Advice needed ladies

Hanie22 · Mar 1st, 2012, 07:55 AM

Hi, Ive just turned 22 and my OH will be 49 in may, we've been going out for 5 years and are in a stable and loving relationship. We've recently been talking about me coming off Microgynon 30 at the end of april 2013 and starting to TTC from May 2013.
Ideally I'd like to come off at the end of September this year but OH wants to wait.

I'm worried we're leaving it too late because of his age I have red lots of stories that older partners are able to get there OH's pregnant. Am I just thinking into things too much?

HazzaB · Mar 1st, 2012, 09:49 AM

Hi hun and welcome!

I know it feels like ages but it is only a little over a year now. Why does he want to wait? Has he got children from a previous relationship? It is only a little while longer to wait. I was also going to be TTC in sept this year but we have set it back to may next as we have just got engaged and planning the wedding for this time next year. Have you got anything that will keep your mind busy until it is time to TTC?

Hanie22 · Mar 1st, 2012, 10:59 AM

I think my OH wants to wait as he said about getting engaged oct/nov time. Which i suppose is ok,

I think it's just because I'm an inpatient person which doesn't help. We've talked and I'm going to come off BCP in march so that I have time to regulate my cycle before trying in may

. So that's a plus! I have my holiday at the beginning of sept to keep me busy

and It will be magical if or when we bring our child into the world.

LockandKey · Mar 2nd, 2012, 22:25 PM

men are fertile longer than women are, I'm not sure if the chances for genetic disorders goes up with age as it does for women though. You may want to do a bit of research on the matter or seek out the opinion of a fertility counselor or a genetic disorder specialist, just to be safe

calliebaby · Mar 2nd, 2012, 23:14 PM

You started dating when you were 17 and he was 44?

Hanie22 · Mar 3rd, 2012, 04:13 AM

Lockandkey: thank you very much for your advice, it's something I have looked into.

Calliebaby: yeah we did get together then, you can't help who you fall in love with

and I'm glad I have

Trying2012 · Mar 3rd, 2012, 04:53 AM

The time will fly by.

You seem to have a lot of things to look forward to between now and then as well and your OH seems to be thinking of the bigger picture.

Good luck

I Love Lucy · Mar 3rd, 2012, 16:40 PM

My cousin is in her 20s and her husband is in her 40s. They have been having a difficult time TTC so her husband went and had his sperm count checked and it came back good. My cousin has had multiple problems with her ovaries since a young age so it wasn't really a surprise that the fertility problems were on her side. But I just thought it might help ease your mind knowing that her husband is in his 40s and still has a good sperm count for TTC.

calliebaby · Mar 11th, 2012, 17:54 PM

Not judging at all. Just intrigued. I wish you well.

Just thought I should clarify what my post. It sounded a bit rude.

Tishybabe · Mar 11th, 2012, 21:06 PM

The time will definitely fly by! Even though my OH and I are only one year apart, people think he is a lot older...lol. But as long as you are happy and love each other then its all good!

About WTT, its best that you are both on the same page....so waiting till you both are ready is best for everyone, especially the baby. You wouldn't want feelings of resentment.

xx

Mar 1st, 2012, 07:55 AM	#1
Hanie22 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Sunny Sussex Posts: 103	Advice needed ladies Hi, Ive just turned 22 and my OH will be 49 in may, we've been going out for 5 years and are in a stable and loving relationship. We've recently been talking about me coming off Microgynon 30 at the end of april 2013 and starting to TTC from May 2013. Ideally I'd like to come off at the end of September this year but OH wants to wait. I'm worried we're leaving it too late because of his age I have red lots of stories that older partners are able to get there OH's pregnant. Am I just thinking into things too much?

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Mar 1st, 2012, 09:49 AM	#2
HazzaB Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Gloucestershire, UK Posts: 406	Hi hun and welcome! I know it feels like ages but it is only a little over a year now. Why does he want to wait? Has he got children from a previous relationship? It is only a little while longer to wait. I was also going to be TTC in sept this year but we have set it back to may next as we have just got engaged and planning the wedding for this time next year. Have you got anything that will keep your mind busy until it is time to TTC?

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Mar 1st, 2012, 10:59 AM	#3
Hanie22 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Sunny Sussex Posts: 103	I think my OH wants to wait as he said about getting engaged oct/nov time. Which i suppose is ok, I think it's just because I'm an inpatient person which doesn't help. We've talked and I'm going to come off BCP in march so that I have time to regulate my cycle before trying in may . So that's a plus! I have my holiday at the beginning of sept to keep me busy and It will be magical if or when we bring our child into the world.

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Mar 2nd, 2012, 22:25 PM	#4
LockandKey Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: West Virginia Posts: 3,848	men are fertile longer than women are, I'm not sure if the chances for genetic disorders goes up with age as it does for women though. You may want to do a bit of research on the matter or seek out the opinion of a fertility counselor or a genetic disorder specialist, just to be safe

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Mar 2nd, 2012, 23:14 PM	#5
calliebaby Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: USA Posts: 3,619	You started dating when you were 17 and he was 44?

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Mar 3rd, 2012, 04:13 AM	#6
Hanie22 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Sunny Sussex Posts: 103	Lockandkey: thank you very much for your advice, it's something I have looked into. Calliebaby: yeah we did get together then, you can't help who you fall in love with and I'm glad I have

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Mar 3rd, 2012, 04:53 AM	#7
Trying2012 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 3,623	The time will fly by. You seem to have a lot of things to look forward to between now and then as well and your OH seems to be thinking of the bigger picture. Good luck

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Mar 3rd, 2012, 16:40 PM	#8
I Love Lucy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Illinois, USA Posts: 6,644	My cousin is in her 20s and her husband is in her 40s. They have been having a difficult time TTC so her husband went and had his sperm count checked and it came back good. My cousin has had multiple problems with her ovaries since a young age so it wasn't really a surprise that the fertility problems were on her side. But I just thought it might help ease your mind knowing that her husband is in his 40s and still has a good sperm count for TTC.

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Mar 11th, 2012, 17:54 PM	#9
calliebaby Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: USA Posts: 3,619	Not judging at all. Just intrigued. I wish you well. Just thought I should clarify what my post. It sounded a bit rude.

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Mar 11th, 2012, 21:06 PM	#10
Tishybabe Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Canada Posts: 66	The time will definitely fly by! Even though my OH and I are only one year apart, people think he is a lot older...lol. But as long as you are happy and love each other then its all good! About WTT, its best that you are both on the same page....so waiting till you both are ready is best for everyone, especially the baby. You wouldn't want feelings of resentment. xx

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