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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:02 PM   11
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aww your not a horrible sister, he isnt really at the age where he can understand why you arent near by. 5 hours is quite a long way away i dont know what to suggest TBH. I couldnt be far away from my family as im super close to them but i understand why u did it. It sounds like ur torn between ur head and ur heart and i would follow my heart if i was you, i think if u were pregnant u would want ur family close by? x
i just feel like ive left him (i know that sounds really silly but im really close to him) ye see this is a major thing for me...i know id want my mum around when im pregnant, i mean my OH's family are up here but we dont really get on well and i know they wont be as much of a support. im really close to my mum n we have like the best relationship in the world xx



 
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That's true. I will really miss not having any family nearby when I'm pregnant (if that ever happens)

MissKM what about your OH? Can he just move with you? Would he have to look for a new job too?
hes at uni to and is finishing at the same time as me, so with jobs we will both be looking for something new and stable come may. he doesnt mind moving, he says theres nothing really keeping him here and hes happy to do what ever i decided (bless him...hes really good to me) xx



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:07 PM   13
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That's true. I will really miss not having any family nearby when I'm pregnant (if that ever happens)

MissKM what about your OH? Can he just move with you? Would he have to look for a new job too?
hes at uni to and is finishing at the same time as me, so with jobs we will both be looking for something new and stable come may. he doesnt mind moving, he says theres nothing really keeping him here and hes happy to do what ever i decided (bless him...hes really good to me) xx
Aw that's great to have such a lovely OH. Why don't you just let the job search make up your mind. See where you both find the better jobs and decide to stay there. You would probably have more opportunities in London though but then you would have to wait to have your LO. I suppose see how broody you are and let that help you make up your mind.



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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:16 PM   14
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that a good idea actually, i keep thinking ill have more opportunities in london... but i suppose i wont know until i get offered a job in either place.

i get super broody but my OH def wants to wait a while anyway (im hoping for the end half of 2012) im 20 so i know i have some time sort myself out before i have kids, i have a few years to waste if i want to but sometimes (well alot of the time) i just dont want to wait or waste anytime...im sure you will probably be able to relate to that xx



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:23 PM   15
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I used to live in Essex and where I was living was getting rough and my husband got made redundant and we moved down to Cornwall to be with my in laws......we now live in Devon and although we dont have as much money or see our family as often (my family) I feel it is the best thing I ever done as looking back I feel it is a safer environment to bring the children up in as I live in middle of nowhere! Is there a difference in the 2 areas you are talking about ? Is there more crime in say one area than the other? I would say go to the area you feel it will be safer to bring a child up in....just talking from personal experience......my neighbours go out all day and leave there front doors open here........I dont but then theyve lived here all their life lol



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:30 PM   16
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I used to live in Essex and where I was living was getting rough and my husband got made redundant and we moved down to Cornwall to be with my in laws......we now live in Devon and although we dont have as much money or see our family as often (my family) I feel it is the best thing I ever done as looking back I feel it is a safer environment to bring the children up in as I live in middle of nowhere! Is there a difference in the 2 areas you are talking about ? Is there more crime in say one area than the other? I would say go to the area you feel it will be safer to bring a child up in....just talking from personal experience......my neighbours go out all day and leave there front doors open here........I dont but then theyve lived here all their life lol
aww it sounds lovely where you live. that sounds like such a lovely place for bringing up LO's.

london isnt bad for bringing up children, but im middlesbrough now which i would rate as any better to be honest. i would imagine they are about as safe as each other i mean both have their good and bad areas, so id have to be picky about the area i was in when it came to actually having my LO.

the good thing about being up here is the beach and the countryside are all close by, but i would say i could probably get better schooling for a LO in london... sooo confused!!
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:33 PM   17
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that a good idea actually, i keep thinking ill have more opportunities in london... but i suppose i wont know until i get offered a job in either place.

i get super broody but my OH def wants to wait a while anyway (im hoping for the end half of 2012) im 20 so i know i have some time sort myself out before i have kids, i have a few years to waste if i want to but sometimes (well alot of the time) i just dont want to wait or waste anytime...im sure you will probably be able to relate to that xx
You're lucky you are so young and have lots of time. I'm 38 and I can really feel the ole biological clock ticking. It's so weird I never really thought about kids and now all of a sudden I'm obsessed.



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i think its cause ive always grown up around kids, my mums a foster carer so i think thats played a part in me wanting a family. when i was younger though i always swore id never have kids young, i wanted to do loads of things first, then i met my OH and ive never been as broody as i have been the past year or so xx



 
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i think its cause ive always grown up around kids, my mums a foster carer so i think thats played a part in me wanting a family. when i was younger though i always swore id never have kids young, i wanted to do loads of things first, then i met my OH and ive never been as broody as i have been the past year or so xx
Sometimes it just takes the right man to make us feel broody. I even feel jealous when I see people walking by with prams etc.



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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 13:52 PM   20
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MissKM......I can tell you now that the job prospects are better where you are than where I am! that is the thing that worries me as I have a 15 year old and worry about what he will do when he leaves school. Its all farming around here. On the other hand my 6 year old only has 10 in his class!



 
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