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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 09:48 AM   1
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I Think I'm Getting Cold Feet...


OH and I have been WTT for several years now because he was not ready. We are now down to about the 4-month mark before TTC, and I am the one who is starting to get cold feet! In our TTC conversations lately, the roles seem to be completely reversed from how we've always been. I want to wait an extra 3 months, so that we could go on one last big holiday before TTC. Actually, I've been talking about going to Egypt and making it a babymoon!

I've been counting down to this TTC date for over 2 years, and both OH and I are shocked that I'm the one who's talking about tacking on more wait time!



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 09:56 AM   2
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Aw honey. I know what you mean though, we talked about wanting a baby for awhile, and though we both were eager to start TTC awhile ago, we did the same thing - we decided we wanted to take one more holiday together, since we knew that once we had a baby, we wouldn't have the time or money. And I know other friends of mine who felt the same way, and put it off for the same reasons. So there's no shame in that, I don't think.

That sounds like an awesome plan - I love the idea of calling it your babymoon. If that's how you feel, I say - go for it! Enjoy a vacation together, have a fun and fabulous babymoon and enjoy your time together.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 10:02 AM   3
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I know how you feel hun! I'd always promised my oh that as soon as we were married we'd start ttc but I pushed it back and it ended up being 2 years after our wedding!

My oh now agrees it was the best decision as we had 2 amazing holidays that cost a fortune but boy were they worth it. There's no way we could ever do those holidays now, especially since one of them was at an adults only sandals resort.

When we finally got around to ttc everything felt right and we'd done everything we wanted. A baby was the final icing on the cake.

If you want one final blowout then I'd definitley say to go for it, a few more months in the grand scheme of things isn't all that long anyway!

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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 10:45 AM   4
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Aww I think that's perfectly natural! Sometimes I think we girls get just a little too caught up in the romance and fantasy of TTC and having a baby. I think it just says you have a lot of common sense and you really understand how much time and effort a baby takes!!



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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 11:48 AM   5
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as said above its perfectly natural to feel that way after so long of waiting



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 13:38 PM   6
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I think it's great that your giving TTC a lot of thought. It's a decision that will completely change your life.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 17:19 PM   7
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Like everyone else I think it's perfectly fine and normal to have second thoughts. Having a baby is a life changing decision and it shouldn't be taken lightly. It's really easy to get caught up in the excitement but everyone I think has these thoughts from time to time. I know I do.

And I have to say Egypt sounds like a great destination! It's been my #1 place to go to since I've been a little girl and one day I will get there. If you do end up going can I hide in your luggage?



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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 20:54 PM   8
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Thanks ladies! I'm pretty sure we're going to go for it! It's only 3 more months to add on, and after the long wait we've had so far that seems like nothing!


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And I have to say Egypt sounds like a great destination! It's been my #1 place to go to since I've been a little girl and one day I will get there. If you do end up going can I hide in your luggage?
You bet!



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 21:42 PM   9
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way. Just the past week I've been really nervous about TTC in 2 months.. maybe it's too soon? Should we be closer to buying a house before trying?

On the flip side I'm worried if we wait longer, we'll just keep pushing it back again and again.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 21:49 PM   10
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On the flip side I'm worried if we wait longer, we'll just keep pushing it back again and again.
Yes, that's how I feel too! I've been thinking to myself that this is just the first time this has happened, but would there be another "one last holiday" even after we get back from Egypt?! I guess I doubt it because I am pretty anxious to get started, but then again I didn't think I was going to feel this way at all.



 
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