

You can however try to help distract yourself by perhaps setting yourself mini goals and targets of things to do and achieve before you start ttc. A lot of girls have posted similar threads about things to take their minds off wanting! Things like open a savings account and save x amount before you ttc, or get the right place to live in, or get the perfect job, or have a really great holiday, finish their degrees, get married or engaged etc. These are just an idea of some of the things I know others are using as countdowns. If you set yourself mini goals then before you know it the time will have passed, it'll be time to ttc plus you'll have got everything in place so your situation is as perfect as it could be!

Good luck with everything

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Old Feb 24th, 2011, 09:16 AM   4
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Aw im so sorry you're feeling so down about it, I know once that broodiness sets in it's not going anywhere. Men see it all so differently to us, they just see the massive changes to their lives etc and men hate change lol! You may find that as he gets older and more of your friends have children or your own lives change that he comes around to the idea of trying sooner than 3 years but unfortunately until he does there's no quick fix for your desire to want a baby.

You can however try to help distract yourself by perhaps setting yourself mini goals and targets of things to do and achieve before you start ttc. A lot of girls have posted similar threads about things to take their minds off wanting! Things like open a savings account and save x amount before you ttc, or get the right place to live in, or get the perfect job, or have a really great holiday, finish their degrees, get married or engaged etc. These are just an idea of some of the things I know others are using as countdowns. If you set yourself mini goals then before you know it the time will have passed, it'll be time to ttc plus you'll have got everything in place so your situation is as perfect as it could be!

Good luck with everything

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I totally agree with what MummytoSummer said, and this is what I'm doing! My goals are to get engaged and then get married before TTC, also to get some money saved for when LO is here! They're not cheap!



 
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Old Feb 24th, 2011, 10:40 AM   5
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Sorry to hear you're so down. I know how it feels. I've no great advice except maybe trying to talk your OH into having a baby. Maybe get one of your friends to bring around a young baby when he is at home and let him see how great kiddies are. Maybe that will spur him on a bit.



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Old Feb 24th, 2011, 12:47 PM   6
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i feel totally the same way i have no idea how long i have to wait, it could be 3 months or like u 3 years, OH says hes not ready too. But im the same as u, cry alot over it cant really offer advice but if u need to chat pm me x



 
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Old Feb 25th, 2011, 04:09 AM   7
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Thanks for all your posts. It's nice to no I'm not alone. Was beginning to feel like I'd lost the plot. Just wish my OH could see things from my side. It doest so much matter to him because he already has a child from his previous relationship. thanks for the offer of the chat odd socks. That would be lovely I'm new to the site though so not worked out how to pm yet. So if you could pm me or tell me how to do it that would be great. X



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Old Feb 25th, 2011, 10:50 AM   8
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Thanks for all your posts. It's nice to no I'm not alone. Was beginning to feel like I'd lost the plot. Just wish my OH could see things from my side. It doest so much matter to him because he already has a child from his previous relationship. thanks for the offer of the chat odd socks. That would be lovely I'm new to the site though so not worked out how to pm yet. So if you could pm me or tell me how to do it that would be great. X

Its top right hand of the screen, i tried to send u message but it says u have choosen not to recieve private messages x



 
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Old Feb 25th, 2011, 12:25 PM   9
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Sorry to hear about your broodiness. and three years? is there any possibility of negotiating?
I personally think as there are two people involved in the relationship and the decision it can't always fall down to just what the guy wants. You're ready now, he's ready in three years.. you have to be able to discuss it! I know personally to have him think that's the end all and be all of it would make me so angry, frustrated and sad.

It was hard to talk to my DH about it because I didn't want to pressure too much or bring it up to often or make him upset but I did honestly feel that my feelings needed to be considered too. That is how we did finally come up with a date to TTC. A compromise.
If I left it up to his "being ready" god only knows when he'd say "let's do this!"

I hope you can find a way to cope or convince him to think about it some more.



 
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Old Feb 25th, 2011, 12:53 PM   10
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Sorry you're feeling so down about it have a long chat with OH and maybe see if he'll compromise. Good luck



 
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