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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 04:16 AM   1
immimx
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how do you cope with the long waits?


hi, i just wanted to direct this question to people on here who have already been waiting a long time e.g a year or two! how did you cope?

i have been really broody since this time last year, and now i feel i cannot wait another year!!!

i need some advice on how to put my mind off it, because my will power doesnt seem strong enough sometimes!

thanks x



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 05:05 AM   2
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Well I had to wait 1 more year than I would have wanted as I had an EMCS with 1st LO.
The time has gone by with watching her grow and become a toddler. Now am counting down the months till June till we TTC but it feels like the days are going slower ha
Trying to fill the time with learning things I have always wanted to learn - knitting, baking etc. Am also hoping to learn to drive soon so that will hopefully keep me occupied



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 06:07 AM   3
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im just finding ut really difficult at the moment, even though im busy with uni and house hunting!!
i keep dreaming that soon ill just forget about it for a while, but i really dont think that will happen!
i end up spending ages on here, and searching the web for various baby related things



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 08:03 AM   4
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I didn't cope at all! I have been feeling broody for number 3 for the past 18months+ but had to hold off because I was learning to drive. I didn't want to fall pregnant before passing because I knew I would give up and I would have wasted soo much money. Plus I didn't want to have to resit my theory! Thankfully I have passed and I am getting closer and closer to my TTc date. Despite being close now, I feel more impatient that before because I have nothing else to occupy my mind.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 12:43 PM   5
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well ive been waiting over a year now and i have no idea how much longer i have to wait, at a guess id say a good year yet i honestly dont think i can wait that long, im struggling with all the waiting now as it is



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 14:59 PM   6
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well ive been waiting over a year now and i have no idea how much longer i have to wait, at a guess id say a good year yet i honestly dont think i can wait that long, im struggling with all the waiting now as it is
hey yeah ive seen a few of your threads your just waiting for your OH arnt you. that must be a nightmare!

im waiting for mine too, but also a load of other things... grr!

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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 01:01 AM   7
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Keeping busy and getting ready!

I am WTT indefinitely.. for at least a year.. probably 3 or more.. I don't know!

Finishing college up, working, working on our house, and I have a 2 year old. Just enjoying the life I have at the moment.



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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 03:38 AM   8
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It's really hard isn't it... I've been waiting for about 3 years...and I'm not sure how long I'm going to have to wait yet as we don't have a TTC date- but given recent conversations it's looking like at least a year, maybe 2. I find it so consuming- I'm 32 so worry about my age, esp as I want 2-3 kids. PH is 35 later this year too. Our reasong for waiting is for OH. There's not real obvious reason- we're financially secure, have a house with a big garden, we've 2 cats...but guess you have to wait until you're both ready.

I also find it particularly hard as I'm in a job I hate, waiting to make a go of my business which I love....but I ideally would wait until I've had my first child to take the step so that I can benefit from the good maternity pay I'd get in my current job.

At the moment the thoughts take over my mind all day, and I'm afraid I don't have any coping mechanisms for it...I need them myself! Although I must say it's been really helpful having this place to come and chat to other people who are going through similar things...



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 18:28 PM   9
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i know it's easier said than done but i find if i have a "project" to concentrate on it helps keep my mind off the broodiness a bit. doesn't always work - like when a colleague brings in her gorgeous new baby in to work for a cuddle! But on the whole if i have something to keep me occupied i cope a lot better



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 20:41 PM   10
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I think its a state of mind that you need to get your brain out of. It is hard when having a baby is all you can think about but if you focus on the positives then you can learn to control your broody feelings. Try make the waiting into something fun and a positive experience. Focus your efforts on being a good person, spending time with your loved ones, getting ahead at work and not moping about wtt!



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