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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 06:20 AM   1
cliqmo
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Should we TTC or WTT? Advice please...


Hello Ladies

I wonder if you might be able to help me please?

My Husband and I found out last week that we lost our little bean ('missed miscarriage' at 7wks when we should have been 10wks ) then found out the following day that Hubby (who is Military) is going to Afghanistan for 6mths from April to October 2012 (it was an emotional week!)

My question is whether you think we should get on with TTC as soon as my body is back on course (hopefully in 4-6wks) knowing that our first child will only be a few months old when Hubby goes to Afghan, or whether we should now WTT until the due date will be after Hubby's return... so February 2012...

We conceived on 5th cycle of NTNP last time, so hope we should get our BFP fairly quickly this time too (especially if using OPKs etc)

Any advice / opinions / experience would be really appreciated, thanks x x



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 08:41 AM   2
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I think it depends on if your OH will be ok not sharing your pregnancy with you as to what you decided to do



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 12:36 PM   3
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^^ i'd say the same ^^ do u feel happy knowing you could be looking after a newborn by yourself? xx



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 12:44 PM   4
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Yes raising the child alone would not be a real issue for me (I have a very supportive family and friends network and I am quite accustomed to him going away) I am more concerned that he will miss out on vital bonding time with LO... does that make sense?



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 13:50 PM   5
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Honestly there is no "vital" bonding time with a baby, only for an adult. As sad as it is for us parents in the first few months baby's couldn't care who looks after them as long as their needs are met.



 
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Old Mar 7th, 2011, 20:40 PM   6
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It's ultimately up to you. If I were you I wouldn't because after going through pregnancy and going through having a newborn - it was really difficult at times dealing w/ it by myself. Even having family around didn't really fulfill FOB's role. But as I said, it's your and your OH's decision..



 
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