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Old Mar 18th, 2011, 14:51 PM   11
Heidi
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I also fell pregnant as i started my new job,i told them at 9 weeks so i could book my scans off, i was keen to go back to work after my ML but once my baby girl was here i changed my mind, my work were so understanding and supportive of my decision, i still pop in for visits and a cuppa.



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2011, 22:33 PM   12
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THAT is amazing... so envious of that. I really think that I could convice my DH to start sooner if that was available in the US. WOW! I learn something new everyday!



 
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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 02:09 AM   13
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i guess im really lucky here as i work for myself, the problem here that the only "maternity pay" i will get is what i save up. luckily i love my work hoping all goes well i plan to work right up until im in labour with any pregnancy i have.
we are just trying to work out whether my OH could get time off too.



 
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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 04:13 AM   14
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I def feel guilty! I'm only temp at moment but am 95% sure it will be made permanent next month- when I start ttc. One of my co workers m/c about 6 weeks ago and has been told to wait 3 months before ttc again so in theory we could be pregnant at the same time!! I just think it's important to remember you can't put your life on hold because of other peoples plans.
I will be going back after mat leave prob about 3/4 days a week so that eases my guilt!



 
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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 04:34 AM   15
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I do feel guilty, as we're really short-staffed at the moment. Who knows if that will still be the situation when I'm going on mat leave though...my boss had a heart attack when I asked for a couple of hours off a few weeks after my honeymoon to go for an ultrasound...I had to reassure her that it wasn't because of pregnancy! If it had been, though, she would have been fully supportive. She hasn't got any kids herself but my department is mostly women, mostly of childbearing age, and about half of them do have kids.

I'd be more worried about my career progression though. I have a definite plan for what I want to do with my working life, and my boss has told me there are plans for my job role to change to fit in with that. I'd be about 1/4 through my training for that when babies happen, ideally. I do fully intend to go back to work after maternity leave, as my husband will be going part-time instead of me. I've worked for so long and so hard to get to where I am now, I don't want to give it all up!



 
Old Mar 21st, 2011, 05:49 AM   16
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I worry too, if I'm still in my current job I'll have been there at least 18 months. I'm a carer, and most staff are of childbearing age. So it can't be too much of a shock.



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 08:52 AM   17
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Hi everyone please don't worry so much about your current work it's not important I started my new job and was pregant within 2 mths I sadly lost this pregancy within the next 6 mth i fell pregant another 2 more times and lost both of these i am currently signed off work with stress. I have had a total of 5weeks off since i joined and they know im going to be pregant again. The reason for my post is I would do anything to be pregant again don't let work stand in your way if thats what you want you don't know what is arround the corner. I wanted a large family too im 31 and i don't know what will happen my only regret is i didn't start TTC sooner.



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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 09:13 AM   18
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Hi everyone please don't worry so much about your current work it's not important I started my new job and was pregant within 2 mths I sadly lost this pregancy within the next 6 mth i fell pregant another 2 more times and lost both of these i am currently signed off work with stress. I have had a total of 5weeks off since i joined and they know im going to be pregant again. The reason for my post is I would do anything to be pregant again don't let work stand in your way if thats what you want you don't know what is arround the corner. I wanted a large family too im 31 and i don't know what will happen my only regret is i didn't start TTC sooner.
It is something that I've been worrying about and today OH and I were having a look around Mothercare and none of it mattered any more. On the way home I almost asked him if he wanted to start TTC and I realised that I didn't need to ask because we're already NTNP



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 13:16 PM   19
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I am so worried about this too. I get married in may and we WERE going to ttc from then, or honeymoon (2nd week in june) but 2 weeks ago I got a new job, as a nanny. I then put this off till Nov, but decided I cant wait that long, so put it to the middle of aug, when I will have been there for 5 months. Because I am a nanny though, they will have to completely employ someone else, so I know I will feel really guilty. Dose anyone know who pays the smp? Would it be the family ( I really hope its not) or do the government pay?

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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 18:03 PM   20
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The employer pays and then claims 90-100% of the money back from the government. Although I believe (and could be wrong) the employer has to still pay for the NI contributions, etc.



 
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