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View Poll Results: When to TTC?
May before we move 4 30.77%
June after we move to his mothers house 2 15.38%
Much later when we have our own house again 7 53.85%
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 04:20 AM   1
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Opinions on TTC Please!!


Hi Guys, i cant decide what to do so i need your help!

I already have a 15mth old son but am desperate to be pregnant again, its all i think about!

However my fiancee is just finishing his degree and we are moving either back home if he cant find a job straight away, where we will live with his mother until he finds a suitable job.

Or to where ever he is working but this is looking slim at the moment, there arent many graduate jobs around.

Do i TTC as planned in may but then have to move house pregnant with a toddler, or do i wait until June and TTC in his mothers house, which feels unnatural and weird to do, and its such a cold house that i dont feel comfortable in.

Or should i wait until we have a house of our own again, which we may have by the time the baby comes anyway i should add.

I should add that he will be working whilst back home, just not what he wants to do in the long run.

I cant decide as i dont want to wait ages! this is the only thing i have been looking forward to for ages!!!!

Thanks in Advance



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 04:31 AM   2
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Just do what you feel is right! I moved house while pregnant and with a toddler in sept 09, and it was really hard going, but i managed. Have you spoken to your husband? When does he want to start TTC? Good luck



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 04:53 AM   3
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Sorry - I don't know what to suggest. I think personally i'd be inclined to wait and see what happens with my husband's job before ttc. Where I was staying at the time would be less important to me than knowing one of us had a stable job and guaranteed income.



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 04:56 AM   4
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I don't know what to suggest either. Part of me is saying wait til you have your own house again but the rest is saying whenever you want (e.g before you move to his mums).

Good luck with whatever you decide x



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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 05:12 AM   5
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Hi I voted and put May before you move purely because you do not know how long it is going to take for you to get a BFP! As you said you would not be at your MIL house for long before you get your own place again

But ultimately it is you and your OH decision to make



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 08:42 AM   6
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Hey girl I think it would all work out whatever you choose but I just voted for what I would do, which is wait til you have your own place. But maybe you guys could just wait until OH finds a job?



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 09:38 AM   7
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I voted wait until you have a place of your own again.

We are waiting until we have moved somewhere bigger which won't be for a while. TTC and getting pregnant before we move or during moving just doesn't seem sensible to me. Although I want a baby, that's the way it has to be. As they say, good thing comes to those who wait!

You'll have to have a long hard think about what's best for you and your family. I know it's hard waiting but sometimes, sadly, it's the best option.



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 11:37 AM   8
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i dont know what to suggest, i personally would be happy trying at your mums x



 
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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 11:45 AM   9
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I voted May too - you never know how long it'll take to get that BFP!!



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Old Mar 29th, 2011, 12:03 PM   10
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I suggested waiting until you have your own place again, only because:

1) if you get pregnant now, having a new baby while still living under her roof might be tough. depending on the space she has, you mentioned her home is cold, etc. And since you already have a toddler, moving into her place with a toddler + new baby on the way could make things a lot more stressful for you.

2) ttc while under her roof might be awkward. and again, if you're not sure when you'll have a place of your own, moving a new baby in his mom's house may not be ideal for you and your family, or for her.

But really, that's your call to make, love. You two need to decide what best suits your wants and your schedules.



 
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