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Old Mar 26th, 2011, 12:53 PM   21
Amarna
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Not this time around but the first time I was. Primarily because we were young, unmarried and it was unplanned. So I knew my parents would frown upon it. But they warmed up to it, my mom a lot quicker than my dad. In a week or two actually my mom was over the moon with excitement so it worked out. My husband's mother was happy for us. His father on the other hand was freaked out and at first actually accused me of trying to trap my now husband into marriage via pregnancy...so not the case. I was offended of course but I realize why he said that, he was looking out for my husband and jaded because those were essentially the circumstances he got stuck with in a previous marriage. He's changed a lot in attitude toward me since and loves our daughter and I'm pretty sure he knows that I love his son and would be committed to him and vice versa with or without children.

Things worked themselves out eventually.



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Old Mar 26th, 2011, 13:09 PM   22
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We've been together 9 years and getting married in June so you'd think it wouldn't be a massive shock, but given the luke-warm reaction to our engagement, I'm worried the response to a pregnancy would be the same. My parents are a bit odd, so I've just learned to mainly ignore what they say. I know his family would be really excited, but in a wierd way I think this could put a lot of pressure on me to not mess it up, since he's the only child of his mum (his parents aren't together) so the only hope of grandchildren.



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 06:36 AM   23
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No im not that nervus about telling. Maby litle bit because they might think it is soon my lo will be 30 months old or odler.
My mum and dad know we are goingt to start TTC soon, not exactly when though. I blurted it out :S hehe my mum was ok, said litle, something about good to get it over with because I probably wont have more children. My dad just said, that soon hehe not in a bad way though.
Im not sure what my OH family will say. His parents might get overwhelmed because then thei will have 6 grandchildren under 5 years old! Thei have more but they are mutch older hehe. And all of these 6 live in less than 15 min walk! So loads of fun in family gatherings hehe



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 07:16 AM   24
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I'm worried about OH's parents more TBH. They would love grandchildren, but they think we're too young and want us to finish our educations first.

After we showed them we have everything sorted they will be happy about it I'm sure.

I think it's quite often the case that we expect the worst but they will be fine once the shock wears off

After all, it's our choices... not theirs.

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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 07:18 AM   25
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We've been together 9 years and getting married in June so you'd think it wouldn't be a massive shock, but given the luke-warm reaction to our engagement, I'm worried the response to a pregnancy would be the same. My parents are a bit odd, so I've just learned to mainly ignore what they say. I know his family would be really excited, but in a wierd way I think this could put a lot of pressure on me to not mess it up, since he's the only child of his mum (his parents aren't together) so the only hope of grandchildren.
We got the lukewarm reaction our engagement last year too. 'Too young...' so we didn't have a party or even any congratulations. Makes me want to do everything they don't want us to haha x



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