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Old Mar 8th, 2011, 17:07 PM   1
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The religion dilemma


Ok just wanted to get some opinions here.
My husband was raised Evangelist and I was raised Catholic.
My husband is now and Atheist and I still believe in God but also in some non mainstream beliefs like reincarnation etc. I would no longer consider myself Catholic as such.
Anyway is it best to give your child no religion and let them decide for themselves when they are old enough or do you think it is important that they have some sort of religious upbringing.
I always remember the priest telling us when we were in school that if were every babysitting for a new born and the child should become ill to remember to baptise it otherwise it would end up in limbo.
This has kind of stuck with me through the years and for some reason I would feel bad not baptising our baby (when we have one).
Any advice here guys?



 
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Old Mar 8th, 2011, 17:12 PM   2
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it really is a matter of preference, my oh is an atheist and I'm a humanist which is very similar, we'll be bringing up lo with no religion, and we would do this even if were religious so to speak, I personally think that belief is something you learn and grow into not something you are born into, being tied/taken into a certain direction takes away some of this freedom



 
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Old Mar 8th, 2011, 17:16 PM   3
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I am agnostic and apathetic, lol, and my OH is catholic. Since I am not passionate about it, I will allow him to do his catholic things with the baby (baptism etc).



 
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Old Mar 8th, 2011, 17:16 PM   4
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I am bringing my child up withno religion, but if she were to come to me at 10 or even 50 yrs old and say they'd like to be baptised/christened I would do it. I am officially C of E, but have no beliefs, and my dh has never been christened.



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Old Mar 8th, 2011, 21:25 PM   5
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I was raised Catholic, and my OH was baptized in the orthodox church but is an Atheist. We agree that there won't be religion in our home. I will be bucking with my family big time on this one. Even my 'not religious' cousin caved and baptized his kids, even put the oldest in Sunday school to get his first communion!

I would rather raise them with free will, and if they choose to believe later in life then great, they've got all the doors open for them. I'd rather that than raise them half heartedly in something I don't believe in.

I'm a believer in 'something more' but not clearly in any direction. And OH is very Atheist. So I figure if we bring up the kids morally and respectfully we'll be doing a lot better than some 'religious' people I know.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 00:07 AM   6
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OH & I were both raised Catholic and involved in the church. I was an altar server, OH was part of Heralds of the Gospel. With the exception of 1 uncle/aunt/their kids for each of us.. we are 100% Catholic families. Went to Catholic school, the whole bit. For us, it was a no brainer that we'd get our daughter baptized and teach her about our faith.

I won't be upset if she decides she'd rather be something else when she grows up with a couple of exceptions. Obviously I believe in Jesus Christ and God, so it would hurt me if she was atheist, agnostic, or not Christian.. but I'd get over it, as long as she's happy and a good person.



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 02:08 AM   7
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My husband and I are both C of E and for us it was an easy decision to have our lo baptised.

I totally understand why some parents choose to let their children decide for themselves though later in life. If my children decided as they got older they wanted to change religion I would never try to stop them, just make sure they were certain.

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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 03:22 AM   8
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Totally a personal decision. In my opinion a very simple decision - if you and/or your husband believe and want to teach your child about those beliefs then have them christened and be involved. But if you don't or maybe you believe in something but your not sure what and don't go to church then don't have them christened. Having a child christened is a big decision and should be taken very seriously by parents.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 04:31 AM   9
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i agree that it is all about personal choice.
my parents where both not religeous, however my grandparents where. they made the choice to show me and my brother the grandparents religeon and then after that it was our choice.
so i attended sunday school a few times to learn about it, but on a day to day basis it wasnt discussed. my bro chose not to continue but i continued to go to certain things.
as a child i liked the sunday school because it was fun, and there were lots of other kids who i wouldnt have known other wise.
i was not chrisened though.

i think when i have kids i will do the same, show them, and teach them some of the different beliefs so they dont feel left out, and can make their own choices.



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 04:53 AM   10
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Thanks for all the input guys. I think we will probably go along the way of letting them get old enough to decide themselves but I will teach them about God because I really believe in God.



 
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