Forum Rules


Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old Mar 25th, 2011, 11:27 AM   31
pennies
Pregnant (Expecting)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Scotland
Posts: 688
Tell me about it, I've been jealous for the last year, like pretty much every day, of my sister

First I was jealous as she got engaged last april, she hadn't even been with him a year and I'd been with OH for over 2 years.

Then I was jealous because she is getting married this august and still no sign of a proposal from my OH, it's now over 3 years

Then I was jealous because we spent a weekend away for her wedding fayre in october and she announced she's pregnant.

Now of course I'm jealouse because she's due at the beginning of May.

I'm jealous because she's getting married 3 months later.

And then she asks me 'when are you thinking of getting married?' Well that kind of depends on when OH proposes!!! She then says 'because we're thinking of having our second child in 2012 or 2013'

I'm so jealous and fed up that the last 2 years is about her, all the family ever talk about is her baby or wedding and then she has the cheek to tell me when to (or not as the case is) get married!

God that sounds terrible doesn't it?



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 25th, 2011, 14:06 PM   32
mastersdoggie
Mum (Mom)
Active BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 55
Quote:
Originally Posted by snowflakes120 View Post
This just hurt my feelings because we would be trying around that same time. I feel like I won't get "my time" and that if I fall preggers after her our family will think I did it because she was preggers. I am kinda nuts I guess. I don't know... I just feel I am her shadow for everything in life always.... I just feel jealous and for no reason really. It is just so hard sometime - my mom just fawns over her child and talks about him all the time - it hurts.
hun, you never know - you might get pregnant before she does. just because they are already ttc, can anyone say she will get preg immediately?

I became pregnant (bfp on may 14, 2010) and my hubby's sis-in-law became pregnant (bfp on jul 13, 2010) for the second time. their first baby's first birthday came a month after our wedding. we live in India and they in LA, they had come to India for our wedding and for their child's first birthday (in fact, we were forced to choose our wedding date close to the baby's birthday). it is completely frustrating because she and their child was getting all the attention during our wedding and also now.

I created a calendar with my LO's photos and i was asking my DH if he would want me to include his bro's new baby's photos in that. he said NO.

what i am trying to say is, even if people think you are her shadow or you are copying her or if she steals all your attention, for you and your DH, your pregnancy time and your LO will be your entire world. you will not even have the time to think of others. dont worry

good luck, be cheerful!!



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 27th, 2011, 14:43 PM   33
pinkanhopeful
Mum (Mom)
Active BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Nottingham , UK
Posts: 106
Snowflakes - I know what you mean, me and dh were going to TTC from the beginning of this year (I had my IDU removed in Jan) which we had discussed last year, then on boxing day my sister in law announces she is expecting (which annoyed me a bit cos his family are the type to say that we would only have a baby cos she has had one whcih isnt true) and now my brother's girlfriend has told us she is expecting too. I always feel like we are being over-shadowed by others in our family (I am happy for them but am saddened that we still have not conceived yet and that we had decided to do it this year yet they have no jumped ahead of us) My mum said it will be special in your own way when you have a baby but as you said being overshadowed is always disappointing and heartbreaking



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 27th, 2011, 19:46 PM   34
bartlettpear
Pregnant (Expecting)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: USA
Posts: 3,940
Quote:
Originally Posted by pennies View Post
Tell me about it, I've been jealous for the last year, like pretty much every day, of my sister

First I was jealous as she got engaged last april, she hadn't even been with him a year and I'd been with OH for over 2 years.

Then I was jealous because she is getting married this august and still no sign of a proposal from my OH, it's now over 3 years

Then I was jealous because we spent a weekend away for her wedding fayre in october and she announced she's pregnant.

Now of course I'm jealouse because she's due at the beginning of May.

I'm jealous because she's getting married 3 months later.

And then she asks me 'when are you thinking of getting married?' Well that kind of depends on when OH proposes!!! She then says 'because we're thinking of having our second child in 2012 or 2013'

I'm so jealous and fed up that the last 2 years is about her, all the family ever talk about is her baby or wedding and then she has the cheek to tell me when to (or not as the case is) get married!

God that sounds terrible doesn't it?
That is NOT horrible. That is how you feel and at least you can come here to vent. It is only horrible when you yell your feellings in the prego's face. that would probably be the worst thing to do.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 27th, 2011, 20:08 PM   35
lmnop
Pregnant (Expecting)
Active BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Mississippi, USA
Posts: 139
OMG! I've been wanting to vent about how I feel about _my_ sister. She's my little sister - three years younger, and she got married first (whatever, was devastated at the time, but I didn't even have a boyfriend so couldn't really complain) but then she tells me that she's planning on TTC this late summer/ early fall. We were planning to try in May but now we can't because of our insurance... have to wait until July. So now we will be trying at the same time. If she gets pregnant before I do I will distraught! For once I'd like to do something first again. I feel horrible for feeling so territorial, and I genuinely love my sister, and I know she loves me. I just really really want this to be "our" time.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 28th, 2011, 06:23 AM   36
Twag
Mum (Mom)
BnB Spammer Elite
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Hampshire, UK
Posts: 20,846
OK so I am the eldest of 4 and 30 (31 in 15 days) and I am jealous of all my siblings:

My sister who is 4 years younger than me got married before I did and has just had her 2nd LO little Aimee who is now 7 weeks old and her son who is 4
My other sister who is 6 years younger than me has 2 adorable children a boy-5 and a girl-11mths
My brother who is 8 years younger than me also got married before I did and have 2 daughters!

Now ok financially I am in a better position than all of them but I always felt and still do that I was the eldest and so therefore should have got married 1st and done the baby thing first and instead I have ended up doing them last and almost that makes me feel like I am a failure which is stupid but it is just the way I feel



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 28th, 2011, 06:44 AM   37
anniepie
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 9,226
I feel awful because I don't just feel jealous, I feel angry that it's not me...I'm really not an angry person at all (to the point it frustrates OH!), but this one just gets me... Of course I'm happy for all these people with their LOs or baby bumps, but can't help feeling it should have been me



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 28th, 2011, 07:18 AM   38
pennies
Pregnant (Expecting)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Scotland
Posts: 688
At least we're all jealous (and angry ) together!

I'm so glad we have B&B or I would be going mad!



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 28th, 2011, 07:21 AM   39
anniepie
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 9,226
I know pennies...although not sure it's really helping with my obsessing!!



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Mar 28th, 2011, 07:41 AM   40
pennies
Pregnant (Expecting)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Scotland
Posts: 688
No, me either. Makes me think about babies even more, and then I realise that it's not my turn yet and get jealous all over again

My sister has now been told to expect to have her baby early as she has high blood pressure, I'm excited to meet my neice but so jealous at the same time



 
Status: Offline
 
Reply



Bookmarks

Tags
feeling , hate , jealous

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



SEO by vBSEO