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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:32 PM   1
MissKM
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Advice needed please!! long


hiya ladies...i really really need some opinions off of you all cause im beginning to get myself in a right state about it all

heres a bit about my situation.
im originally from london and i moved to go to uni nearly three years ago now. im settled with my OH and we are WTT at the moment for several reasons this predicament being a major waiting issue.

now im finishing uni in may i desperately cant decide what to do, i dont know whether to go back to london or stay where i am. i mean i miss london badly (particularly my mum n lil bro) but i actually feel i have settled here now.

heres my options:

1) stay up here: where i have some great friends (who ill miss like crazy if i leave), the rent is cheap for a massive family home, but there is less job opportunities and my family are very far away

2) go back to london: where my mum and little brother are (who i desperately miss), where there are better job opportunities, but smaller houses and higher rent prices which ultimately means ill have to put off having a LO for a lot longer.

my OH has said he is happy with whatever i decide cause he can see the advantages of both.

please girlies...id be so grateful for any advice, or just to hear what you think you would do in my situation. i just really need someone outside to help, cause everyone else is emotionally involved in me and OH moving.

thanks for reading xxx



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:36 PM   2
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hmmm that is a tough one i think only u and ur OH can decide that one, is there nowhere in the middle you could move to? x



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:50 PM   3
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not really...ive been thinking about that but it just doesnt seem to solve the problem. im beginning to make myself ill with worrying about making the right decision xx



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:50 PM   4
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I think I would stay put after all you are settled and you will be able to TTC sooner then if you move. How far away from London is it?
You still have your friends where you are now and make visits with the family really worthwhile and special. You know what I find, I find if I live near my family I still don't see them very often but that's only me. Anyway my choice would be to stay put and plan lovely visits to London with the family so that you have something to look forward to. You will be able to have your LO sooner where you are now and rent a nicer house etc.



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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:52 PM   5
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aww chick dont make yourself poorly over it, is there no way you can see your family a little more if you stay put? x



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:54 PM   6
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its a 5 hour drive...see i think that quite a lot, then i phone home and my little brother (whos nearly 6) gets on the phone and tell me he misses me and wants me 2 come home, and it just breaks my heart, i feel like im missing out on all his growing up and being a terrible sister xx



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:55 PM   7
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aww chick dont make yourself poorly over it, is there no way you can see your family a little more if you stay put? x
im not sure cause with me being at uni i spend all my holidays there, but once ive left and got a full time job its going to be a lot harder to get time off to go down and see them xx



 
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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:56 PM   8
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its a 5 hour drive...see i think that quite a lot, then i phone home and my little brother (whos nearly 6) gets on the phone and tell me he misses me and wants me 2 come home, and it just breaks my heart, i feel like im missing out on all his growing up and being a terrible sister xx
You're not being a terrible sister. You don't have to be there all the time to be a good sister. Keeping in contact and paying the odd visit is good too. Keep contact on the phone and maybe sent little care packages. Just little things. That will make you feel good too.



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Old Feb 27th, 2011, 12:57 PM   9
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aww your not a horrible sister, he isnt really at the age where he can understand why you arent near by. 5 hours is quite a long way away i dont know what to suggest TBH. I couldnt be far away from my family as im super close to them but i understand why u did it. It sounds like ur torn between ur head and ur heart and i would follow my heart if i was you, i think if u were pregnant u would want ur family close by? x



 
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aww your not a horrible sister, he isnt really at the age where he can understand why you arent near by. 5 hours is quite a long way away i dont know what to suggest TBH. I couldnt be far away from my family as im super close to them but i understand why u did it. It sounds like ur torn between ur head and ur heart and i would follow my heart if i was you, i think if u were pregnant u would want ur family close by? x
That's true. I will really miss not having any family nearby when I'm pregnant (if that ever happens)

MissKM what about your OH? Can he just move with you? Would he have to look for a new job too?



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