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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 15:31 PM   1
Demelza
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WTT Advice request: Career woman in new job in small company


Slightly worried, started new job in December. It's a new role for a small/medium sized company, at a senior level.
Really want to start trying but worried what work will think. Should I wait until they see that I'm good at my job and the new function is adding value before leaving for a baby?
It's a small company and they only just got the budget to take me on and I feel a bit bad and also want to leave for maternity on a good note so they are flexible when I return.

I would have thought about waiting for a year or so but I'm 33 and worried my clock is ticking and I actually am broody.... anyone else been through this?
Always been a career chaser and worked hard and feeling torn for feelings of wanting a baby (as does hubby) and not throwing away my hard work.
Am I being an idiot to think like that?



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 15:46 PM   2
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I understand your dilemma as I'm in a similar place. I'm qualifying as a nurse in December but am getting so broody that I just want to start trying now. However, I'm worried that if I get pregnant and take time off before I've been in my new post for at least 6 months it won't look good and could compromise my career.

Sorry I don't have any advice. All I can say is that I understand. I'm hoping that I'll get so broody that I'll get to the point where having a baby is so much more important than my career at this time...



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 15:55 PM   3
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Aw Hun I know it's a really tough choice to make. I guess you're the best one to know how your new employers may react. Is your job something they'd easily be able to bring in a temp to cover your maternity leave? If so then I'd say it's not as much of an issue. If however your role is more specialised then they might be a bit put out to have to try and replace you so soon.

I was made redundant from my job back in the summer of 2009 and we had planned to ttc, we nearly waited but decided to go ahead and ttc anyway. During the month we ttc i had an interview for a job and got offered it. The vetting process took 3 months and by the time I actually started my role I was already 3 and a half months pregnant. I was so nervous to tell my manager. But they were fantastic. So supportive. Im just coming upto the end of nearly a year of maternity leave and I'm going back to my old job part time. My role was pretty easy to find cover for.

My husband and I have always known we want a close age gap between our babies and so we plan on ttc number 2 in May when I'd have been back in work a month! I fell pregnant first try with Summer and if the same happens again by the time I go off work on leave again I'd have actually only physically been working in my role for 12 months and then I don't intend on returning at all afterwards. I'm sure that althoughthry won't say anything to me they'll be less than thrilled if I go off on leave again so soon but I'm not prepared to put my life plans on hold for an employer. There are always people who can do my job but I won't always be able to have kids. It's unfortunate that I was made redundant when I was and I wasn't able to be in myold company where I'd worked for a few years, but that's just the way things worked out.

I guess what I'm saying is that I personally wouldn't let a job stand in the way of my lifes plans. I was 27 when we conceived and I knew if I'd have waited until I was there a year etc id have been over 30 before we would be ttc our second.

Also guess you should bear in mind how long you needto be in your company to be entitled to their contractual maternity pay. I was only entitled to maternity allowance asi was already pregnant when I started my job. Even if I hadn't been I'd have needed to be there over year before I'd have been entitled to it.

Good luck with your decision and sorry I rambled on for so long!

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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:16 PM   4
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Have you checked out your companies maternity policy? I did this on my 1st dayin my new job! Lol! The day after I'd been there 6 months - end of my probabation we started TTC! It took 5 months, so I'd been there a year when I found out I was pg, and I'd been there 20 months by the time I went off on mat leave! I think 6 months is plenty time. Even if you fall pg straight away, you'll have another 7 months or so to work!



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 16:59 PM   5
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I understand your dilemma as I'm in a similar place. I'm qualifying as a nurse in December but am getting so broody that I just want to start trying now. However, I'm worried that if I get pregnant and take time off before I've been in my new post for at least 6 months it won't look good and could compromise my career.

Sorry I don't have any advice. All I can say is that I understand. I'm hoping that I'll get so broody that I'll get to the point where having a baby is so much more important than my career at this time...
Thank you so much for your reply, it's so bad that we (women) have to worry about this. I think it makes us all nervous in this climate as well when companies cutting back all the time. Good luck with your qualifications and I hope everything works out for you too x



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 17:09 PM   6
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Aw Hun I know it's a really tough choice to make. I guess you're the best one to know how your new employers may react. Is your job something they'd easily be able to bring in a temp to cover your maternity leave? If so then I'd say it's not as much of an issue. If however your role is more specialised then they might be a bit put out to have to try and replace you so soon.

