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Old Mar 3rd, 2012, 16:03 PM   11
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Ooo didnt want to read and run, because i was very broody from about 19/20. At that time i def wasnt in the right place not because of my age but my then fiance wasnt working and it just wasnt right. We married when i was 21 and started trying for a baby about a year later. Six months after that we separated and then divorced as i became very fed up of carrying him financially. I didnt become pregnant which at that time looking back now, was a blessing. I know now that i actually wasnt ready then but still kneewfor defo a family was my future.
Now i am 28 and own my home, have a reasonable job, and very happily married to my dh who works hard and is a great dad to our sons aged 15 weeks and 2 yrs, and we're going to try for baby 3 in a year or two. So glad i waited for a good time in my life. So my advice would be to finish uni, get that special home set up and then go for it! Ps not saying you will split from your oh, thats just what happened to me as an example of not being the right time to ttc. Absolute best of luck with everything xxx



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Old Mar 4th, 2012, 00:59 AM   12
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do keep in mind that you are waiting for all the right reasons. Finishing school, getting married and buying a home means that you will be able to provide for your future children and give them a very comfortable and good, stable life. I think all of us in WTT get these urges on a daily basis, I know my body is screaming to get pregnant again, even though my child is only 9 months old and it would be entirely crazy for me personally to have children so close in age, but I can't do a thing about these raging hormones. I have to remind myself why I am waiting, and that I am waiting for all the right reasons. I often distract myself with a hobby, which usually works. I know it is vary hard, and damn these horomones, they flare up when we don't need them too, but do your best, and keep an iron will about you



 
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Old Mar 8th, 2012, 01:54 AM   13
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Personally what I found has helped with my broodiness was moving in with my OH. The whole process of looking for a home kept me quite distracted from how much I wanted a baby because moving in together was a big step in our relationship and something that was very exciting to me. Maybe that is something you and your OH could think about doing and then work on getting set up financially so that when you do finish university you will be ready to TTC. If that is even what you both still want, it's amazing how broodiness can come and go.
thanks everyone ilovelucy, this was indeed a good distraction, we already moved in together 6 months ago and it has been amazing i don't think marriage will be coming any time soon though, as buying a house is top on our list. he's just the same about wanting kids. he'd be an amazinggggg father!!! whats the male word for broody?



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Old Mar 8th, 2012, 02:01 AM   14
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do keep in mind that you are waiting for all the right reasons. Finishing school, getting married and buying a home means that you will be able to provide for your future children and give them a very comfortable and good, stable life. I think all of us in WTT get these urges on a daily basis, I know my body is screaming to get pregnant again, even though my child is only 9 months old and it would be entirely crazy for me personally to have children so close in age, but I can't do a thing about these raging hormones. I have to remind myself why I am waiting, and that I am waiting for all the right reasons. I often distract myself with a hobby, which usually works. I know it is vary hard, and damn these horomones, they flare up when we don't need them too, but do your best, and keep an iron will about you
this is amazing advice. often i know the answers to my questions, but i need others to remind me. i know i have great reasons to wait, and I'm proud of myself for not giving in so that my child will have the best life possible, thats how i know ill be a good mum i already put my children first haha. its getting better now because uni and work has started up again and my life is fast passed. but still its lovely to know all you ladies have the same issue and can support me in waiting for the right reasons!! thanks its nice to talk to like-minded people



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Old Mar 11th, 2012, 14:02 PM   15
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I have never felt broody until now! 2 years after my LO was born lol!!!........ Our LO, although we love him to bits, was an accident. I fell pregnant in the jJan of my last year of uni. I still completed uni and sat through my exams 7 months preg lol!!!

It's worked out really well, although I did hope to do my teaching degree straight after uni I now have to put it on hold until Tom is in school (another 3 years yet!!). If it's what you and your OH want then just remember that it'll prob be easier first to finish uni and then you've got your degree, you can then concentrate on LO knowing that you have the starting blocks to follow on to a career afterwards x



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Old Dec 13th, 2016, 10:34 AM   16
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Im 13 and i feel the same(i would never do it until 20+) but im female-to-male so i dont know why,hormones?



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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 23:04 PM   17
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Having the same feeling


I have been having the same feeling for a few months and I'm only 21, turning 22 this wear and only have a year and few months left in nursing school. I really don't know why. I have always loved children but never had this urge because I knew I wasn't ready for a child and I would be freaked out if AF didn't come. Now, I'm okay if AF doesn't show her face. Ever since I started having this feeling my mom has been lecturing me more about ensuring I do not get pregnant at this point in time.



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Old Mar 21st, 2017, 23:29 PM   18
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I felt EXACTLY like this when I hit your age and got engaged to my now DH (I'm currently 25). I ended up getting pregnant unexpectedly a few months after the broody bug bit me hard and we ended up having to put off our wedding. I know it's hard right now but trust me the wait is worth it. I often picture how our life would have been if we could have gotten married, bought a house, and completed our goals first and it likely would have been better. At the same time I can't imagine life without our DS, he's so amazing and wonderful. I guess just ask what would make you happiest in the long run, a baby now or completing university and buying a house first. I didn't even start university yet and it's going to be so hard with 2 kids so definitely keep that in mind, it will definitely be easier for you to finish now especially if you only have 2 years left. It also may seem like an eternity away now but the time passes so much faster than you think it will. I still can't believe it's already been 5 years and 2 kids later, it feels like I blinked and now I'm here even though it felt like an eternity back then.



 
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Old May 1st, 2017, 13:33 PM   19
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I started to get broody when I was 15, I am now 4ish months away from turning 21, sadly still not in the position for a baby, lack of partner and what not, in the last 5.5 years it's never really gone away, has me in tears more often than I'd like to admit, feel like it's what I was born to do so putting all my time and energy into trying to find a career seems impossible, where I live it's not a definite that you'll go to University- most just go to work- and it was never really talked about so I never even thought much about it, when I did, I had no idea what I wanted to do, I've done courses in animal science (pre vet nursing), health science (pre-nursing), childcare, tourism, worked in cafes, takeaways, shops, been babysitting since I was 15 on and off, been a live in nanny. Nothing has helped and nothing has fit, I just always go back to wanting a child more than anything, I'm going to do a short term Health Service Assistant course so I can work (area I live has ALOT of people and not many jobs, for said people, so haven't been able to work recently, but currently seriously expanding with a lot more jobs in the next 6-18months) also have some weight to lose.. But yeah, certainly hasn't gotten any easier for me.. But taking it 1 month at a time, hopefully will meet the right guy and can save some money, then have a kid



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Old May 3rd, 2017, 13:41 PM   20
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You're not alone. I've broody for quite a few years now. Now i'm 20 and with someone very decent (its early days atm but I do believe he is my soulmate) and i'm still broody but I have uni to finish first. I start my last year in september.

The wait is so frustrating but it will be worth it and so much better if we wait until we're a position best to do so
Here I am, 5 years down the line and still firmly with my OH! ...still WTT, little did I know that when I finished uni I would be going back for another 2 years to do a masters degree. I'm finished uni now and started my own business and just waiting to buy a house. I'm almost 26 now and we are aiming to ttc next year, fingers crossed!



 
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