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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 13:30 PM   31
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I would have wanted my mum, but she passed away in 09. My OH will be there (he'd better be anyway!). His mum might want to be there, would have to see how I feel about that when the time comes. I've not got a clue if my dad would want to be there, I think that would be really weird.

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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 14:20 PM   32
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I want my husband there, obviously, not sure about anyone else. I haven't got a MIL to offend, so I could have my Mum in with me, but she's a nurse so she might end up 'taking over' from the midwife, if you know what I mean?? Plus we live very far apart so unless I was having a scheduled c-section it probably wouldn't be at all practical. So I think only my husband, with possible visits from my best friend and hubby's best friend in the early stages, while I can still walk about and go outside! I think that would be more important for my husband - he'd probably have his best friend 'on call', for support, as hubby's not very good with me in pain etc, he doesn't know what to do . Maybe he'll surprise me when our children are born though

Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 15:03 PM   33
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My DH and only my DH! No way do I want anyone else there!

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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 16:19 PM   34
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DH definitely, but if for some reason he can't be there I want my mum there, or if she can't be there my MIL!

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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 16:35 PM   35
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I had my DH with me. I couldn't imagine anyone else being there. I loved having a few hours of just me, DH getting to know Kate.

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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 05:19 AM   36
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I had my mum and OH and they were both good as mum had been through it before and OH was there to have his hand squeezed!

Next time it will just be my OH as sadly my mum passed away recently, but I am so glad she got to witness the birth of her first grandchild.

You should have people there that will support you and will be understanding when you don't have much patience. x

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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 07:32 AM   37
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OH definitely. He'd be so calm and strong for me. I know he would. I can just imagine him having this sort of epiphany once our child was born. I have a feeling that when ever we get pregnant he will find it a big adjustment, and though he'll be so supportive, when he first holds his child that will be the confirmation that we had done the right thing. I don't know if that makes sense!

I think I'd have my mum there too, she's my rock and she calms me down too. As she only had one child (me!) I think she'd enjoy going through it again. That said, she's also not easily offended and wouldn't mind sitting in the waiting room with a book until I needed her etc.

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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 07:42 AM   38
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I had my mam and my OH and i will be for my next one. I couldent have done it with out my mam there. OH was fantastic but that was partly through my mam instructing him on what do to. With out her there i would have had to tell him what to do to help me and i dont think i would have stayed as calm if i had to do that.

Men dont instinctivly know what to do to help and since the midwifes spend such little time with out some one to direct them they would be stood in the corned clueless. My mam helped me to physicaly relax, sugested positions when i couldent get comfortable and held my hand when it hurt.

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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 09:02 AM   39
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I just had my OH with me (Excluding the 10 doctors and midwives that ended up in the room ) and if we have another child it will be just us again. I think it's such a special, private experience giving birth and meeting your child for the first time. I only wanted OH to share that with me. Plus, I wouldn't want my family seeing me in such a vulnerable state, it must be hard to watch!

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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 17:09 PM   40
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When I was 19 my mom asked me if she could be there when I would have my first baby. I sayd yes and meant it. Then I had been with my OH for 4 years. 5 Years later I got pg and in the beginnig I was going to ask my mom to be there. But when the pg went on and the bump grew I just wanted it to be a moment for me and my OH. So I didnt ask her and she didnt meantion it either.
When the day came my OH was wonderful. He was so calm like he had done this many many times before trying to do everything he could for me, giving me drinks, lip balm, massage, saying how wonderful I was and how mutch of a good job I was doing and so on. So it was very very nice and wonderful moment for us
I think it will be just the two off us next time

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