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Old Feb 25th, 2011, 20:19 PM   1
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I'm back

Well ladies, I'm back. It's not my DH, I have to have surgery to remove my gallbladder since it's only working at 16%! But just knowing it could *happen* took away my broodiness. Kinda like when you can't use the bathroom and suddenly you are desperate to go? LOL, it feels good not to feel baby crazy all the time. It's still there, just not yo-yoing me around if you know what I mean. I'd cry at the drop of a hat I was so emotional!

Update DH is up for a job, great benefits and making in a year what we make together currently. Fingers crossed hope he get's it.

I have a dilemma. I wasn't sure who to talk to, and I don't want to seem weak. I don't want to be judged or pressured by my family. It's not a regular B&B topic but..... I have found my long lost Dead beat biological father, and I'm not sure what to do with his info...I never expected this day would come. He's on Facebook... I went through a lot of stuff, I grew up poor and disadvantaged. My mom did what she could but we lived in a rural area. I did without a lot of basics b/c lack of jobs in the area, even tho my mom worked it was still very hard. I hated him for years, and his GF b/c she hated me since she had no children with him. I was at peace with it, that is until I typed in his name and there he was and I found his GF too. I'm not sure what to do, I'm confused. Oh lord, anyone know a site or forum for this? HELP!

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Old Feb 25th, 2011, 23:40 PM   2
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My FH actually grew up without his dad and mom both, His mom contacted him at 18 and then his friend found his dad on facebook and sent us his profile. FH didn't contact him but I did because I kept telling him "you guys look exactly the same!" and what do you know, it was his dad. It was awkward but I just did it. It's really up to you what to do though. It really helped to hear both sides of the story IMO because all his mom did was trash-talk his dad. His dad didn't even trash talk her and told us what really happened. It was actually really devastating for his dad and stepmom and his two stepbrothers when he WAS allowed to visit because his stepmom told me that his two little brothers would cry when he left, and etc. Did you ever meet him? FH met his dad before but he didn't remember it because he was so young.

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Old Feb 26th, 2011, 08:00 AM   3
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Jeepers that's a tough one. Nosiness would probably get the better of me and I would contact him. Maybe he has changed and is not the same man as before and maybe he deserves a chance. You can always still end the relationship if it doesn't work out. I believe in destiny and maybe you found him for a reason. Maybe now is the time to get in touch and heal your soul a bit. Good luck whatever you decide.

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