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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 02:40 AM   41
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Co sleeping is discouraged because you will get some drunk smackhead who smokes who thinks its ok to share a bed with there baby so they have to discourage it to stop the people who wont do it safely from doing so. If you do it correctly its more than safe.

The problem with health professionals is they will often push there views on you as what you need to do, pushing FF, disposable nappys, strict routines, CIO. They never give you a few choices of what you can do so you can find what works best for you.



 
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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 02:51 AM   42
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i'm gonna try and not let them in our bed second time round. The amount of times i've woke up just to check on our daughter.

Also will bottlefeed again i had no problem the first time round and was so much more easier.
I don't like the way that midwives and health vistors push on you that breast feeding is better, because personally there isn't much different. My daughter was bottle fed with CaG and she had her first cold a week ago at a year old. Her cousin is 9months old and had and used SMA but had so many colds and other problems. It's got nothing to do with the milk you feed them, it depends on the child and how it reacts to things.



 
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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 03:34 AM   43
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wow some people take things a bit far... this is a harmless thread asking what we ourselves think we will do when we have children one day, if some of us have researched or even just have an opinion that co-sleeping is not for us due to what ever reasons we may have then that is our opinion which we are aloud and which the thread asked for.



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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 04:07 AM   44
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wow some people take things a bit far... this is a harmless thread asking what we ourselves think we will do when we have children one day, if some of us have researched or even just have an opinion that co-sleeping is not for us due to what ever reasons we may have then that is our opinion which we are aloud and which the thread asked for.
Saying co sleeping is not for you is one thing, telling people that cosleeping is dangerous when its not is not an opinion.



 
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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 05:26 AM   45
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I am hoping to breastfeed and cloth diaper my baby. I won't be co-sleeping.



 
Old Jul 26th, 2011, 05:38 AM   46
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I think the vast majority of mothers have at least attempted cosleeping at some point. A lot of them may not talk about it out of fear of judgment, but until you've been there you have no idea how tempting it is after spending 4 hours trying to put a screaming newborn into it's own basket when it clearly wants to sleep with you. 100,000 years ago, you did not put your baby in it's own cave to sleep. It slept attached to your breast. While your expectations of how a baby should sleep may change, the biology of the infant has not.

I did not bedshare (cosleeping = same room, bedsharing = same bed). It was my regret as I simply slept 2 broken hours in a 24 hour period for several months! The brink of insanity! I passed out on the bed once sitting up with him on my boob on day 2. If I had been properly cosleeping, life would have been easier for both of us.

And please don't forget the old name - "Cot Death". There is a reason for that. Unfortunately, it can occur to anyone. Yes, there are factors that can contribute to suffocation etc. but at the end of the day, sadly some babies do die and that's in bed with mom OR on their own in a crib.

As for babywearing and breastfeeding, I'm all for it, as I am simply too lazy to make a bottle all freakin' night (been there) and haul a stroller around a narrow aisle in a store (I still wear my boy exclusively at 14 months). And I'm cheap too - cloth all the way.

Formula, cribs, strollers, disposables - sorry, I'm too lazy and cheap

Women who breastfeed,babywear,cloth diaper,cosleep don't do it to prove a point or be hippies (as we are often accused), it is simply because it makes life easier in the long run. Yes, BF is much harder than a bottle in the beginning but once it's established, it is easier and better for baby (I actually combo fed for medical reasons, I know what both is like). Babywearing makes mobility much easier, flying easier, travel super easy. Cloth diapers are more affordable and much better looking. Cosleeping is a godsend in the beginning (or so I hear).



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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 07:00 AM   47
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Another reason I'd be so afraid is for the exact reason someone mentioned as a positive of co-sleeping... Someone said they'd rather co-sleep due to the sheer exhaustion of feedings during the night, etc... So my feeling is that if I'm going to be so exhausted, I'd be terrified of falling into a deep sleep and rolling onto my baby. I just feel like if you're not conscious of what you're doing, anything is possible.

