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toogrown4dat · Mar 9th, 2012, 22:16 PM

hi ladies

ive been on this board a while just been silent, but i feel its long over due that introduce myself. im 26 years old and in from manchester, ive been with my husband for 3 years been married for a year and half. i met my husband while i was on holiday in jamaica, been doing long distance and trust its been hard. we used to see each other every 3 months for two weeks, so i havent been on any contaception since 2009. we have no children but try every 3-6 months (haha sounds bad that doesnt it) well ive applied for his visa to come and settle over here should hear something back june the latest and then we will be actively trying to concieve. but is there anything i should be doing to prepare myself for trying for a baby, i dont smoke never have dont really drink so yeah i domt know what else to say just hii i guess

Vonnie18 · Mar 10th, 2012, 02:25 AM

Hi and welcome to BnB

I hope your hubby can get over here soon, it's great that you've managed the long distance for so long. That can't have been easy!
As for preparing for TTC you could start taking folic acid, eating a healthy diet? X

NurseSooz · Mar 10th, 2012, 03:07 AM

Folic acid mainly! Fingers crossed for you!

_jellybean_ · Mar 10th, 2012, 05:50 AM

Yes...definitely folic acid. I would also take a prenatal vitamin, and just try to stay healthy overall. Where are you moving? To Jamaica? Just curious.

I'm WTT until August.

goddess25 · Mar 10th, 2012, 13:50 PM

You need to be taking Folic Acid mainly for around 3 months before trying to conceive as it takes that long for it to be absorbed. You need to take it for the entire 3rd trimester too.

Quackquack99 · Mar 11th, 2012, 10:01 AM

I have no advice but I was born and bred in manchester.

MindUtopia · Mar 12th, 2012, 05:49 AM

Just wanted to say welcome! I was actually in the same position last year as your husband is now (I'm American and my now husband is English, and I moved here to the UK to be with him after we met in India where we were both working 4 years ago). Getting all your visas in order can be a real bitch (not to mention so expensive!). I now have my leave to remain (though not the indefinite leave to remain yet, that will come when I reapply in 3 years). So let me know if you have any questions or anything. And hang in there! It's a real pain and stressful (I'm so glad the idea of TTC hadn't even occurred to us yet then), but it is so much better once you can be together that it's totally worth it in the end!

I Love Lucy · Mar 12th, 2012, 11:45 AM

Welcome to BnB and WTT! My OH and I dated long distance for a couple years and it was definitely challenging. So for that reason, I really hope your DH is able to get his visa.

As for TTC, I think the main thing is taking folic acid at least 3 months before TTC. And just making sure you are eating and exercising so you're healthy.

Mar 9th, 2012, 22:16 PM	#1
toogrown4dat Trying to conceive (TTC) New BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 8	silent member now being more active hi ladies ive been on this board a while just been silent, but i feel its long over due that introduce myself. im 26 years old and in from manchester, ive been with my husband for 3 years been married for a year and half. i met my husband while i was on holiday in jamaica, been doing long distance and trust its been hard. we used to see each other every 3 months for two weeks, so i havent been on any contaception since 2009. we have no children but try every 3-6 months (haha sounds bad that doesnt it) well ive applied for his visa to come and settle over here should hear something back june the latest and then we will be actively trying to concieve. but is there anything i should be doing to prepare myself for trying for a baby, i dont smoke never have dont really drink so yeah i domt know what else to say just hii i guess

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Mar 10th, 2012, 02:25 AM	#2
Vonnie18 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Fife, Scotland Posts: 457	Hi and welcome to BnB I hope your hubby can get over here soon, it's great that you've managed the long distance for so long. That can't have been easy! As for preparing for TTC you could start taking folic acid, eating a healthy diet? X

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NurseSooz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Edinburgh Posts: 988	Folic acid mainly! Fingers crossed for you!

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_jellybean_ AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 7,600	Yes...definitely folic acid. I would also take a prenatal vitamin, and just try to stay healthy overall. Where are you moving? To Jamaica? Just curious. I'm WTT until August.

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goddess25 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: vancouver Posts: 9,264	You need to be taking Folic Acid mainly for around 3 months before trying to conceive as it takes that long for it to be absorbed. You need to take it for the entire 3rd trimester too.

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Mar 11th, 2012, 10:01 AM	#6
Quackquack99 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Lancashire, UK Posts: 2,844	I have no advice but I was born and bred in manchester.

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Mar 12th, 2012, 05:49 AM	#7
MindUtopia Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Dorset, UK Posts: 3,757	Just wanted to say welcome! I was actually in the same position last year as your husband is now (I'm American and my now husband is English, and I moved here to the UK to be with him after we met in India where we were both working 4 years ago). Getting all your visas in order can be a real bitch (not to mention so expensive!). I now have my leave to remain (though not the indefinite leave to remain yet, that will come when I reapply in 3 years). So let me know if you have any questions or anything. And hang in there! It's a real pain and stressful (I'm so glad the idea of TTC hadn't even occurred to us yet then), but it is so much better once you can be together that it's totally worth it in the end!

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Mar 12th, 2012, 11:45 AM	#8
I Love Lucy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Illinois, USA Posts: 6,493	Welcome to BnB and WTT! My OH and I dated long distance for a couple years and it was definitely challenging. So for that reason, I really hope your DH is able to get his visa. As for TTC, I think the main thing is taking folic acid at least 3 months before TTC. And just making sure you are eating and exercising so you're healthy.

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