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Old Mar 20th, 2011, 17:19 PM   11
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I was worried about the reaction because I knew it would be fine, and everyone would be chuffed to bits - and I was right! I was just worried about thelling them! In fact - I told my mam to tell my dad! Lol! I just felt a bit funny about admitting to having sex! Lol!



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Old Mar 20th, 2011, 18:35 PM   12
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Yeah I figured out that it is strange because I'm married so obviously my parents know that we have sex...but it's an awkward subject. Good thing it's not something talked about a lot!



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 00:35 AM   13
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I'm absolutely terrified about telling my family. My OH's family can't wait for us to be expecting (and may have actually given up all hpe of it ever happening) - however, my family have always told me never to have kids because they apparently ruin your whole life! My OH reckons my Dad would actually be really excited but I'm just not sure.

I'm actually considering not telling them at all until we are literally giving birth because I don't want them putting a dampener on it and making me feel bad with their negative comments and lack of excitement for us!



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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 03:49 AM   14
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LOL it's funny you mention the sex thing - I feel funny about it in that way too! Announcing you're pregnant is admitting to your parents that you've had sex ha ha! I'm 31 and have been married for three years, living with DH for six, FFS so of course i've had sex, but being pregnant is definite proof, isn't it!



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 16:33 PM   15
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My father passed 8 yrs ago and my fiances parent want more grandkids (they have 10 already!) The only person I'm afraid to tell is my mom. Both our grandparents want to know why we haven't had any yet. Lol

My sister was pg at 15 an brother was expelled from school at 16 so she has alway been overprotective with me (I'm the baby. 5 yrs under my bro an 7 yrs under my sis) she has never been satisfied with any man I've been with and has always told me to wait, I have time. I don't think she will be happy with us ttc but knows I will regardless (I've been with fiance for 6 yrs despite mothers disapproval). But it would be nice to hear some excitement from her when it does happen.



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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 16:47 PM   16
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Yes, but i think my mum will secretly be happy, because she loves babies/kids.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 16:54 PM   17
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Everyone freaked out when we announced we were pregnant... My DH and I had only met IRL in April/May and got pregnant in September though We had known each other for 3 years prior, but although our parents knew about that and were aware we were talking, I don't think they quite got how close we were...

They all came around though. I think you just have to expect the disappointment and be prepared for it, because they can't stay grumpy and judgmental for long My mum was quite unhappy about it, but she is in love with her little Granddaughter!

At the end of the day it is YOUR life and as long as you stay strong and reinforce the fact that their grumbling and negative comments will go ignored and won't make any difference in your life apart from making you feel unhappy and unsupported, they will eventually get it and start to come around.



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 14:45 PM   18
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I got engaged at 18 and my dad said I was stupid. I'm getting married this June (to the man I got engaged to at 18!) and my dad said "Who talked you into it?".

I don't look forward to telling him if/when I'm pregnant. Although he loves kids so maybe that one will be ok, or he'll be super disappointed till there actually is a baby.

OH's parents, not sure about, his brother has a toddler and twin babies so they should be used to the idea of grandkids by now lol. Future MIL has always said she wants us married first, I'm not planning to give her time to think up another reason to wait lol.



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 14:58 PM   19
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Not at all, my parents and my husband's dad will be thrilled! It will be weird telling them, as previous posters have said, as it's admitting to having had sex, but come on, I'm married!!

Anyway...won't be telling them when we're trying, as there'll be constant 'any news???' conversations going on, and I cba with that!

I'm more worried about my parents after the baby is born...they live at the other end of the country and I worry about them feeling that they're missing out on their grandchild...of course we'll try and make sure to visit and have them visit us as much as possible, and I suppose there's skype and stuff, but I don't want anyone making me or my husband feel bad because of where we live! They won't move, and I wouldn't expect them to, of course. There's no option for us to move - our lives are here, and I can't work where they live, as it's way too rural, and I need a big hospital to work in, as the smaller ones don't do what I work as! Still...we shall cross that bridge when we come to it, I suppose



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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 15:07 PM   20
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I am not now since family know we are WWT now but I was the first time I got pregnant. My MIL stopped talking to us for a bit when we said we was getting married and was really not happy when we got pregnant not long after the wedding either so stopped talking to us again. I had a MMC and then got pregnant a second time which was also a MMC and she still was not happy. We waited a bit longer to try for the third time and she was not as bad when we told her, not happy but not too bad. I was third time lucky and had my son, but no one really took things for granted with my history and then I had a rough pregnancy from the second trimester too. Anyway, my MIL became better as the pregnancy progressed and now she see's the world revolving around my son (not that I can blame her, hehe) and she wants a second grandchild ASAP, lol! So I guess the point of my story is that even if you know someone who is so unhappy with the situation to the point that they stop talking to you it does not mean they will stay that way.



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