I may only have one child and want a big age gap but that doesent mean I don't have any experience of age gaps.

My cousin has a 3 year old, a two year old and a 9 week old, she takes them to the park but can't actively play with her older two for two reasons, they are different ages so want to play on different parts of the park and even if she did choose she still can't play with them because she is stuck with the newborn.

I know I don't want that.

You are correct.
I am sincerely sorry (which i thought i already said)?

I recently had baby #2 and have a 21 month age gap.

It is hard, but nowhere near as hard as i dreaded so far. I found pregnancy + toddler far more difficult, especially as my daughter is big for her age and it was really tough lifting and things like that. It still is after having had a c/s. Looking after the two of them has been fairly cruisey so far. The difficulty is more dealing with the lack of sleeping and coping with toddler's moodiness and tantrums.

It is worth taking into account how your body handles pregnancy and how you will handle demands of your existing child during that. It was really hard being exhausted from pregnancy plus dealing with multiple wake ups for example, and by the end, i could barely walk and really was a terrible mum through no fault of my own. It can be hard dealing with that.

something else to take into account, is being able to leave the house! its really hard with two so close in age.

I think all age gaps have pros and cons. I did lots of research on it, and actually preferred the idea of a 3 year age gap. As I liked the idea of having a kid old enough that you could reason with them a little bit, that it'd be far less crazy, more chance of older child sleeping through the night, easier to take them both out alone, etc. We ended up deciding on closer together as I'm in my 30s and wanted to leave more time to have a third (if we decide on a 3rd) and also dont want to return to work until they are at school, but dont want to be home forever. Where i live, my kids will only be a year apart at school, any further apart in age and it would have been 2 years.

I have 4 siblings with varying age gaps and how will we all get along is far more dependent on our personalities than our age gaps.

Definitely try wait for the 19 month age gap. Your 1st born will be old enough to appreciate his/her little sibling and will be more understanding. 19 month age gap is perfect!

hello im on the east coast to im in rhode island i see your in nh

i have no exp with any age gap and dont think any age gap is the perefect one lol

but i think for me and my hubby and my daughter the best gap will be 2years 2 1/2 yrs apart

everyone has a opinion some your gonna agree with some not

i hope in the end you find the age gap your looking for OP

but i do have a brother younger by 3.5 years and we got along very good close and still close today

I have a brother who is 3,5 years older than me and we fought a LOT as kids + I was always jealous of him lol. But since I became a teenager we became quite good friends and are good friend till today.

I'm already afraid of sleep deprivation so I want baby no 1 to STTN before I get preggo again. I'd also like LO 1 to night be in diapers anymore..I think a 3-4 year age gap would be ideal for me. IF I can keep infertility fears at bay...sometimes I think I'll just go for the 2nd NTNP right away because of a fear of not being able to conceive at all...

it depends on the person mine are 10 months and 22 days apart and i love it we are currently trying for baby number 3

The perfect gap for us would be around two years.

It would allow me to go back to work part time for a year, save a bit of money and enjoy our son before trying for another

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My implant gets taken out on the 29th. So we are starting to try at the same time as we did with Sophie. I conceived the first time with her. So if we do with this one then there will be a 2 year gap, which I think is nice!