I was made redundant from my job back in the summer of 2009 and we had planned to ttc, we nearly waited but decided to go ahead and ttc anyway. During the month we ttc i had an interview for a job and got offered it. The vetting process took 3 months and by the time I actually started my role I was already 3 and a half months pregnant. I was so nervous to tell my manager. But they were fantastic. So supportive. Im just coming upto the end of nearly a year of maternity leave and I'm going back to my old job part time. My role was pretty easy to find cover for.

My husband and I have always known we want a close age gap between our babies and so we plan on ttc number 2 in May when I'd have been back in work a month! I fell pregnant first try with Summer and if the same happens again by the time I go off work on leave again I'd have actually only physically been working in my role for 12 months and then I don't intend on returning at all afterwards. I'm sure that althoughthry won't say anything to me they'll be less than thrilled if I go off on leave again so soon but I'm not prepared to put my life plans on hold for an employer. There are always people who can do my job but I won't always be able to have kids. It's unfortunate that I was made redundant when I was and I wasn't able to be in myold company where I'd worked for a few years, but that's just the way things worked out.

I guess what I'm saying is that I personally wouldn't let a job stand in the way of my lifes plans. I was 27 when we conceived and I knew if I'd have waited until I was there a year etc id have been over 30 before we would be ttc our second.

Also guess you should bear in mind how long you needto be in your company to be entitled to their contractual maternity pay. I was only entitled to maternity allowance asi was already pregnant when I started my job. Even if I hadn't been I'd have needed to be there over year before I'd have been entitled to it.

Good luck with your decision and sorry I rambled on for so long!

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Thank you for your reply, it's good to hear that you had a positive experience. My company are really lovely and do seem to look after their people. I was made redundant from last company last October and we would have been trying this Jan but we waited until I could find another job.

They only pay stat mat pay so no financial benefit to waiting.
My job is specialist but like you say they can always get cover but only I can have my baby.

Assuming we conceive early on into trying I guess I will have been there for a year by that point, just hoping I can keep focussed and not get too much baby brain!

Reading your message has really helped, makes me realise it's probably not worth the risk of waiting as we'd love more than 1.
Thank you for taking the time to reply x



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 17:13 PM   7
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Have you checked out your companies maternity policy? I did this on my 1st dayin my new job! Lol! The day after I'd been there 6 months - end of my probabation we started TTC! It took 5 months, so I'd been there a year when I found out I was pg, and I'd been there 20 months by the time I went off on mat leave! I think 6 months is plenty time. Even if you fall pg straight away, you'll have another 7 months or so to work!
One more month of probation period- that's a really good point. Get signed off and then start trying, I've been assuming we'd get preggers straight away and of course we may not but like you say it'll be over a year by then.
Thanks for your reply, only joined the site today and so nice of you to reply.
Feeling better about it already knowing that I'm not alone in my thoughts x



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Old Mar 13th, 2011, 18:25 PM   8
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Hi hun,
I had this problem with my last baby, I had only been there 6 months when I found out I was pregnant but my boss was great! never had no problems, thing is I dont know how he will react this time round as when I came back from mat leave he asked me if I wanted anymore and I replied with no, thats it now! obviously we changed our mind and dont know how he will take that, but at the end of the day it is just a job - he can be grumpy with me for it but i'm not planning on going back to work after this one so I dont really care!! lol.

I think you should be fine but like the opther girls said - make sure your out of your probationary period first.



 
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Old Mar 15th, 2011, 01:59 AM   9
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I am also trying to get a new job and have this worry too. There was an article in thedaily mail yesterday about a woman that got sacked when on maternity leave and sued her employers and won!



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Old Mar 15th, 2011, 08:52 AM   10
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Ive always been career minded. Im an accountant and have done many exams. My plan was always to wait until i finished what i wanted to do however, ive finally made the decision to put a hold on my career and try for a baby..

When I joined the site someone said to me something that stuck in that work will always be there!!

Dont let work decide your plans for a family. If you want it go for it...

One thing I would say is that I thought you had to be working in a job for 1 year before any entitlement to SMP?

Good luck in your decision.. xxx



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