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Old Mar 5th, 2011, 07:03 AM   11
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I wish we could TTC sooner, but I know I would really struggle. I had awful sickness with DD, if the same happened again I've no idea how I'd look after her!

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Old Mar 6th, 2011, 09:56 AM   12
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I think thats very normal. DH and I did the deed last night and right when he was ready to go, I told him to pull out. I know that we are "ready" for #2, but the thought of being pregnant and dealing with terrible 2's scares the crud out of me. I also worry if our relationship can handle a pregnancy right now, is it fair to our son, to do we have the money.. etc.

As of now, I've set the date of June to officially TTC, thats when my best friend will also start trying, but even then, scares me. Having a baby is a life altering thing, but its a beautiful thing. You can always make do!!

I think the thing I will miss the most, when I do get pregnant with #2, is how easy it is to pack Conner up and go somewhere. He walks to the car, or I carry him, I buckle him in his car seat and we go. 1 stroller, 1 cart,1 diaper bag, 1 baby. It's painless. I'll also miss our bonding time. He's been my world for the last 17 months, so throwing a new baby in will really "cramp" our style/schedule. It's also so easy at bedtime. 1 high chair, 1 dinner plate, 1 quick bath, 1 set of pj's, 1 diaper and one baby to cuddle. Then when he goes to bed, its "our alone time".

Adding another baby to the mix will be difficult, but its time. In my opinion, its best to TTC while we still have "baby stuff", while I'm still able/used to waking up for (though irregular, still sometimes existent) night wakings. I'm still changing diapers, though Conner should be potty trained (with any luck) by the time baby #2 arrives. I guess, overall, "baby zone" is still the theme in the house, so it makes sense to add our final baby now.

I think the worries will always be there, but you will know when its the right time. And if it happens at a less than ideal time, consider it a blessing and go with it. You will get used to the idea very quickly!!! Everything happens for a reason!!

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Old Mar 6th, 2011, 19:31 PM   13
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Every day I wish for my TTC to be closer but then when reality kicks in I realise its only six months away and I get all apprehensive and have a mini panic. But its all I want! I just want it to be perfect I suppose thats what Im scared of... xx

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Old Mar 6th, 2011, 22:12 PM   14
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I feel this way and I already have one! I just know how hard it is and I don't know how I'll cope with a toddler and a newborn. I think it's perfectly normal to have fears and a few reservations. It's the biggest thing you'll ever do in your life. Seriously nothing gets bigger than bringing a life into the world. It is the most amazing thing though.

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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 03:34 AM   15
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I'm getting really nervous sometimes when i think about TTC in may, but it's normal. I already have a kid and he wasn't planned. That was kind of scary, but everything turned out well
Good luck!

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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 04:10 AM   16
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I am scared and I have 2 beautiful girls already! I'm nervous about how it will affect my little family and I'm nervous about going through all the morning sickness again. Also worried about whether TTC number 3 is right for us. All completely natural I guess.

DP and I briefly discussed trying this month and I automatically got butterflies haha. The May date is definately back on now though.

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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 21:12 PM   17
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I am terrified. It is such a life changing thing and it is something I CAN NOT fail at. I am already 29 and just mc our first. Will be going back on bc very soon as I am just not ready to try again after all this. I want to have kids and can't imagine growing old and never knowing what it is like to have a child, but it still scares the hell out of me. Hubby is only 23, so he has plenty of time. Even though I am almost 30, I still feel like a kid. My biggest fear is to fail at being a mom.

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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 21:21 PM   18
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I'm scared too!! Although I feel like being a mum is what I was BORN to do, I still get nervous when thinking about how I will be as a mum myself. I just want to make sure that I give my babies every opportunity to live their life to the fullest & I hope that I always make them proud.

Thank GOD I am not the only one!
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 01:46 AM   19
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I definitley think it's a natural feeling to be scared and nervous about ttc and as others have said I think it's actually a good thing and shows you recognise what a life changing thing it is.

I wasn't as scared ttc my dd as I guess although I knew it'd be life changing and hard work I didn't have any experience and I don't think you ever realise exactly what a life changing thing it is til it's happened. But we'll be ttc number 2 in May and I'm terrified this time around, not only worrying about if I'll cope, will Summer lose out etc etc, but this time I'm worrying so much more about my pregnancy. I think I was so naive first time around and just assumed I'd have a healthy pregnancy and baby (thankfully I did), it wasn't until she was born I realised actually what a huge thing it is and all the things that can go wrong!

Definitley scared about ttc this time!


Old Mar 10th, 2011, 07:17 AM   20
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I am scared of TTC - I am scared about how long it could take, scared of not being able to hold onto my bean, scared of not being able to give it the best start in life

I think being pregnant is a big thing for women we are asking a lot of ourselves and our bodies, i know it is natural and our bodies are meant to do this but it is a lot of pressure as ultimately we are the only ones who have control over it all

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