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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 06:29 AM   1
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Planning 2nd?


Hi this is my 1st post here, I have a little boy already who us 10 months old but we want a small age gap. I was thinking originally 3-3 1/2 yrs thinking it wud be good having toddler in school wen baby comes, but I changed my mind to a 2 1/2-3 yr gap to make it abit closer.

Ideally I'd like not to have to have a double buggy and for dc1 to be on way to been potty trained an in big bed etc, anything to make it easier having 2 really but still as close as can get iykwim.

anyway I was thinking about the time of yr to have baby, dc1 was born end of April, if I went for close to 2 1/2 yr gap I'd start trying at crimbo an be due end sept( 2 yr 5 month gap) or oct (2yr 6 month)

I just dont know if I would prefer a summer baby, I did think sept be nice good gap for birthdays, still ok ish weather, by time summer comes they be mobile etc, gud cus I can settle dc1 into school before I go bk work but it puts an extra school yr between them and I'm already finding it hard waiting! Lol think I'm just trying think of excuses try sooner!

But then I think would a summer birthday be nicer for them, thinking maybe June, but it's a few months shorter gap and birthdays bit closer together.

Argh! I suppose after all tha what I was wondering is what time of yr do you think is best to have a baby and what age gap?


Sorry for the essay! thanx :-)



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 07:19 AM   2
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Hiya and welcome to wtt hun!

I have an 8 and a half month old daughter, she was born on July 1st and I loved having a summer baby. I was also born in July too and I love it. We didn't plan having a summer baby though, it just kind of happened to work out that way.

We also want a very close age gap, ideally 2 under 2 so we will be trying for our second in May this year when my dd will be 10 months old. I fell pregnant on our first try last time so IF the same was to happen again we'd be looking at a February baby. To be honest if I could pick a month to have our next baby then I'd pick May or June to have another summer baby but the close age gap is more important to us than the time of year it's born. It might take us longer to conceive this time around anyway so who knows when we'll actually have one!

I won't be returning to work after our next baby so I don't need to worry about that etc and I'm not particularly worried about making sure Summer is potty trained etc (if she is then great), in a way I want to deal with 2 babies and I also want to have a double buggy as I know the one I want! Lol!

I guess you need to decide whether the age gap or time of year you have your next baby is more important. And also remember you canonly plan bothof those things to a certain extent as there's no knowing how long it will take to conceive!

Good luck though!

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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 07:36 AM   3
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thankyou :-) we were also lucky enough to fall preg 1st time trying too last time and I worry incase it takes longer or any probs this time. I thought maybe it could be easier potty training with me at home on mat leave! But I don't no with a baby aswell! I'll just have to give it some more thought, it's prob best f



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 07:42 AM   4
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Oops pressed send by mistake, anyway was going to say it's prob best financially and age gap wise or so my logical side is telling me to hold out to have a sept/ oct baby But I wud like a summer baby and I'm worried incase it takes a while dont want a baby to close to Christmas as mine is 1st Jan an it's crap! plus it's hard enough holding off at the moment but I no it's for the best for us to wait to have at least a 2 yr gap! although I did think I was preg last wk an got quite used to the idea of a 19 month gap lol

anyway like you said I need to think about it abit more and see if having a sluggish smaller gap would be ok for us



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 07:51 AM   5
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You're welcome hun and I'm sure you'll come to a decision that suits you!

I know what you mean though about sometimes just wanting to just ttc now, having a date in mind to ttc is great but sometimes it's just so tempting to bring it forward, i often think if we started ttc now we're not a million miles away from May so it'd be ok! But I know that we set May for a reason, mainly as I'm still on maternity leave and go back in April, but also as I had a c section and was told to wait 6 months (although it's been longer than that now which also makes it tempting to try now!)

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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 07:57 AM   6
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Hi and welcome to bnb I have a DD that is 13 months now and am thinking of having the same kind of age gap that you are thinking of (around 3 years) so we are thinking of starting to try from April next year so we will have another January baby. I am like you and don't want a double buggy and it would be ideal to have number 1 potty trained to save money and washing etc ( i use cloth nappies)

I sit most days though and wonder if this is the best idea though and wonder if we should bring TTC forward and have a slightly smaller age gap or wait even longer it is hard decisions.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do anyway



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 08:25 AM   7
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Age gaps are never simple or perfect I dont suppose and its not always a given when we'll conceive and give birth.
My eldest is July 2001, my youngest August 2006, so 5yrs 1mth gap. Its not a difficult gap at all but it did feel like starting all over again, and I got the jealousy factor of eldest going to school while I stayed home with baby. That was probably the hardest (plus by then I was a single mum as well)
Summer birthday's are tricky too, no-one comes to my youngest's parties because they are always of school holidays and sometimes people even forget they've been invited. Which is upsetting.

Anyway, I'm rambling. i guess the average gap is 2.5/3yrs and thats for good reason.

Good luck with whatever you decide, we're just blessed to be able to have the children we want.



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 14:55 PM   8
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well since reading a bit more through the forum, its obvious im not the only one! thanx, for your input, im off to look through the other threads :-)



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 17:10 PM   9
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Don't rule out a winter baby! My dd is Dec 24th, and it was fab! Come the summer she was 5/6 months old and we were able to go out and have lovely summer walks! I had a cracking tan last year! Lol! Also I had a c-section, and it was probably just as well we were 2 foot under snow as I wouuld have wanted to go out and probably do too much! So it was nice to be forced into doing nothing but getting to know my beautiful little girl. I was fine after 3 weeks though, just as the snow started to clear up!

My next one though I am hoping for anywhere between March & October! Purely because December is so expensive!



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 17:42 PM   10
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I loved having a winter baby too snuggling up in the warm and in the summer when I had longer between feeds I went on massive walks and had a lovely tan too



 
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