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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 13:32 PM   1
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Will anyone be scared when it comes to TTC

I might be TTC sooner that I had thought which is spectacular but...

Does anyone else have a little voice telling them not to do it? lol. I sometimes think about all the pros and cons and wonder if it really is the 'right time'. I know that when I'm pregnant I will be over joyed but there will still be an element of fear about how I will cope, how my marriage will cope, how it will effect my career etc etc.

Is this normal? Should we just get on and do it and hope for the best? I know its a very personal decision but I sometimes think there will always be that (dare I say it)...doubt in my mind.

It's a 24/7 job! People seem to take such a relaxed approach to this decision. I'm desperate to be a mum so maybe I should just keep telling myself that.

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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 14:20 PM   2
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I've been through this too hun and, from what I've read in my short time on here, there are a lot of people feeling the same way.

It's a major life changing decision and it's natural to be scared about how ttc and a baby will change things and how you'll react to those changes. The fact that you're considering it so thoroughly shows that you're really taking it seriously and, I think, that can only be a good thing.

Plus, it's amazing how quickly you adapt to situations that are given to you. After agonising for years about whether to try and have a child, once I'd make the leap, my whole outlook and mindset has changed and I'm ready and looking forward to all the challenges and new experiences that this new phase of my life will bring. Now I just need that BFP.

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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 14:22 PM   3
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Its totally normal to feel this way, its going in to 'the unknown' and every thing being completely new to what your use to.
It's life changing having children and i wouldn't have my life any other way now

Once you have a little bubba growing inside you, your desire to be a mummy will take over

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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 15:06 PM   4
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i will be totally scared i think its natural that your scared its a huge thing to do and i know i will be puting alot of pressure on myself to fall pregnant

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Old Mar 4th, 2011, 15:11 PM   5
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I think about it alot. It is a big change, but I think the 9 months of being pregnant really gets you ready for it.

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Old Mar 5th, 2011, 04:13 AM   6
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I felt like this when ttc our LO. My friend said it showed Id make a good mum, as I wasnt going into it all 'glibly'.
Needless to say, despite those nagging concerns, Im so glad we have LO now. It is life changing, but you can still keep the good bits of your life that you treasure (for example I still see my close friends quite regularly), and the rest you find you just dont miss that much after a while And the new stuff that having a LO brings to your life is fab You'll be great xx

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Old Mar 5th, 2011, 04:28 AM   7
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Me! I want to have babies, and couldn't imagine not having them, and my husband is the same, but it's such a massive change that it's natural to be apprehensive.

My husband told me the other week that 'when you tell me you're pregnant the first thing I'm going to do is absolutely c**p myself, even though it'll be a good thing and we want it to happen'

I've worked my butt off to get to where I am in my career, and I have definite plans for the future, so to give it up or put it on hold will be very hard. I'm planning to go back to work full time (or as near as makes no difference) after maternity leave is over, and hubby will be part-time to look after baby. Unconventional, but it's what will work for us from a financial and emotional point of view.

I think what I'm trying to say is that if you want it to work, you will find ways of making it work even if those ways are not what is 'expected', so you will be able to manage the change in your lives to suit you. Does that even make any sense?!

Old Mar 5th, 2011, 04:57 AM   8
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Yes, me!!

I'm glad you posted this.. I was thinking I was the only one.

I desperatly want to TTC but I'm fully aware of how my life will change and sometimes thats scary!

Old Mar 5th, 2011, 06:02 AM   9
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Me! All the time. I hope it's natural!

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Old Mar 5th, 2011, 07:00 AM   10
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I think it's very normal to be a bit scared because after all it's a huge life changing thing having a child. I'm a bit scared too and wonder if I will be able to cope.

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