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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 14:24 PM   1
MissKM
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does your OH understand


hiya ladies,

i was wondering if any of you have trouble getting you OH to understand broodiness??

i was talking to my OH last night and he found it impossible to understand why i get so upset about having to wtt. nothing i said really explained it in a way he understood, cause all he said was: 'yes but we will have children, just not now, why do you find it so hard' he wasnt being horrible i just dont think he gets it

i ran out of ways to explain what its like to be broody and that i cant just stop wanting a baby. i went though explaining about being a mother and that its all i want and that im ready for a family etc etc.

does anyone have any tips on trying to get OH to understand what its like?

its not going to bring our ttc date closer but i think if he knew how i felt, then he just might understand why i get so upset sometimes xx



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 14:34 PM   2
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nope, my OH does not get it... not at all! and many of my girlfriends, who aren't WTT, don't get it either. I have given up hope on trying to get OH to understand though, I think they just can't understand because they don't have the same instincts.

Instead of trying to get him to feel what I feel, OH & I have come to an agreement that when I am broody, he just lets me vent and all he says is "I know, this is hard for you. Don't worry, we will be there soon"... And honestly, 99% of the time, that's all I need him to do. If I need someone to really sympathize with how I'm feeling, I'll come on here and chat with you ladies



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 14:46 PM   3
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ye i totally get that, im just not sure he can understand to be honest, sometimes its a little frustrating when he thinks im silly for getting upset about it xx



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 14:51 PM   4
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I totally know how you feel! My OH just cant understand why I want another baby, he says we should just be happy with Daisy, I am but I cant help how I feel and it just feels right for us to have 2! I am trying to help him understand but sometimes I feel like I am turning into a nagging wife!! He hasnt said no but he hasnt said yes either! I just want a straight anwser arrrgghhh men!!



 
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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 17:22 PM   5
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I really don't think my OH gets it either. I don't think it's really something men can even understand, tho. Like how do you explain "Yes, I'm b!tchy and broody. Why? Because you won't knock me up!" I mean, think about it... Not saying that makes it any easier on us! Quite the opposite, I would think.



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 17:38 PM   6
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My oh really doesnt understand at all. Even when I try and explain his reply is o well you've got a long time to wait. Which really doesn't help me at all. I think he thinks it's like a switch than I can turn of at any time. I just wish men could feel like this.



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Old Mar 14th, 2011, 17:39 PM   7
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I'm really lucky in that he does understand, but I have to talk everything through with someone, whereas he keeps things to himself.

It's beyond a strong feeling of wanting to be a mum, it's a physical urge and it physically hurts knowing that I have to wait to do something that feels so natural.



 
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Old Mar 15th, 2011, 04:11 AM   8
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I have never met anyone that understands my feelings other than on here! I have friends with kids who dont know what it means to be broody.



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Old Mar 15th, 2011, 05:23 AM   9
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Most of the time my OH gives the impression he doesn't understand, but a little over a year ago I wondered if I was pregnant, took a few tests, all BFN. I mailed him at work to say that I was gutted and crying- he also said that he was disappointed (but doesn't seem to have spurred him on to setting a TTC date though!!). So I think he perhaps understands a little more than I usually think he does- just doesn't show it in the same way as me...

Some of the comments from friends with kids in the past have been really hurtful- it's some of them that I find hard to get sometimgs...

As Broodyhen said, I don't think I've truly felt anyone has really 'got it' until I joined this site...

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Old Mar 15th, 2011, 09:50 AM   10
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My OH is funny on this subject. He actually gets a sort of man broodiness where he really wants kids too but at the same time he doesn't get it as often as we girlies do. We both have to remind each other why we are deciding to wait, and it helps us both cope.
My OH and i talk about what kind of parents we will be sometimes too, that i think gets them a little more use to the idea, if you'd wanna try that? hope i helped a littleI'm sure your OH will come around to it in his own time(guy time is a little slower than ours when it comes to kids lol)



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