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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 15:29 PM   1
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Worry on lack of family around


Hi all, does anyone else have worries about having a lack of family support around them once their LO arrives?

I'm 24, OH 26 and will be starting TTC May. Mine and my OH's parents and siblings live in Australia and South Africa (we are in the UK). I have one younger sister here (no children) and my grandma but neither drive and my grandma is 75 and not getting younger. We do have close friends that live nearby but are the first to start a family, and it's just not the same as having mum/sister with experience around!

Just wondered if anyone else has a similar situation? If anyone has been through this, how did you cope?!

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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 17:32 PM   2
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sorry hun, i dont think i have much advice for you, but even with little family around you will manage! xx



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2011, 17:36 PM   3
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I agree!



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Old Mar 24th, 2011, 08:04 AM   4
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I am in the same boat. Hubby and I live in NC and the rest of our family lives 11 hours away in NY. We do have my hubby's uncle who lives about 45 min away and he has a 1 yr old and his wife is pregnant with #2 right now. That is about all we have here. My uncle lives 2 hr west of here and my grandparents live 2 hr south of here. We also would be the 1st of the group of friends to have a child.

This def worries me. I am just hoping to meet some "mommy" friends.



 
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Old Mar 25th, 2011, 12:31 PM   5
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I am in the same boat. Hubby and I live in NC and the rest of our family lives 11 hours away in NY. We do have my hubby's uncle who lives about 45 min away and he has a 1 yr old and his wife is pregnant with #2 right now. That is about all we have here. My uncle lives 2 hr west of here and my grandparents live 2 hr south of here. We also would be the 1st of the group of friends to have a child.

This def worries me. I am just hoping to meet some "mommy" friends.

Hi snowflakes, nice to hear of someone in a similar situation who feels the same as me. A few people have said to me - I dont know what I would have done without my family around in those first couple of months - I think great thanks very much that doesnt help!!! I'm sure we will cope just fine, just would be nice to have that extra support. Good thinking on the "mommy" friends



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Old Mar 25th, 2011, 12:45 PM   6
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i dont really have advice but as said above ud find a way to cope and also check out local mum and baby groups some of my friends go to those and say they are really good



 
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Old Mar 26th, 2011, 03:10 AM   7
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We are 2300 miles from all our family and friends. DH is in the military so we pretty much knew we'd be on our own with things. We cope just fine but I'm now on my own with Emma(DH is deployed) so it is stressful not having breaks or having anyone that can take her even for a few minutes to de-stress a bit. Emma has never had a babysitter or been away from me her entire life.

It's something that you just DO because you don't have a choice IYKWIM. And yes being a mom is the hardest thing you'll ever do, it's also the most rewarding and not anything like you can picture in your head. It's seriously amazing and you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I think that's what I'm trying to get across here. It'll all come naturally with time and it's definitely not something to stress over.

Sorry- it's 1 am here so I probably make no sense.



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