1. I want to give my body a break since I just had an EMCS less than 5
months ago.

2. I want my kids to be at least 1.5 - 2 years apart.

3. I just want to enjoy having one child right now.

I am waiting to lose some weight and also pay off my personal loan before baby #2 arrives so I can afford to be off work (maternity leave)

We owe family money and want to be clear with that so we can spend our spare cash on our bubba. We could get by on my OH's wage, JUST, which would mean

I think we're a bit too young and the moment and I'm considering going back into education.
Would like a nicer house.
Would like to move back closer to our parents.
I'd like to have more savings.

We are currently in college, we want to graduate, secure a career and buy our first home before we start ttc. Though I'm hopeful that we can start ttc while in the process of looking for a home. DH graduates December 2013, so that what I'm shooting for as our ttc date. I am, however, going to start fertility testing a few months beforehand as my cycles haven't been normal. Since both our children were "surprises", we want the next one to be completely planned! Lol
Fortunately I graduate April 2013, so I'll be able to start saving and secure a career while DH is finishing school. It's hard sometimes because our son is turning 3 next month and I'm ready to start ttc. Just wish we were in the right place in our lives to do so.

We're just flat out not ready. We're not ready emotionally, we're not ready health wise, we're not ready financially, and I would say that we're not quite ready relationship stability wise. We need to get to a point where we're actually comfortable having a discussion about the issue before we can even start to think about when we're going to try and TTC.

We're wait because Lili is only young and we have to wait for my Peorid to back back and to get used to motherhood!!!!!

1. We are waiting until next year when gracie will be starting nursery. We had her when her brother Connor was at school, and it worked out great for us. We got to spend all day with gracie whilst connor was at school, then when he finished we got to spend good quality time with him.

2. We are living in a 2 bedroom house at the moment, so we need to make sure we have a bigger house before we can have another one!

1. Because I need some help, before seriously planning to have children.

That's like the umbrella reason for all my other reasons Hoping to find some answers here, maybe some contacts, maybe some help, maybe some exchange...so here's the 'real' list:

- I have anxiety problems since about 3 months now and don't want to put a child through having a Mom like me.

- I am diagnosed with Asperger's Autism and even though I manage okay, I don't know if I am fit to raise a child.

- I moved to America to live with my husband, but my entire family and friends are in Germany and will stay there (I am German) so I don't know if I can deal with being pregnant, having a baby and raising a child...all without my family and friends. Especially my parents and siblings.

- We are just starting out together and have a lot of financial troubles, so that has to be much more stable before we want to add a child to our little family.

- I am very scared of being pregnant and giving birth as I am a very sensitive and worried person in general so I don't know, if I can do it...

- I don't have any friends here or really even know anybody besides my husband and feel like I need much more support.

- Healthcare in America is SO expensive! We can't afford insurance and we can't afford paying for healthcare ourselves either so that bothers me a lot, when thinking about having a baby and also thinking about taking care of him/her when he/she gets sick.

- I am in general very very doubtful when it comes to the question if I could ever be a good Mom

Well as you can see a lot of stuff going on in my head and I really want children...but I feel like it will never happen I am seriously looking for people to talk to here, maybe people with similar issues to exchange some experiences etc. I have not given up hope just yet.

Also so that I can lose some weight!