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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 11:59 AM   1
MissKM
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please someone give me strength!


hi ladies, sorry but i just really need to vent...
Ive just found out my OHs ex is pregnant, now this wouldnt bother most people but when i found out i couldnt do anything but cry...heres why

my oh already has a little girl to her which he isnt allowed to see...its a very long story but we battled through court for nearly 2 years and in the end my oh backed off cause his vicious ex was emotionally using his LO as a weapon... What kind of mother does this to their child...emotionally damages their daughter to hurt someone else... anyway while they were together after their 1st little one was born, his ex begged him for another baby, so she got pregnant again but only to decide that she didnt actually want another baby so she had an abortion, this broke my oh and absolutly discusts me. How can u plan another baby and then just decide you dont want it anymore??!! Its appauling...she made our life hell for nearly two years and i hate her more than ive ever hated someone before.

And now shes pregnant again!!! It makes me soooo angry, how is someone as vindictive and as evil as her even allowed to be graced with such beautiful gifts....especially when she plans a child and then changes her mind about it!!!!

And what makes me evn more angry is that shes is blessed with three opportunities and there arewomen who are waitin patiently for the time to come to ttc a LO, women who cant have children, women who have been waitin for years or who have had MC...who all deserve a little one, who would do anything for their child.

Why is life so unfair??? Why does someone who is literally doesnt deserve to be a mother get so many chances. Im just hurting so much...im waiting patiently so i have a nice house, a good degree, some money saved etc etc all the things im supposed to do while she doesnt even have a job.

Wow ive rambled on so much, sorry for the essay...i hope you have managed to get to the end of this, thanks for reading! xx



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 12:02 PM   2
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awww chick i totally agree there, i know some women who are like that, they dont want kids and get the opportuntity when they dont deserve to be graced with being a mother x



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 12:05 PM   3
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i just cant cope with all this anymore...shes such an evil person, ive never known anyone who would even consider putting someone through what she put us and her little girl through, its disgusting! x



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 12:07 PM   4
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i know what u mean is awful how some people feel that its fine to put there children/child through something like that, they really dont know how lucky they are to be a parent x



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 12:16 PM   5
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I'm so sorry to hear your story. It's really hard to see horrible and irresponsible people getting pregnant, especially with all the broody hormones around. She sounds like a nasty, bitter and miserable person. Just remember that your time will come soon.



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 13:52 PM   6
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I think it's completely natural for you to feel the way that you do. It's so sad when people take the things they have for granted when plenty of other people would do almost anything to be in their position. That's completely crazy that she wanted to try for and then later aborted that helpless baby. I hope your pain goes away and if it comes back just come talk to all of us. We're always here to listen.



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 14:10 PM   7
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aww when i hear stories like this, it just makes me sad for the kids. if it's any comfort, just think about how blessed YOUR babies will be by the life you are preparing & providing for them!



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 15:03 PM   8
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hey miss KM, its so true and i really really feel for you. atleast you know when you have a child with your man it will be right and you'll make the perfect family together. she lost her chance with that and will never be happy.

its sad to think of the poor little children in this... but your OH did the right thing by not letting his LO not be used by her mother like that.

i wish there was another option or way he could get a chance to see his LO.

sorry im not helping much, you can always PM me if you need to rant more about it

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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 15:12 PM   9
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thank you for all your kind words, sometime i think i over react...but i cant even find the words to describe how evil she is. i mean to want a child and to conceive and then change your mind and have an abortion (despite my OH begging her not to) just shows the type of person she is.

i cant stand it when people use children as weapons, its so cruel and children have feelings too.

i just dont understand why such a horrible person gets to have the beautiful gift of 3 opportunities to have children when some people have none

immimx thank you for saying we have done the right thing, my OH's family gave him a lot of hassle about the decision he made...it took a lot for him to do and it is still really hard for him xx



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:28 PM   10
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the way i see it, when the child is older he can always make himself available to her, and explain to her the truth. the mother may have control for the time being but not in the long run. xx



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