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Old Mar 11th, 2011, 21:41 PM   1
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Is it just me or do you all get sad and feel like you may never get the opportunity to have your baby? My hubby has every excuse in the world right now although he says he wants children. At times I wonder if I'll ever get pregnant and b/c of how our situation looks right now it makes me very sad.



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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 01:47 AM   2
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Having a baby is a huge decision to make. Your hubby may just be scared. Have you tried asking him why he isn't ready and trying to help reassure him? x



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 06:21 AM   3
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You're right.
And I realize that it's a huge committment. I've asked him why a bunch of times and the reasons change every time I've asked and they all just seem to be superficial. Like- he's afraid I'm going to be overweight afterwards that's been a recurring response then as of late it's been that he's afraid that I'll just be so enamored by the baby that I wont have any motivation to stay with him and I'll "let myself go" which will in turn cause friction among us and then we'll leave each other in a single parent home which is something we both are against. I mean the last response is a little more reasonable, but we can't go living our lives in fear. Ya know? If that's the case there's a lot of things we wouldn't do.



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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 08:49 AM   4
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I know the feeling... I'm waiting for OH to be ready and there doesn't seem to be a real reason why we don't just go for it... We're happy together, we have a house (small but big enough for a LO) with a big garden, live in a great area for kids, have good, stable jobs, don't have huge money worries... We're both in our early to mid thirties...so I don't see what the delay is?! But don't seem to be able to get a good reason from him, or a TTC date either...

Hope you can bring him round soon...



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 09:46 AM   5
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You're right.
And I realize that it's a huge committment. I've asked him why a bunch of times and the reasons change every time I've asked and they all just seem to be superficial. Like- he's afraid I'm going to be overweight afterwards that's been a recurring response then as of late it's been that he's afraid that I'll just be so enamored by the baby that I wont have any motivation to stay with him and I'll "let myself go" which will in turn cause friction among us and then we'll leave each other in a single parent home which is something we both are against. I mean the last response is a little more reasonable, but we can't go living our lives in fear. Ya know? If that's the case there's a lot of things we wouldn't do.
Tbh ... that to me sounds very selfish he's more bothered about what you look like than anything else I met my husband and I was a UK size 8 I am now a UK size 14. I have stretch marks from my pubic bone right up to my ribs, I have love handles the size of shopping baskets but he still loves me for who I am. Not everyone puts on weight/gets stretchmarks but so what if you do??

Sorry I went into a bit of a rant there but it peed me off that he thinks its all about you and your looks xx



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 11:10 AM   6
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i know EXACTLY how u are feeling Ive come to tell myself that im never going to be a mum or have a baby



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 14:21 PM   7
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Annipie - yeah it sounds like you guys are more than ready. Hopefully he'll realize that soon.

MissMummyMoo - I LOVE that you're angry at his response and feel just like I do. That makes me feel so much better... You just don't know

Odd_socks - right now I just have to live vicariously through my friends and pray that that gets me through. And imagine that I'm preggars before good ol' AF comes and squashes my dreams.



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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 15:53 PM   8
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Oh hun xx



 
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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 16:06 PM   9
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I know exactly how you feel! He comes up with the craziest excuses why we can't try for a baby yet! Although I can say that my looks has never been one of them...I think my DH is just scared of the unknown.



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Old Mar 12th, 2011, 16:25 PM   10
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It's amazing to me how many women go through this with their partners. I really thought I was all alone. I'm so blessed to have found thus forum. It's really helping me get through this. Thank you for sharing your stories and offering support.



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