When to try for number 2?

jellytots2010 · Mar 27th, 2012, 16:06 PM

Hi Fellow Lovely Ladies!

I just wondered what your thoughts are on the best age gap between little ones? My little one is 9 months now and I need to decide when to start TTC our second. Should we wait until he is older or go for a closer age gap? Just wondered if anyone had any insights? It seems to be a hugely debated topic!

Also, how many babies are you all planning on having? DH has a thing about even numbers! So for me it is either 2 or 4. Can't decide!! Too many decisions now. Need a little help and YOUR opinions! Please!! I hope you don't mind.

Thank you fellow WTTers! Lots of baby dust to you all when you get there xxx

brenn09 · Mar 27th, 2012, 16:46 PM

I don't have any children but didn't want to read & run!

OH and I have discussed how many children we *think* we want, but have really only decided that's a decision we should make after having our first. I think we'll have a child and adopt a child, so a minimum of 2 possibly 3... I really doubt we would intentionally have more than three though...

Since we're getting pregnant/carrying our first child then adopting our second, we've discussed waiting until the first birthday then starting the adoption process but that will be decided more by our financial situation than anything else. After that, we won't have any control over when we get our second child!

Hope this helps and it'll bump the thread up so some mommies can answer with their experience!

Leeze · Mar 27th, 2012, 17:49 PM

Hi there. We're planning another one, waiting till LO is 1 before starting TTC. Mainly we're waiting because I had a c-section so want to let my by body recover. I like the idea of having 2 quite close in age but also having a bit more time getting used to having one! Hopefully you'll know when the time feels right xx

mommyB · Mar 27th, 2012, 18:43 PM

We are planning a 2 year age gap, so starting next month would do that. We only plan on having two anyways.

tinkerbelle93 · Mar 27th, 2012, 19:38 PM

I have no idea when to start ttc a second!

I don't want a huge age gap though. There's 7 years between me and my only sibling and I've always felt like an only child, I would have loved a sibling closer in age! xx

USAF_WIFE · Mar 27th, 2012, 19:58 PM

My first and second have 3 year 2 month age gap and they are awesome together and I am managing fairly well but I am trying for my 3rd atm and the age gap is prob going to be a loooot smaller with these too dependent on how fast we conceive.

mummyclo · Mar 28th, 2012, 02:39 AM

We are planning around a 3 year gap but only because my lo is a whirlwind and I want to spend a good couple of years getting to know him.
I thought that then by the time we have the next he will be going to Nursery so will have some time wih the new baby too.
If I want another though will have to be close in age as OH wants to be done having children by 40.
I don't think there is a difinitive answer to this though as there are Pros and cons either way. You just need to decide which would suit your family better.

MarineWAG · Mar 28th, 2012, 06:16 AM

We're going for a 3 year gap so waiting until January, I feel this is enough time to have gotten a lot of the 'trickier' stuff out the way- potty training, teething, be in his own bed not cot, basically be a lot more independent, and so we have more time just the 3 of us. But that it's still a small enough gap to be close siblings, my brother and I had 3 years between us which I felt was just right growing up. Also, I would like to remain working so it would mean Elliot would be on the 15 hour free childcare by the time I finished maternity leave. I would like a 2 year gap if I was braver, but I think it would be just a bit too much work for me, we're still settling into family life now haha. We will probably only have 2 kids.....very maybe 3 but I doubt it x

Quackquack99 · Mar 28th, 2012, 06:24 AM

I'm waiting for atleast another 2 years. There are a few things we need to do first. I am happy to wait but I'm getting slightly broody now.

