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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 16:37 PM   1
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Some people think I'm bonkers...


Is anybody else considering trying for a baby in less than conventional circumstances?

I don't live with my partner due to family issues on his side but we do see each other every day. We don't want to miss out on having children together just because we have 2 separate homes!

I have a stable job, home and relationship and think thats whats important - what does everyone else think?



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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 16:42 PM   2
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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 16:48 PM   3
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i think its ideal for the family unit to be living together to be honest.

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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 16:54 PM   4
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I'd love to be in the conventional family unit but unfortunately thats not possible for us right now.

Strangely I've previously been in what seems the perfect situation - married and with a family home - but if the relationship's not right I think this can be an awful place to bring up children and I'm glad I did not have any in that relationship.

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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 17:01 PM   5
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Well whatever works. If you are sure that you two will stay together and be able to offer the child a stable environment then go for it.



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 17:05 PM   6
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Thanks April I guess I look at it as we see each other more than some couples who actually do live together! A little bit of space is nice sometimes too



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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 17:11 PM   7
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Yeah you're definitely right. A bit of space is good. Just collaborate and make sure that the child has a stable place to grow up in. I believe a child will get used to whatever the parents way of living is if that is what they know from the beginning.



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2011, 17:22 PM   8
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My friend is like this! They have a little boy who was 1 in jan, and they live opposite ech other! It annoys me a little though cos hse gets all the extra child tax credits etc becuase they don't live together! She's classed as being single!

I think it's unusual but I don't think it's odd. I also believe that a fmaily unit should be together, but sometimes other things need to be taken into account, and as long as the child is happy - what does it matter!



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Old Mar 22nd, 2011, 10:44 AM   9
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It's not how I would like to bring a child up, but if you think it's best then go for it. The urge of wanted a baby can take over at times.

However, ahve you considered this? Who would have the baby at nights? Because I think spending the night time, every other night with each parent would be unsetteling for a baby.

If me and OH were in a situation like that, I know we would argue alot of the time. I think there are lots to think about in the situation, as well as whether ou think you'll all be able to live together at some point.

I'd find it hard, but if you wanted it bad enough, you'd make it work.




 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:32 PM   10
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i guess im in the same kind of situation, we live apart and only way we can get a place off the council is to have a family as they dont let singles or couples rent any more (that isnt the reason i want a child though)



 
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