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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 10:10 AM   1
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feeling really upset and need to vent to someone- sorry guys!


A few weeks ago OH and I booked a holiday abroad for September- the first time we'll have been abroad for a few years, and we really need to get away. Last year we had a holiday in the UK, but ended up a disaster and we had to cut it short. It was really important to me, as it's giving me something to look forward to, and some quality time together- something we don't have much of at the moment...

OH is out working all day today, and his Dad just called. He said that OH had told them about the holiday thing and they've found a good deal so will probably take us up on the offer to join us!?!?!?!?! First I knew about it.... I'm really upset as I was expecting a nice romantic week away just the 2 of us. What's more, we've really splurged on a special hotel (something I'm normally really against) and I was hoping for a special week together. I was even hoping for perhaps a special question while we're there....

Of course I'll speak with OH when he gets back tonight, but I just needed to get it off my chest



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 10:26 AM   2
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Aw hun I'm sorry you're feeling so upset. I dont blame you though, I'd feel exactly the same.

Do you think your oh knew what a big deal this holiday was to you and that it meant so much for you to get quality time together? I know you said you're going to speak to him later once he's home and I think that's the best thing, I'd definitely be wanting to know why he's invited his parents along on your long awaited week away!

I really hope you sort it out and perhaps he can find a way to put his parents off. Maybe it was something he mentioned to them in conversation not really expecting them to take him up on his offer!

Let us know how you get on but in the meantime feel free to vent away on here!

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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 12:57 PM   3
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Thanks for the reply- made me feel a little better to have been able to share.

Of course there's always the possibility that his folks got the wrong end of the stick somehow...

I just feel really deflated by everything...I'm even starting to wonder if he can't bare the thought of being with me alone for a whole week! I know it's dumb cos he didn't need to book a hol at all, but can't stop my mind wandering... We don't seem to have any time to ourselves at the moment as we're always off working, and when we are together, we're just both knackard. Sorry if TMI, but we're not even intimate much these days... I know part of it is me, which has coincided with my BCP playing havoc with my body in general. But also it's him (to his own admission)- I'm scared he's going off me...perhaps that's why he won't commit to TTC date.

I'm just feeling so tired of feeling disappointed...



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:21 PM   4
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Oh huni, how awful, perhaps they did get the wrong idea, or he didn't know how much the holiday meant to you (though even if he didn't it's a bloody cheek asking them without discuccing it with you first lol). I'd have a chat with him and just say he needs to sort it out so the in laws don't come.
As for the rest of it, you are prob just feeling a bit low at the moment, so feeling a bit insecure. I'm sure he still fancies the pants off you and still wants to be with you completely.

Hope things get sorted out x



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:40 PM   5
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Thanks for the kind words, SpiderLady



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:43 PM   6
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aww thats awful, sorry ur so upset x



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 18:37 PM   7
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i would be so very irritated

hopefully he wont have realised that the holiday meant so much to you and he will be able to..in some nice way...tell his family that they are not actually invited!

and huni your OH is deff not going off you!! i think somewhere something has been misunderstood.... unless you just have kinda awful in laws (like me) who would do it just to p*** you off

let us know what happens hun, i hope it all turns out ok xx



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 03:11 AM   8
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Hey guys...thanks for all your words of support!

Seems there's been some misunderstanding somewhere along the line and OH hadn't invited them along for the ride... He's going to have a word with them and put them off without offending. I'm lucky in that I do get along with the 'in laws', but didn't really want to spend my one week away in so long with them!!

Feel bad- I really should have given OH more credit than to do something like that without discussing with me first. Bad Anna! Must learn to be more believing in him.

Now time to start looking forward to a great week away just the 2 of us. And what will be will be when we're there... (but fingers crossed for something sparkly )

Thanks guys- you're great



 
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I'm so pleased for you hun!

I had a feeling it would just be some sort of misunderstanding, it'd take a pretty lousy oh to do that otherwise.

As for him going off you, definitely not, he wouldn't be going away alone with you if he was. I'm sure he fancies you like crazy and just like any other bloke he's just scared stiff of the reality of ttc!

I will keep my fingers crossed that you get that something sparkly!

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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 07:50 AM   10
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Originally Posted by anniepie View Post
A few weeks ago OH and I booked a holiday abroad for September- the first time we'll have been abroad for a few years, and we really need to get away. Last year we had a holiday in the UK, but ended up a disaster and we had to cut it short. It was really important to me, as it's giving me something to look forward to, and some quality time together- something we don't have much of at the moment...

OH is out working all day today, and his Dad just called. He said that OH had told them about the holiday thing and they've found a good deal so will probably take us up on the offer to join us!?!?!?!?! First I knew about it.... I'm really upset as I was expecting a nice romantic week away just the 2 of us. What's more, we've really splurged on a special hotel (something I'm normally really against) and I was hoping for a special week together. I was even hoping for perhaps a special question while we're there....

Of course I'll speak with OH when he gets back tonight, but I just needed to
get it off my chest
I know exactlyhow you feel,my dh is really close to his folks and they just turn up without calling,while were eating,watching a fulm and even when weve had an early night,in the end i had to tell him i was feeling suffocated and wanted time alone,it took time but he did listen,i really hope your oh helps xxx



 
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