MoldyVoldy · Mar 28th, 2012, 07:24 AM

I'd like our kids to have a 3 yr gap but thats not happening bc DH is adamant we wait until he is fully finished with school...or at least start trying once hes in his last semester. So our kids are likely to have a 4 or even 5 yr gap. It isnt ideal imo but it will still be great

Mar 27th, 2012, 16:06 PM	#1
jellytots2010 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 126	When to try for number 2? Hi Fellow Lovely Ladies! I just wondered what your thoughts are on the best age gap between little ones? My little one is 9 months now and I need to decide when to start TTC our second. Should we wait until he is older or go for a closer age gap? Just wondered if anyone had any insights? It seems to be a hugely debated topic! Also, how many babies are you all planning on having? DH has a thing about even numbers! So for me it is either 2 or 4. Can't decide!! Too many decisions now. Need a little help and YOUR opinions! Please!! I hope you don't mind. Thank you fellow WTTers! Lots of baby dust to you all when you get there xxx

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Mar 27th, 2012, 16:46 PM	#2
brenn09 Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: US Posts: 1,769	I don't have any children but didn't want to read & run! OH and I have discussed how many children we think we want, but have really only decided that's a decision we should make after having our first. I think we'll have a child and adopt a child, so a minimum of 2 possibly 3... I really doubt we would intentionally have more than three though... Since we're getting pregnant/carrying our first child then adopting our second, we've discussed waiting until the first birthday then starting the adoption process but that will be decided more by our financial situation than anything else. After that, we won't have any control over when we get our second child! Hope this helps and it'll bump the thread up so some mommies can answer with their experience!

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Mar 27th, 2012, 17:49 PM	#3
Leeze Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,913	Hi there. We're planning another one, waiting till LO is 1 before starting TTC. Mainly we're waiting because I had a c-section so want to let my by body recover. I like the idea of having 2 quite close in age but also having a bit more time getting used to having one! Hopefully you'll know when the time feels right xx

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Mar 27th, 2012, 18:43 PM	#4
mommyB Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 4,075	We are planning a 2 year age gap, so starting next month would do that. We only plan on having two anyways.

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Mar 27th, 2012, 19:38 PM	#5
tinkerbelle93 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: UK Posts: 1,941	I have no idea when to start ttc a second! I don't want a huge age gap though. There's 7 years between me and my only sibling and I've always felt like an only child, I would have loved a sibling closer in age! xx

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Mar 27th, 2012, 19:58 PM	#6
USAF_WIFE Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: VA Posts: 1,331	My first and second have 3 year 2 month age gap and they are awesome together and I am managing fairly well but I am trying for my 3rd atm and the age gap is prob going to be a loooot smaller with these too dependent on how fast we conceive.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 02:39 AM	#7
mummyclo Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Posts: 5,351	We are planning around a 3 year gap but only because my lo is a whirlwind and I want to spend a good couple of years getting to know him. I thought that then by the time we have the next he will be going to Nursery so will have some time wih the new baby too. If I want another though will have to be close in age as OH wants to be done having children by 40. I don't think there is a difinitive answer to this though as there are Pros and cons either way. You just need to decide which would suit your family better.

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Mar 28th, 2012, 06:16 AM	#8
MarineWAG Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: UK Posts: 4,642	We're going for a 3 year gap so waiting until January, I feel this is enough time to have gotten a lot of the 'trickier' stuff out the way- potty training, teething, be in his own bed not cot, basically be a lot more independent, and so we have more time just the 3 of us. But that it's still a small enough gap to be close siblings, my brother and I had 3 years between us which I felt was just right growing up. Also, I would like to remain working so it would mean Elliot would be on the 15 hour free childcare by the time I finished maternity leave. I would like a 2 year gap if I was braver, but I think it would be just a bit too much work for me, we're still settling into family life now haha. We will probably only have 2 kids.....very maybe 3 but I doubt it x

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Mar 28th, 2012, 06:24 AM	#9
Quackquack99 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Lancashire, UK Posts: 2,844	I'm waiting for atleast another 2 years. There are a few things we need to do first. I am happy to wait but I'm getting slightly broody now.

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MoldyVoldy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: FL Posts: 39	I'd like our kids to have a 3 yr gap but thats not happening bc DH is adamant we wait until he is fully finished with school...or at least start trying once hes in his last semester. So our kids are likely to have a 4 or even 5 yr gap. It isnt ideal imo but it will still be great

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