This insecurity about having a third child, and when, is starting to get to me..

Have all you ladies a date where you know your gonna start TTC?

We're currently NTNP. But I'm not sure if this is a good time to get preggo.
We're moving in a year, I'll have to finish med. school. My hubby is in the army, and will prob go away next autumn. But when will it ever be a good time?

I really would like to complete our family. And give my youngest a sibling close in age. And be done with my pregnancies, getting my body back to "normal".

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, it's just a nagging feeling that eats me up. When can we be done?? I just want to stop obsessing over this, I'm starting to think theres something wrong with me, constantly thinking about babies and getting pregnant, when I allready have a gorgeous 6mo old.

Do I even make any sense?

I think that trying for another LO is a great idea - things will never be perfect for anyone but if it's what you want then go for it - and there's nothing wrong with wanting another bub! Good luck xxxx

I've seen many threads here full of women feeling jealous of others who are pregnant, or women who want to get pregnant again even thought they still have a baby. I, myself, don't have any kids yet but I've got babies on the brain most of the time! I don't think there is anything wrong with you feeling the way you do. In fact, it seems pretty normal!

My DH and I are planning to start TTC in the summer. I want to start in early July, but I have some medical things to sort out first (nothing serious) and I worry I'll have to push back our start date. On the other hand, I wish we could wait until we were more financially secure. I'm unemployed right now and my DH is considering a major career change later this year. It would truly suck to be pregnant and have no family income! However, I'm in my late 30s and DH is over 40 so we both know if we want a family we can't put it off. Life throws many curve balls. Some are expected, like moving, career changes or military deployment. Some, like illness in the family or my unexpected job loss, are not. There's no such thing as the perfect time, so as long as you have a support system in place to help you during your move and if/when your DH is deployed, you'll be fine!

Like the other ladies have said, I think it's pretty normal to want to have babies and to think about it quite a bit. We're biologically built that way.

As for when is a right time, I think it's really important to weigh the pros and cons. Do you want to be pregnant or have a small baby when you move? I didn't which is why I'm waiting until after our move. Will finishing med school be difficult for you with 3 children? Would you and your DH be okay with missing out on parts of your pregnancy or early parts of his child's life if he were to be deployed? One of my friends found out she was pregnant right when her husband was deployed. She had to go through the entire pregnancy, birth, and first few months of her child's life without her husband. It was very difficult for her having to do it all alone. I don't think any of us can really tell you that you should or shouldn't try now because ultimately it's a decision you and your DH have to make. But I hope giving you some things to think about will make it easier for you to decide.

Well, we decided to give it a go. His now deployed, so I'm crossing my fingers this month. We based our the decision on the fact that we do not know when his gonna be back. And I felt like having our last child is more important to me, than the fact that it's gonna be hard to manage with 3 kids, moving, school and everything while his gone. The main thing in my life are my children, and I didn't really feel done with my family. With that said, chances are slim we made it this month, which means waiting at least a year for our next chance to try. But it's easier when it's not up to us, kinda. Anyhow! I hope all you lovely ladies are doing good! xx

good luck hun

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Thank you so much! That's exactly what I needed right now! (It's allways a good idea to go on BnB when your feeling a bit down

I think how your feeling is normal. I can relate aswel as after my DD I DIDN'T want another baby but felt like I should for her and worried about it constantly when is the right time etc. one day my mind changed. So you can use protection again if it makes you feel better and then you might feel ready in a month or so? X

I'm glad you made a decision. Good luck and sending you lots of

Thank you! Yes, I can see that it's a common problem It's actually a old thread. We have been TTC but now his deployed, and I'm one day late. Crossing my fingers it's not due to the stress of him leaving, although thats a good explanation. (Got a bfn this morning, but I'm trying to keep my hopes up till it's really over).

Are you TTC now? xx