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Old Mar 22nd, 2011, 21:49 PM   1
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Contemplating about December..


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So I've been contemplating wheter or not to try this month or wait till next month. DH said December will be busy with the holidays and my mom will be busy at work and won't be able to come help us out. January holidays will be over and my mom wont be that busy with work and will be able to come and help us for a good month.

I dont know why this is so hard to decide!! I want to try for a babynow but it looks like if the due date is January it will be better. Also my DD will be a 1 1/2 and actually will know whats going on and will be able to enjoy the holidays...

Are any of you on here that will go for a December baby or wait for a January baby? .. (Of course at the end is what God has planned for us)



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Old Mar 22nd, 2011, 21:58 PM   2
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We didnt really think about dates, we just wanted to get pregnant. My due date was 7th January, which would have been easier in terms of December already being a busy month for birthday, but I had to have an induction at 38 weeks, so my LO was born 28th December.

So because of my past experience, i would have said go for it now, as you never now what will happen, or when baby will make their appearence.

But it is a tricky decision. We dont know what its like having a childs birthday close to Xmas, but reguardless of when her birthday would have been, we shall be prepared, make sure we save up in advance ready for december. I think you make it work no matter what the situation.




 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2011, 22:23 PM   3
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We didnt really think about dates, we just wanted to get pregnant. My due date was 7th January, which would have been easier in terms of December already being a busy month for birthday, but I had to have an induction at 38 weeks, so my LO was born 28th December.

So because of my past experience, i would have said go for it now, as you never now what will happen, or when baby will make their appearence.

But it is a tricky decision. We dont know what its like having a childs birthday close to Xmas, but reguardless of when her birthday would have been, we shall be prepared, make sure we save up in advance ready for december. I think you make it work no matter what the situation.



With our daughter we didn't think about dates either, shes a summer baby and she was born at 37 weeks but this time with baby #2 we know how much help we got from my parents the 1st time and we'll need that especially that well have a toddler. I wanna go with my heart and not think too much about it but sometimes you have to plan..

And why do they give 40 weeks when most babies are born around 37-38? If the baby can last in my belly for 40 weeks we are looking at beginning of Jan but if you go by your period like with DD she was born exactly on the day. DD's due date was Aug 7th and she was born on July 21st and that day was my last ultrasound and the technitcan said to me "You're in labor go to your hospital!" lol so I proved them wrong like I knew I would.. at least in my case 40 weeks was way too much.



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Old Mar 22nd, 2011, 23:13 PM   4
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Hi! I don't have an answer regarding if you should start trying now or waiting, but I have a birthday on Christmas day! My due date was 12/30, but I came a little early... So here's my spin on Christmas b-days: It's difficult to have birthday parties b/c everyone is spending time with their own family (as expected). You'll always have to worry a/b getting gypped (getting a 2 for 1 birthday/christmas present). Of course these reasons are all superficial and shouldn't influence your decision entirely, but I thought I'd give you my sob story as a Christmas baby...



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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 17:39 PM   5
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My dd is Dec 24th and I love it! She is only 1 though so maybe in a few years when she knows what is going on she might say something different!



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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 20:03 PM   6
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Hi! I don't have an answer regarding if you should start trying now or waiting, but I have a birthday on Christmas day! My due date was 12/30, but I came a little early... So here's my spin on Christmas b-days: It's difficult to have birthday parties b/c everyone is spending time with their own family (as expected). You'll always have to worry a/b getting gypped (getting a 2 for 1 birthday/christmas present). Of course these reasons are all superficial and shouldn't influence your decision entirely, but I thought I'd give you my sob story as a Christmas baby...
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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 04:15 AM   7
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Personally if I could pick then I wouldn't choose a December baby as like you said it's a very busy and expensive month for you and others.

But having said that there are ways to make a childs birthday special and separate it from Christmas etc. Also if you started trying there's no saying you'd fall pregnant right away anyway. I fell pregnant first try with my daughter but I'm under no illusions it'll happen that way when we start ttc in May.

If you think you'll need as much help if not more than the first time, and you know your mum will be too busy to provide that help in December then I'd say to wait til next month. It's not that much longer to wait and there will be a lot less pressure and stress on you and your mum come the birth.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 04:35 AM   8
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I'm waiting until April to ttc as we'd ideally like to avoid a December baby for some of the reasons that are listed above. I know it's unlikely we'd catch first time but just in case we're waiting. If we've not caught by March 2012 then i doubt i'd care about whether we had a December baby or not.



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 04:42 AM   9
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I dont think you can plan which dates you will be giving birth as TTC could take any amount of time and babies come out when they want not but time-table.
You have to do what you feel is right. I have four summer birthdays (1 july, 3 august) its just the way it is. Although having another in summer wouldnt be ideal, a baby to me is more important than its potential birthday.
good luck with TTC x



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 05:26 AM   10
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We didnt really think about dates, we just wanted to get pregnant. My due date was 7th January, which would have been easier in terms of December already being a busy month for birthday, but I had to have an induction at 38 weeks, so my LO was born 28th December.

So because of my past experience, i would have said go for it now, as you never now what will happen, or when baby will make their appearence.

But it is a tricky decision. We dont know what its like having a childs birthday close to Xmas, but reguardless of when her birthday would have been, we shall be prepared, make sure we save up in advance ready for december. I think you make it work no matter what the situation.

My birthday is the 29th Dec and when I was little my mum always made a fuss and gave me a special day. She also gave me a 6 and a half birthday one year on the 29th June. I got to have a great big garden party with a bouncy castle and magician. I never forgot it. I did and still do occasionally get joint presents, which I don't mind now. My son is born 17th Jan and even he got one joint present for Christmas/ birthday!



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