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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 03:30 AM   11
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I had my son at the beginning of my second year of uni and he came to lectures with me in a sling for the first few months before going to a nursery.
Most Uni's would not allow that though, aside from the distraction to other students they do not have the insurance for it so no one under 18 should be in a class room. Apparently, some people brought kids in when they were sick/off school at our Uni.



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 03:36 AM   12
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Ah, I wouldn't have distrubed others though, he was asleep, if he had woken up I'd of discreetly left lol. But as I advised the lady with it being her final year, she could take a year off and defer. Then baby would be 1 and a bit when she returned and could go to nursery x



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 04:02 AM   13
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I was thinking more about how cute a newborn is, lol.



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 04:08 AM   14
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hahaha, most people didn't notice at first cos he was hiding in his sling. It was like, whats that bag you've got on your front, oh my god its a baby lol x



 
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I'm at university now in my final year. I study politics with economics.

I definitley can relate to how you feel. Me and OH have been together nearly 3 and a half years now and we moved in together a year and a half ago. We are both studying actually

I got sooo horribly broody last year. I came off the pill and we were using rythym method/withdrawal (still are) and I convinved myself about 4 times that I could be pregnant because I wanted it so much went through about 25test :haha Would get very emotional about the fact that I really REALLY wanted to start a family.

I am still waiting now but I am very glad I did, final year is so much work and because I am trying to find a graduate job too it makes everything so much more stressful. I'd say finish your degree first, then you will have it forever. Even if you dont go on to train to practive in law you can use a law degree to get a job in so many other fields.

My dad always told me to do a Law degree, but all the years you have to put in and the hours to become qualified I felt would prevent me from having the family life I wanted so it is a difficult one. And without soundig patronising you are both still so young! I am nearly 21 now OH is 22 next month, but I was 19 when the broodiness set in. It definitley gets bad when you move in together I think because starting a family is a natural progression. But I definitley think you should enjoy your time at uni first, I have done so much in the last year and a half that I couldn't have done if I had baby, just little things, but they make a lot of difference. I have had 3 different jobs which hefp my CV, I have been on my first skiing holiday, been to Paris, OH went to Kenya for a month and had a internship working at a good company.

I sound like one of those people who says enjoy being young and free for a while but I am trying not to, for me it is overrated and family is everything, but at 19, I think getting your degree first is the best move. After that you will be set up properly for whatever decision you choose to make.

When I have bad broody days I also tell myself, what will I have to look forward too if I start a family so young? Sometimes works for me!



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 15:55 PM   16
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If you were earlier in your degree, I would say go for it. I had my son at the beginning of my second year of uni and he came to lectures with me in a sling for the first few months before going to a nursery. However like others have said third year is a hell of a lot of work, and being pregnant or having a baby during that work is going to be very difficult.

You wouldn't get kicked out of uni cos it's none of their business, but they do advise against it - when I met with my uni to tell them I was pregnant they didn't think pregnancy itself was a strain, but did give me special consideration in my end of year exams. They said had it of been my final year that the baby was born though they would have advised me to defer a year til baby was 1 and then do it. Would you be prepared to do that at all? you said give birth after your second year - why npot defer final year for a year. they are very understanding if you want to. I did my final year with a 1 year old and a 3 year old AND I was a single parent. I found it fine. couldn't have done final year with a newborn though.

On the finance side of thing I was very well off compared to my fellow students, because of grants and childcare help available as well as my normal loan x

I would definately have a year out after second year, depending on when the baby was born. But I don't think for one second I could handle my third year with a newborn, no matter how much support you get. I have heard stories that unis can be very hard to deal with about such matters, and make things harder for you. But I guess you will never know this until it actually happens.

I have spoken to my family about it, as we are starting to get serious about it all and they all say its the wrong time, but when is the right time, how do they know what is the right time for me? And will I ever know when is the right time.

What course did you study? As I do know law is a lot more demanding than some other courses which is my only real worry, not being able to cope with the workload becasue that would get be stressed even more becasue I know I am very capable.

ARGHHH stressed out, too many paths to take and options to consider.



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:21 PM   17
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I'd definately say that final year is so much harder than any other year. First year is generally easy too as they want everyone to settle in and our marks didn't even count towards our final classification, so maybe don't take this year into consideration.

A girl in our year had her baby in September and came back in October to start third year of four, she managed to do really well but needed huge support from her family and did find it hard.

I'm not saying don't do it, but if you understand the reality you'll be much better prepared. Also find out if, for example if you have your baby in February for example can you go back after Christmas the next year, or will it be the next Septemer, i.e, 18 months.

