I have not felt the need to come on here in a long time, I have been really good lately I have been keeping busy and have been planning a big holiday. But last night i was a blubbering mess!! OH's best friend has been dating a girl for 6 weeks she has a 3 month old baby to another man, that I was ok with, but then he text OH last night saying she is 6 weeks pregnant so the first time they had sex she got pregnant. I just burst into tears when OH told me, how is it fair that they have only been together that long she already has a 3 month old and she is pregnant again and here I am after 2 m/c having to wait not only was I sad I was mad as i know she has done this on purpose to trap him but he seems happy with it for now so of course I will be supportive of him.

I am just so jelious and I dont know what to do, I got away on holiday in just over a week so i know that will keep my mind off of it for a month but then when i see her belly growing and when its born, i just dont know how I am going to be able to cope, they have asked OH to be the godfather and they are going to name it his name if it is a boy.
It is going to be another 4-5 years before we will start trying I just cant handle this

Sorry to hear what your going through. I know that after my losses I found it difficult dealing with other peoples pregnancies too, especially in friends that I would see often. The loss always felt more profound when I would see their growing tummy,s and hear stories if first kicks etc.

Nothing much I can say really apart from its ok to be sad. You will find ways of coping with it when you see this girl.

I understand hun how you feel...Jealousy is a rotton feeling!!

HOWEVER...To be honest, your friend's (and his new girlfriend's) situation doesn't sound anywhere near ideal!! Having a 12 week old baby to one dad and being 6 weeks pregnant to a different man, with whom you have JUST met, actually sounds pretty bad and could echo a storyline from a soap!!

Try to console yourself with the fact that when YOU get pregnant and have a baby it WILL be an ideal situation!!

I agree with this completely.

I agree with this poster entirely. What a mess-up that whole situation is! And the only ones that will suffer are those two little babies. I hope you friend and his new girlfriend can stay together happily for the sake of those children and I think you friend will be needing your support as I can't imagine this will all be plain sailing. I hope you feel better soon, I am sure you will feel much better after a holiday away from the situation

oh can he be sure he is the dad? just a thought...

why dont people practice safe sex?..

dont worry your time will come, and your baby will be loved and wanted and in a stable family xx

This must be so hard for you, sending you massive hugs xxxxx

I agree with what the others have said - it's not an ideal situation for them to bring a baby into and even though you're waiting and it's hard, it will be worth it because your baby will be born at the right time for you xxxxx

I think this poster said it perfectly!

yep not my type of situation id want to be in hun and hey we're waiting for 2015 dec to try so your not on your own chick .

i'm sorry your going through this but like everybody has said that is not the best situation to have a baby in and in the long run you'll be able to offer so much more than them to your little baby. Your doing the best thing trying to keep busy and not focus on the waiting, i had so many lists of jobs to distract me when i was waiting, i found it's the only way to get through it, keep up your strength it will be worth it in the end xxxxxxxxx