all I think about is my future, the babies i desperately want. I don't appreciate now- I just want it to zoom by so it can finally be my turn. it especially hurts because I'm so young, only just turning 20. I want to stop being broody because I know one day I will want the time back that sped past waiting, and I want to have other priorities and enjoy my last years of 'freedom' like everyone says. but I'm sorry, I don't care about freedom, I don't want it anymore.

I have 2 more years to wait, but its like an intense calling within me that I can't ignore.

does anyone else feel like this?

what would you suggest to do? i know they say keep busy, but I'm VERY busy with uni and its still not working.

I would love some support, you guys are amazing

That is exactly how I feel right now.
I'm only just turning 20 too and everyone alwayss tells me I'm so young - live your life! But sometimes the broodiness just takes over..
I also have about 2 years to wait and it seems soo long
But I know the wait will be that more worth it.

I really have no advice since I am struggling with the same situation. Usually writing down what I feel helps but lately it hasn't I am actually thinking about making a channel on youtube and share my broodiness with others (if there is any) Doesn't hurt to try..

I know what you mean. I just turned 21 last week, and I'm constantly wishing my life away.

First it was wishing it away wanting to move into the house, now its wishing the next 2 months away until the wedding, then it will be wishing it away until the honeymoon then it will be wishing each month away until payday to see the money building up to pay family back.

Then hopefully we can get some savings together, and know that TCC isn't far away, but I know what you mean, I don't have any tips I'm afraid as I'm in the same boat!

thanks! its lovely to know there are some people my age out there who aren't just interested in getting drunk and sleeping round. i always felt so different to people my age, like i just didn't belong- i never understood them. I just want stability and family my family was never very good or not around much so I'm looking forward to having a REAL one, giving all my love to a child. its like I'm stuck in time and can't move forward, I'm so impatient.

i don't think this site is helping with the broodiness

Heck, I'm 24, and my mother is still telling me I'm "too young" to have a child!

I really think we should just listen to our hearts rather than all the people around us. That's what I'm going to do. We have one little hurdle and that is concerning my husband's legal papers, but after that is accomplished we're going to start trying. Screw anyone who doesn't agree! lol.

Hey! I know how you feel. I've been so desperate to have a baby since I was about 20 (I'm 23 in June) but OH and I wanted to get our house sorted (I was 19 when we got our house together) and get good jobs, married etc.

We have our house sorted now, we both have better jobs and we are getting married a week on Saturday, we are off on honeymoon to Australia for 4 weeks in May where we will finally start TTC (well technically NTNP). I found it really hard, and still do even though it is so close. I wish I'd found this forum when I was 20 because there is so much love and support here from people who feel the exact same way. Unfortunately I can't offer any real solution but sharing your feelings with others and look forward to that time.

Sorry I'm not able to offer more advice but I've been in your situation and I'm proof it will happen wish I could help you more! Happy to help in any way I can/if you ever want to chat/vent. X

Ps sorry if this is a bit jumbled, trying to type it on my phone and can't see the whole screen at once!

I'm 31 and my mother still freaks out when I tell her we will be TTC soon!

I do understand what you mean though, not as much in the being young part, because even though I always knew I would have children one day, I didn't actually feel the urge until I hit 29/30 (and even then it wasn't that strong because my husband and I were stuck in different countries, so having a child wasn't an option). But I do know what you mean about 'wishing your life away' or not enjoying the time and freedom you have now because you are so focused on getting pregnant one day. I definitely feel like WTT has meant having too much of a singular focus on the future instead of enjoying the present. It's helped somewhat to make a list of all the things I want to do now so I'll be as ready as possible for a child - like getting healthy, spending lots of alone time with my husband, traveling and doing other spontaneous things. But I definitely feel like I'm not enjoying life the way I'd like to be because all I think about is the future.

I don't think being in the present and enjoying life has to mean partying and sleeping around like a lot of 19/20 year olds do (but to be honest, though I didn't exactly 'sleep around' a ton, I'm glad I had the years of craziness that I did when I was in my 20s), but maybe there are things you really want to do that you could focus on in the mean time? Are there any sports or other activities you really want to do that you couldn't easily do when pregnant? Any places you want to travel? Education or job skills you want to get now? All that stuff is obviously easier when you don't have a child to think about and prioritize, so maybe it would help to set little goals to achieve now that would make the wait seem less difficult. I think this is different than just staying busy, but it's more about setting goals and ticking them off the list so you feel like you are getting closer and closer to TTC. I know that's easier said than done! But trust me, time goes faster than you realize and before long, your time will be here and you'll feel ready to move forward knowing you got to do all those things.

I feel exactly the same hun. I'm 28 and am watching everyone around me announce their engagement or the fact that they're pregnant. I want a baby so badly and although I'm so happy for my friends it hurts a little more each time knowing its still not me. I really wanted to start trying last July but my OH said we had to wait a year, now he's saying we will try in December. I know it's only a few more months to wait but I have already waited nearly a year longer than I thought I was going to. A close friend of mine has just announced she is pregnant and I always had it in my head that we'd experience pregnancy at the same time and go through everything together. Feel so stupid for thinking that
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I was just thinking about this a few days ago. I can't wait until my OH and I live together and have a family, etc but I know that its a few years away and though I wish it could be now, I don't want to wish my life away

I'm turning 21 this year and i've so much to do before we can even consider stuff like that, feels like we'll never get there. I wish the broodiness would go away so I can just enjoy what we have without it getting in the way

I'm with you on this! Young 20s here, and I want the package deal already. When my mom heard I was getting married she (and most others) thought I was crazy lol. The thing is, not all of us like to party, lay around all day, and enjoy making new irresponsible mistakes for a good time. I'm still in college, but out soon with a job lined up, and my fiancé still has another 6 years in college before he's through for his chosen career path. Waiting 6 years to marry and have children, I may Explode. Lol. We both agree that it's better to be able to grow up with your child. The relationship you share at say 20 will be much different than one at 30. (When looking at less mature counterparts, older is better though of course.). I should be enjoying this peaceful time supposedly, but I've been in a relationship for 5 years now, we live together, and I have no interest in the things I "should.". No worries, if we suddenly go through some backslide of wanting those times, the kids have to go to college or start life sometime! I've met many older couples enjoying silly things then!