Here's hoping you find a solution that is perfect for you



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:47 PM   18
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In all honesty third year almost killed me, but I had a lot going on and my dad's death (in first year) really started to hit me (he would have been turning 50 and I was realising he wouldn't be at my graduation).

There is a difference in workload between first and second year, the difference between second a third is massive. There's also increased pressure that I felt the minute I walked into my first lecture. I also struggled because I was away from home (in Liverpool) and really needed my family around me, obviously your situation is different. I think it would be very difficult to come back, after taking time out, to third year with it being such a hard year.

I studied Criminology and Sociology, I have no idea how Law compares, but I don't imagine the workload would be any less.

If you want to go for it then do, it's your life and only you know what's best for you, and as has been said, people manage all the time. Good luck deciding!

(Sorry, I've probably been rubbish and not helpful)



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:58 PM   19
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That is what is so hard, everyone has personal opinion on how hard something is so I weill never know how hard third year is until I get there, with or without a child, first year is quite easy tbh but I know it will get harder just how much.

It also makes it so hard when you do hear about people getting on fine and then others not getting on very well, or some not even wanting to go back... I don't think I would find it hard to be motivated becasue at the end of the day going to uni would be for the baby, to get a better chance and give it a better upbringing. So all those late nights studying would be worth it, if I could support my child at the end of it all....

Guess its somthing no-one has the right answer to, just peronal opinion and experience. Lets hope the choice I make is the right one.

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p.s anyone who is/has studied law and got pregnant in the UK I would muchly appriciate contact please



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If you were earlier in your degree, I would say go for it. I had my son at the beginning of my second year of uni and he came to lectures with me in a sling for the first few months before going to a nursery. However like others have said third year is a hell of a lot of work, and being pregnant or having a baby during that work is going to be very difficult.

You wouldn't get kicked out of uni cos it's none of their business, but they do advise against it - when I met with my uni to tell them I was pregnant they didn't think pregnancy itself was a strain, but did give me special consideration in my end of year exams. They said had it of been my final year that the baby was born though they would have advised me to defer a year til baby was 1 and then do it. Would you be prepared to do that at all? you said give birth after your second year - why npot defer final year for a year. they are very understanding if you want to. I did my final year with a 1 year old and a 3 year old AND I was a single parent. I found it fine. couldn't have done final year with a newborn though.

On the finance side of thing I was very well off compared to my fellow students, because of grants and childcare help available as well as my normal loan x

I would definately have a year out after second year, depending on when the baby was born. But I don't think for one second I could handle my third year with a newborn, no matter how much support you get. I have heard stories that unis can be very hard to deal with about such matters, and make things harder for you. But I guess you will never know this until it actually happens.

I have spoken to my family about it, as we are starting to get serious about it all and they all say its the wrong time, but when is the right time, how do they know what is the right time for me? And will I ever know when is the right time.

What course did you study? As I do know law is a lot more demanding than some other courses which is my only real worry, not being able to cope with the workload becasue that would get be stressed even more becasue I know I am very capable.

ARGHHH stressed out, too many paths to take and options to consider.
Law is very demanding hun - I studied a few law modules as part of my degree (forensic psychology and criminal justice) and they were the hardest I think, purely cos of the amount of memory devoted to it. Remembering so many different cases and examples for everything.

Like I say though being in third year and having children, to me, wasn't really a big deal, but I imagine having a newborn and being in third year would. The workload wasn't too bad, I foudn there to be slightly less lectures in third year. Instead of just going in for lectures, I used childcare for other times of the day too, and did my work in the library at uni. I found, apart from some reading, that weekends and most evenings were my own to play with kids, wind down and get sleep in. Being organised is the key cos all night cramming before finals isn't possible. I was so organised with notes and revision all year long that I managed to stay on top of it and not need them. I got a 2:1 in the end. I worked hard but sensibly.

I didn't find pregnancy while at uni a problem though. a lot of sitting down and very sympathetic lecturers was helpful. But as a mature student who already had one child, they were already in a lenient frame of mind with me. I sat by doors so I didn't disturb anyone if I needed loo or anything. and again did as much work as poss in the daytimes, so could get early ngihts in to combat the tiredness. If you aimed for a sept baby say, you'd have the summer off for the later part of pregnancy, and then a whole year off with baby before goign back for year three when baby was turning one.

It's soemthing onyl you will know is right though hun. and soemthing only you will know if you want to go for. I had a good experience with it. Others may not have. It may be worth talkign to your uni first and finding out what their policies and views are with this as well. x



 
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