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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 09:42 AM   41
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OK so I am the eldest of 4 and 30 (31 in 15 days) and I am jealous of all my siblings:

My sister who is 4 years younger than me got married before I did and has just had her 2nd LO little Aimee who is now 7 weeks old and her son who is 4
My other sister who is 6 years younger than me has 2 adorable children a boy-5 and a girl-11mths
My brother who is 8 years younger than me also got married before I did and have 2 daughters!

Now ok financially I am in a better position than all of them but I always felt and still do that I was the eldest and so therefore should have got married 1st and done the baby thing first and instead I have ended up doing them last and almost that makes me feel like I am a failure which is stupid but it is just the way I feel

There's a rant around here somewhere about how my baby brother (7 yrs younger) and how he has a 2 year old and can't even take care of himself. It's frustrating and it makes me so mad and my OH just can't understand why I feel so slighted!!!



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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 11:05 AM   42
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Tell me about it, I've been jealous for the last year, like pretty much every day, of my sister

First I was jealous as she got engaged last april, she hadn't even been with him a year and I'd been with OH for over 2 years.

Then I was jealous because she is getting married this august and still no sign of a proposal from my OH, it's now over 3 years

Then I was jealous because we spent a weekend away for her wedding fayre in october and she announced she's pregnant.

Now of course I'm jealouse because she's due at the beginning of May.

I'm jealous because she's getting married 3 months later.

And then she asks me 'when are you thinking of getting married?' Well that kind of depends on when OH proposes!!! She then says 'because we're thinking of having our second child in 2012 or 2013'

I'm so jealous and fed up that the last 2 years is about her, all the family ever talk about is her baby or wedding and then she has the cheek to tell me when to (or not as the case is) get married!

God that sounds terrible doesn't it?
hi pennies, i am really sorry about what you are going through. yes it is really horrible but dont feel bad. good things happen to those who wait. you dont want to ruin your relationship with OH (feeling dissatisifed or upset or sad about not getting married just because your sister is asking you about it), right?

dont worry, when you get pregnant, you will be the subject of all conversations of everyone in the family and when your LO is born, he/she will be the little prince/princess everyone would want to hold and shower their affection upon. when you get something after a lot of waiting and praying, the love for it is much more than something which you get by chance.

dont let your sister decide when you need to get married. if she asks you again, be polite and tell her that you would get married at the right time and definitely she would be the first one to know about it and right now she should be more worried about her health and LO-related stuff. and you might want to give subtle hints to your OH about getting married (if he would not take it as nagging or get upset or angry about it). you can also note what your sister and BIL are doing about their LO when he/she is born and plan on those stuff (like "wow, that's a great idea" or "how dumb!! I would never do it that way" or "I will plan it better") - whatever.

good luck to you!! I hope your OH proposes to you soon and you get married like you want!! do let us know when it happens



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 11:09 AM   43
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if she asks you again, be polite and tell her that you would get married at the right time
sorry did not intend the "be polite" that youc are being impolite. wanted to say that you can tell her in a polite yet firm tone (so that she does not anything that hurts you) about what you feel about getting married.

apologies again



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 13:01 PM   44
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I can totally relate. I feel like all of my friends are pregnant and I've got baby fever bad!! I just try to remember that everything happens for a reason. When the time is right, I will be able to start trying for #2 and all of my friends can be jealous of me then!! Same goes for you!!

Hang in there girly, 6 weeks isn't long at all!!



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 21:30 PM   45
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I know pennies...although not sure it's really helping with my obsessing!!
No way, but as long as I stay in the WTTC boards I feel fine... its when I start venturing out, I need to just stay here AND stop reading sigs!



 
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