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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 04:57 AM   11
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I think it is personal choice!
I have not been christened or brought up in a religious background although my mother is baptised and my father is Christian, and I myself do not feel at all religious although I do believe in a lot of different things so my mind is very open I just seem to want to think about things too logically and some things just do not fit together in my mind for me to fully follow one way!
My OH is Christened his Father is Chatholic but does not go to Church but is still religious and his Mother goes to Church regularly
I am torn what to do as I do believe that they should be able to choose for themselves when they are older but at the same time I do not want my child to end up in limbo land (as it was put earlier) if something terrible should happen to them!

Like I said before I am somewhat confused on what path I follow as such I believe when I die I will just be gone in body but possibly my soul will be reincarnated or go on as such but if anything happened to my child I would want them to be accepted into Heaven! and I believe that my dog Lilly went to doggy heaven (called Rainbow Bridge) so somewhat confused


OK so a lot of rambling there but I have never spoken to anyone about any of this so was actually good to get it out there!



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 05:01 AM   12
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Twag I feel the same as you especially about the limbo bit. That's the catholic upbringing in me. We were raised to believe that all unbaptised babies are born with original sin and if they die before they are baptised they go to limbo. I think I might baptise my child myself at home. It's probably just nonsense and not really sure if the church still teaches about limbo. I must check it out. It's weird how my catholic upbringing still influences me even though I don't want it to.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 09:48 AM   13
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I find this a tough one. I was brought up a catholic with my mum a catholic, but my dad an atheist. I consider myself catholic, but perhaps not a strict one...I don't conform to all the catholic ways and I don't go to church every week. My other half is atheist. I would like to bring my children up as catholics, but without a lot of pressure. If they would decide to not follow catholicism when they're old enough to understand, I'd be fine with it. If they decide they want to follow another religion or no religion at all, that is their own choice. I do feel that instilling 'Christian values' is very important...but that doesn't have to be in the way of following a religion (if that makes sense).

As others have said...it is personal choice and I don't think there is a wrong choice if you are doing what you believe is best for your family and your child.

I personally haven't discussed with my OH how we will bring up our children wrt religion, which I know is bad!! At the end of the day I have in my mind what I want to do, but if he is SO against it when it comes down to it, I'd probably just step aside and let the child decide when they're old enough to...



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:03 AM   14
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The issue about unbaptised children being stuck in limbo is no longer taught by the Catholic Church. I was on a course recently and can't remember the exact words but unbaptised children will go to heaven.



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The issue about unbaptised children being stuck in limbo is no longer taught by the Catholic Church. I was on a course recently and can't remember the exact words but unbaptised children will go to heaven.
That answers that question then. Thanks so much.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:08 AM   16
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No probs. I will look up the exact wording of what they said when I have time.



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:14 AM   17
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No probs. I will look up the exact wording of what they said when I have time.
That would be great. Thanks so much.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:15 AM   18
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I live in Northern Ireland, so this is actually quite a big issue for us, especially since DH and I come from different sides of the "religious divide" (really hate that term!!) With us it also affects what schools etc any kids would go to when they're older.

I'm a Catholic, and would be much more religious than DH (that's not saying much) and I would like my kids baptised and brought up Catholic. I know, however, that DH would like them at least to go to a protestant school, so that might be the compromise.

I was going to say, however, that limbo is NOT taught in the Catholic church anymore (but Billiboi got there before me ). I know from personal experience as my mum went through a MC and (being the most Catholic person in the world - seriously the pope has nothing on my mum) was devastated when she thought the baby would be in limbo. She spoke to the priest about it and he confirmed this was no longer part of church doctrine.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:31 AM   19
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The issue about unbaptised children being stuck in limbo is no longer taught by the Catholic Church. I was on a course recently and can't remember the exact words but unbaptised children will go to heaven.
Thank you that is good to know as it is always something that has worried me although I am not really religious as I said before



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 12:33 PM   20
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Well, my dh and I haven't really talked about it either, but this is because we aren't exactly sure what we are yet....? We were both raised in Church of Christ, but there are certain things that I do not agree with. My dh and I have talked about going to different churches to see which one we felt we fit into and believed the same things. Therefore, we just don't know what we're going to do yet?



 
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