Humm, maybe it's a matter of changing the name or description of the tww? Because I did write a "am I pregnant?" post on the ttc thread when I first joined bnb. The reason I wrote there is because I didn't know where else to post - I was not in the "two week after ovulation" - I was a month late and didn't have a clue if I ovulated or not. So I didn't think I fit there.
I agree - I think the name of the TWW thread section should be changed. Maybe to 'Testing Area & Symptom Spotting' or something.
I had never even heard of a two week wait until I started actively looking around BNB.
Thats what I mean... Even in TWW I'd get annoyed with all the threads.
Surely as a 'mature' (or maybe not in some cases) woman, you would be smart enough to know that the only way to know if you were or not for sure, would be to take a test.
Strangers over the internet can't tell you no matter how many symptoms you post!
some people just want to talk about it. i posted something similar, but i have a coil and was feeling flutters and wanted to know if this was normal for the coil. im not immature just because of that!!!
I agree that some people just want to talk about it, to get that support from fellow friends. I stuck to posting in my journal so that I wouldn't get slammed in the threads. Some women just need the support, we should be able to give that support to them without them feeling 'guilty' that they are posting with people who are also waiting.
i never said you were immature. of course ask questions such as is it normal to feel flutters with the coil, but seriously, does anyone genuinely believe anyone can tell them if they are pregnant or not over the internet?! i mean come on... really?
I don't think anyone is hoping for a definite answer over the internet. People just want to talk about it, to ask if the symptoms they're feeling mean they are likely to be pregnant, to ask if a test can be faulty, to get encouragement to test and to find out if they aren't pregnant, why the heck are they experiencing these things. I don't think people are to blame for posting these threads, I just think they should be better advised as to where they should post them.
Myself personally have been on BNB for awhile now. I have gotten to know a few girls pretty good here in WTT. If I had a slip up (which can honestly happen at ANY time using ANY method as I know someone who had an IUD in and still got pg) I would wanna talk to THEM (as in my friends here) about it... rather then going into a new forum I never go into where it seems like "everyone knows your name" and you are a stray creeping in from the corner. And honestly, do you REALLY, like truely honestly feel sad/jealous/etc etc etc because a complete stranger on the internet is saying "I wonder if I am pg" ??? We all know it happens everyday everywhere. No complete stranger is going to make me cry cuz they are pg... maybe if everyone IRL around me got pg Yes lately there have been alot of them in here, but are we really that catty to single these people out and push them away? If they really were WTT and had a possible oopsie, and we attack them saying "GET THE F*CK OUTTA HERE WITH YOUR PG POST!" then they would not wanna come back here cuz they will be thinking we are all just a bunch of jealous catty bitches in here... and I'm sure we all know better then that. What can't we just simply say "Hey, it could be an oopsie but we are here for you friend"
We need a sticky here I think. If people are posting here in WTT because they want to talk with people they know, then so be it, but I think they can share one thread. It's rather annoying to come here to commiserate with people in the same position as me, only to find that a quarter of the posts are people who are not in the same position as me, but are people who think they might be pregnant. It's especially annoying when I click on one titled "Oopsies!" expecting someone sad over watching their niece making them more broody, but it's someone wondering if they're pregnant. At the very least a flag of some sort would be nice, just so I can avoid that sort of posts.
They are really getting on a lot of peoples last nerve now. Everyone is staying polite about it, but this is WAITING TO TRY.
There is two week wait or trying to concieve for that, and besides the point:
No one can tell you if you are pregnant or not. We ALL have pregnancy symptoms at some point or another, its called being female. We all get cramps every so often, or get tired, or have a late/miss a period. And thinking you are pregnant you read far more into these.
Its just getting stupid now. Unless you take a test, you won't know.
Pregnancies can unexpectedly happen even when WTT, why can't WTT buddies talk about these situations with their current buddies?
I do agree in some situations the member may want to/should consider using the 2WW section of the forum.
However your sarcastic and rude approach to follow is not appropriate. Who are you to try and belittle those who symptom spot, ask for opinions and share symptoms whist in the 2WW time? That's exactly one of the things BabyandBump is for. I'd appreciate it if you didn't patronise our members and make them feel out of place for using BabyandBump for it's purpose.
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