So maybe we should just agree to disagree on the matter because I personally feel it is risky to co-sleep and I choose not to take that risk. If someone else feels that they don't think they're going to roll over onto their baby during their sleep then I probably shouldn't say otherwise because everyone has a right to do what they want with their own children. So I'm sorry for starting off by saying "please don't co-sleep." It certainly wasn't my place. I probably should have instead said why I personally am afraid to do so.
As has been mentioned when BREASTFEEDING co-sleeping is an entirely different thing, not having experienced the hormones you will not understand how they affect your body, do you think all these women here would co-sleep if they thought for one minute they would roll on their baby???? I reiterate we are not stupid, we know the statistics and we know those who have had tragic incidents are results of male partners, drinkers, smokers, using duvets etc. My HV by rule of thumb had to say no to co-sleeping, but my midwife in actually knowing the statistics (which many doctors do not because they just follow a textbook) knew that for us co-sleeping was the best option for me to get more rest and for Elliot to still get his breastmilk. I totally respect women's decisions but don't come in here telling mothers WHAT WE ALREADY KNOW not only do we have the infomation but we have the experience also so please give us some credit.



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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 17:10 PM   48
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Another reason I'd be so afraid is for the exact reason someone mentioned as a positive of co-sleeping... Someone said they'd rather co-sleep due to the sheer exhaustion of feedings during the night, etc... So my feeling is that if I'm going to be so exhausted, I'd be terrified of falling into a deep sleep and rolling onto my baby. I just feel like if you're not conscious of what you're doing, anything is possible.

So maybe we should just agree to disagree on the matter because I personally feel it is risky to co-sleep and I choose not to take that risk. If someone else feels that they don't think they're going to roll over onto their baby during their sleep then I probably shouldn't say otherwise because everyone has a right to do what they want with their own children. So I'm sorry for starting off by saying "please don't co-sleep." It certainly wasn't my place. I probably should have instead said why I personally am afraid to do so.
As has been mentioned when BREASTFEEDING co-sleeping is an entirely different thing, not having experienced the hormones you will not understand how they affect your body, do you think all these women here would co-sleep if they thought for one minute they would roll on their baby???? I reiterate we are not stupid, we know the statistics and we know those who have had tragic incidents are results of male partners, drinkers, smokers, using duvets etc. My HV by rule of thumb had to say no to co-sleeping, but my midwife in actually knowing the statistics (which many doctors do not because they just follow a textbook) knew that for us co-sleeping was the best option for me to get more rest and for Elliot to still get his breastmilk. I totally respect women's decisions but don't come in here telling mothers WHAT WE ALREADY KNOW not only do we have the infomation but we have the experience also so please give us some credit.
Give me a break. I was very nice and respectful, and even apologized for the way I worded things, so you don't need to rake me over the coals here. I don't appreciate this entitled attitude simply because you've given birth and I haven't. God be willing I will have given birth by this time next year, and I don't intend to dismiss every woman's statements I don't agree with, just because she hasn't given birth yet.

Again, like I said in my last post, we can all agree to disagree. I don't want to take the chance when I have my baby... Maybe I just don't trust myself enough because I'm a neurotic lunatic.

PS I'm not a drinker, drug user, etc. and I sleep very lightly. And when one of my CATS makes a noise in the night I JUMP up. But I'm just too paranoid to co-sleep with my baby and there's nothing wrong with that.



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Old Jul 26th, 2011, 17:19 PM   49
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Nope, nothing wrong with that at all. As I stated before, we cosleep cuz it works for us, and we want to. But there's nothing wrong with not wanting to, or even just not doing it cuz you don't feel safe. You wouldn't be doing anyone any favors by cosleeping when you don't want to. Then you'd be stressed, you wouldn't sleep, and baby would pick up on your stress.

Do what works for you love, and ignore peoples opinions. You'll get really really good at that after you have your little miracle.



 
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Nope, nothing wrong with that at all. As I stated before, we cosleep cuz it works for us, and we want to. But there's nothing wrong with not wanting to, or even just not doing it cuz you don't feel safe. You wouldn't be doing anyone any favors by cosleeping when you don't want to. Then you'd be stressed, you wouldn't sleep, and baby would pick up on your stress.

Do what works for you love, and ignore peoples opinions. You'll get really really good at that after you have your little miracle.
Thanks, love, I really appreciate that. And I feel the same way you do - we should each do what works for us and our precious babies.



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