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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 13:58 PM   1
lil' mole
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Feeling very selfish for being upset at delaying ttc


Hi, I know I don't post much. I was going to start ttc very soon, from 11th April, but I've had to delay this which upsets me. I feel so bad for being upset, really selfish and heartless. I was waiting until after my holiday of a lifetime, my sister and I were going to japan. We've postponed our trip untill November because of the devastating events there. This means I can't ttc until December.
8 months is nothing really when I get to carry on living and enjoying my life when so many won't. I still can't help being upset that I have to put my plans on hold (I've been wtt for 3 years already, while I got my career sorted and then waiting to go to japan). I've got no one else to vent to, nobody knows our plans to ttc apart from dh and my sis. Dh is ready for a family but lacks that broody desperation I have! My sister is obviously keen for me to be happy to wait so we can still go to japan. I'm mad at the earthquake for putting everything on hold and that makes me soooo selfish, all those poor people who are caught up in it, it's devastating.

Sorry for the ramble. I just needed to vent. Am I a horrible person, or is this a normal side effect of broodyness?



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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 14:39 PM   2
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I wouldn't get too upset about it hon, everyone is selfish, its just some of them don't admit it! I've also found that, with myself anyway, rational thinking and logic go out the window when it comes to wtt and ttc. I'm wtt cos I've just finished my masters, so I need to get on the career ladder, and we really can't afford a baby, but every month I pray that we'll have an accident. If I had a date set for ttc, I would feel exactly the same as you. I think how you're feeling is totally normal, so don't feel bad about it!



 
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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 14:43 PM   3
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Thank you so much xxx. It helps to know it's normal(ish) to get so selfish over having a family. I've decided to use the time untill I can ttc to save money to donate to the people affected by the earthquake and tsunami. At least then it's not wasted time.



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Old Mar 19th, 2011, 14:47 PM   4
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Thats a really lovely thought



 
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