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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 11:20 AM   1
Apollo
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How do you NOT tell people?????


Me again...
Sorry, full of questions at the moment!

I might sound incredibly stupid here but...

Do you tell people that you are trying (or about to try)?
Im so excited about the whole thing and I just want to tell everyone but I get the feeling that that isnt the way to go about it....

The next one of course is how on EARTH do you manage to keep your lips sealed for the first 3 months?!? Honestly, I wanted to tell everyone when I thought I was pregnant and my period was late.
I dont know how people do it.........
Husband is adament that I must not say anything when the time comes......ooeeerrr



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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 11:23 AM   2
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If you want to tell people go for it and tell them it is whatever you are happy with if you want people to know your trying for a baby then let the world know

All of our friends and family know we are WTT until I have finished my exams so they know as soon as I have passed them we will be TTC, I am hoping we will be able to keep the first 3 months secret but I am kinda going to want to tell people close to us as I will be so excited



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 11:26 AM   3
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I'm like you. I want to tell everyone. I have told my parents that we will be trying later this year and my sister and they are all very supporting and giving advice etc. I also told some friends. I think there is nothing wrong with telling people. It's an exciting time.
Regarding actually being pregnant I know I won't be able to keep my mouth shut for the first three months. I will just have to at least tell my mom and dad and my sister. I will be looking for plenty of encouragement and tips about morning sickness etc. I think people have this thing about not telling in the first three months because of the chance that a miscarriage would happen but I mean the miscarriage is going to happen whether you tell people or not. Anyway I'm just saying I know I won't be able to keep my mouth shut.



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 11:29 AM   4
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I'm like you. I want to tell everyone. I have told my parents that we will be trying later this year and my sister and they are all very supporting and giving advice etc. I also told some friends. I think there is nothing wrong with telling people. It's an exciting time.
Regarding actually being pregnant I know I won't be able to keep my mouth shut for the first three months. I will just have to at least tell my mom and dad and my sister. I will be looking for plenty of encouragement and tips about morning sickness etc. I think people have this thing about not telling in the first three months because of the chance that a miscarriage would happen but I mean the miscarriage is going to happen whether you tell people or not. Anyway I'm just saying I know I won't be able to keep my mouth shut.
I know what you mean about the not telling people until after 1st tri due to poss mc but I would need the support of my family and close friends if we had a mc



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 11:31 AM   5
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Thanks so much!
Im so glad its not just me!! I was starting to think I was wierd or something

I think I will have to tell at least a couple of close friends and the parents....I never have been any good at secrets!!



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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 11:53 AM   6
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i only plan to tell my close family that we are trying, otherwise i think there would be too much pressure put on me and get the are you? question every 5 minutes



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 12:09 PM   7
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hi apollo

When are you thinking of TTC? Me and my DH are starting the end of may.....the waiting is killing me

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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 12:10 PM   8
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That's where I find this board to be useful. I can go on and on about TTC and WTT without giving away the secret/surprise to my family. It lets me talk about all the things I want to say. I also started a journal that I write in now and again.
And with the lovely ladies here there is no pressure of family and friends looking at you every month wondering if it's happened yet.

I'm really looking forward to going. Surprise! We're going to have a baby! so that helps me keep my mouth shut... though it's tough I almost started gabbing to my sisters a couple times.



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 12:18 PM   9
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Oh my gosh....when we weren't allowed to TTC (doctor's orders) I'd tell anyone who listened, that although we really wanted to start a family we weren't allowed to.

And now that my Endocrinologist has said that we can start trying I've found suddenly I don't want folks to know our WTT/TTC business...I guess, just in case it doesn't work out, given my age and a few other factors that are still against us.

In fact the only people I've told are a bunch of complete strangers...ie you lot, on here...I've not even told my mother, and I tell her*everything*!



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2011, 14:00 PM   10
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I had told a couple of friends when we were TTC, but generally no. It was quite nice to get advice from others, especially after a few months. Some sensible words were needed sometimes! I told the same friends and close family almost straight away. I guessed if anything happened and bambino didn't make it - we might have needed some support from these people. Next time though - I'm not gonna say anything. I quite like the idea of having a secret between me and hubby! Also my mam rang me every day, and I don't want that next time!



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