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Old Mar 3rd, 2011, 12:54 PM   11
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I'm 21 (22 in October) and WTT.. probably for a long time, lol. But I've already got one LO, I live with my OH, etc... so I don't think it's any of their business, so I'm not going to talk about TTC with my parents or anything



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Old Mar 3rd, 2011, 17:28 PM   12
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Hiya Im 20 and my OH is 22 and we are waiting until October to ttc properly, just because I'm a full time student and I want to get a chunk of my last year out of the way before I try to conceive. I don't want to be doing my final essays and shows with a newborn in tow!!
My OH works full time, I work part time, we live together, both have a car etc so I dont think its anyones business when we decide to become a 'family' rather than just a 'couple'

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Old Mar 3rd, 2011, 19:59 PM   13
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I was 19 and my (boyfriend at the time) was 22 when we started TTC. Our "journey", if you will, was very fast!! First time was a charm and we became pregnant, only 3 months into our relationship. I gave birth at 20 and we married when our son was 7 months old. I am now 21 (22 in August) and my husband will be 24 in June. We will begin TTC for #2 this summer.

A lot of people frown on young parents, young marriage, and young family planning. I, however, say that when you know with all of your heart that you are ready to start a family, you should do so!! It shocks many when I tell them that not only was I TTC at age 19, but I was also only 3 months into a relationship when we agreed to start our family. Who are those people to judge though? It could have failed, backfired and made my life a living hell... but it didn't. Our son was the best decision we have ever made and I'd do it all over again!!

Given that you stated that you are both Christians, I say plan your wedding, and start your family!! Age is just a number!! Here's to wishing you the best of luck!!



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2011, 20:12 PM   14
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I know I'm a little older than the other girls who responded but I am 23 and my OH is 22. We got married in October 2010 and are WTT until this summer. I think that it's normal for your family to feel that way. My parents thought I was too young to get married (22), and I am not telling them that we are going to TTC because they will have a fit! I do think this is silly though, since my parents got married when mom was 20 and she had me at 22!



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 12:54 PM   15
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hiya, im 20 and OH is 23. we have been together two years and are WTT because at the minute we are both full time students in our final year and we also want to make a massive move to london before we TTC too.

i havent told my family im WTT, really just because i dont want the pressure of people knowing and asking if im pregnant yet. im not worried about what people will think of me or anything as like ilovemychild said, a lot of people judge young parents, but i strongly believe that as long as i can fully provide for my own child then no one can pass judgement.

if you can provide, have financial stability, are in a stable relationship etc. you dont have to prove anything xx



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 13:09 PM   16
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Both my OH and I are 19. None of our families know about us wanting children yet, and I assume they'd have the same reactions as yours. But I figure it's none of their business when you're ready you're ready



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 15:13 PM   17
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Hey all. I'm 20 (21 in Sept) my OH is 19 (20 in Aug). We have been together 2 years and 4 months. We are getting married in 5 months time in August. I am getting my coil removed in August as well so we can start TTC on our honeymoon We both work full time so feel finance is not a problem and we live in a big 2 bed (rented) house. I don't feel rented is a problem. Its stable as far as i am concerned. In this day and age a mortgage is just not an appropriate option at the minute. I've wanted to be a mommy since i don't know when and my oh has 'caught the bug' from me

Do what's best by you, your Oh and your future. Whatever makes you happy I am quite lucky as my mum was just the same as me when she was my age. She is currently building up a gorgous collection of fab childrens books for my baby so she can read to him/her and we arn't even TTC yet!!! xxx



 
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Old Mar 5th, 2011, 04:49 AM   18
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Hi, Im 20 and WTT. Im from Scotland and already have two kids.



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 10:35 AM   19
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Hi there!

I am 20 (21 in July) and my dh is turning 25 this month. We got married when I was 18 and plan on ttc in June 2012. My mum is ecstatic for us to have lo's, but his mum is the opposite. Always saying we are not ready, too young, etc. I agree with what most of the other girls have said in that it is YOUR life & you have to live it for you. If we go through life trying to please everyone else, we will never be truly happy ourselves. We're all in this together!



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 20:43 PM   20
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I'm 20 and I'm WTT now until I'm finished with my university and until I'm in a stable job. Like others have said, it's not really your mother's place to tell you when you are ready to have a baby. Only you and your OH know when the best time is and it sounds like you have already decided.

My pregnancy was a surprise so therefore my parents were supportive, if I were TTC I'm sure they would've been extremely disappointed. But at the end of the day, when you do have a baby - no one will think anything negatively about it, especially your parents.

I can understand you don't want to upset your mom, but it's your choice, not hers! She will come around with time!



 
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