What do you think is a good age gap??

Sam3starX · Apr 8th, 2012, 12:11 PM

Me and OH are going to start TTC again in August 2012 so if it happens straight away there will be a 19 month age gap which we think is a good gap, not to far but not to close

even though i am soooooooooooooo broody now but if we TTC now there'll be 15 months apart and i feel like thats a bit to soon and i dont want LO to feel pushed out etc

What do you guys think is a good age gap?

twilightgeek · Apr 8th, 2012, 12:18 PM

personally i think the 18month-2 years apart is perfect

from personal experience from me and my younger brother

MarineWAG · Apr 8th, 2012, 13:24 PM

Personally I think 3 years for us, I'd like LO potty trained, in a bed and with all his teeth lol so he's more manageable with a newborn not a young toddler and a newborn, also, I hope to keep working so it would make childcare more affordable as he'll have 15 hours pre-school paid by the time I am off maternity with the second if all goes to plan.

EstelSeren · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:39 PM

Hoping for 18 months- 2 years between 1st and 2nd, so we're trying again from September. Would be aiming for a longer gap than that between 2nd and 3rd babies though as would want eldest to be in full time school first!

Beca

Guppy051708 · Apr 8th, 2012, 23:47 PM

i love our age gap - 17 months...but then again, im bias

tbh, i think an age gap of 15 months - 20 months would be perfect!
i love having them close in age.
From what i hear my friends with children with age gaps more than 2.5 years, it actually seems harder than a closer one, but i cant say that from experience, just my observations and their comments.

also, i was so scared, about having two close in age, during my pregnancy. but then once he got here...piece of cake! its so easy if you babywear! thats one reason why i think its easier, babywear one and put the other in the stroller or whereever. now that ive had two under 17 months for 2 months now, i realize i wasted loads of time being anxious. i think the first is actually harder than having 2

2011butterfly · Apr 9th, 2012, 03:42 AM

Me and my brother are 11 months apart! Where as between me and my younger sister theres 6 years!

lozzy21 · Apr 9th, 2012, 04:47 AM

3/4 years for me. I want to give my children quality time with us which we couldent do with a small age gap.

eddjanuary10 · Apr 9th, 2012, 05:36 AM

I think whatever feels right for you is good

I always think nature has a way of telling you its time, whether that be you feeling broody or for me I just got my AF back after 3 years lol and DH & I would like to ttc towards the end of the year now. My son is just starting to sleep good at night now and we would like to have him sleeping in his own room in advance of us ttc (we still co-sleep) so if we had another baby before now I think it would have been more exhausting with a toddler and new born both waking in the night and wanting bf!

I just wanted to add, theres 12 years between my younger sister and me and we are very close, I used to change her nappys and looked after her alot but now we are like best friends and both mothers to toddlers now! My other sister & bro who are only a couple of years apart can fight like cat and dog! So you never know! x

lepaskilf · Apr 9th, 2012, 05:42 AM

I am hoping for a 4 year age gap (I'm still trying to pursuade OH for another!!!) I think that way Tom will be in school and I will get alone time with LO and Tom won't feel pushed out!!! And if I went back to work I would only be paying for one in childcare.

Also, I don't think I have the patience or emotional strength to have 2 close together!!!!

MarineWAG · Apr 9th, 2012, 06:27 AM

Yeah I'd just like to add the reason 2 under 2 wouldn't work for us isn't because of the strain of having a newborn and toddler, from what I hear that isn't the hard part, it would be a little later on having 2 toddlers I would dread lol. But that's just me we all cope with the different ages differently.

Apr 8th, 2012, 12:11 PM	#1
Sam3starX Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Cambridgeshire Posts: 349	What do you think is a good age gap?? Me and OH are going to start TTC again in August 2012 so if it happens straight away there will be a 19 month age gap which we think is a good gap, not to far but not to close even though i am soooooooooooooo broody now but if we TTC now there'll be 15 months apart and i feel like thats a bit to soon and i dont want LO to feel pushed out etc What do you guys think is a good age gap?

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Apr 8th, 2012, 12:18 PM	#2
twilightgeek Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 437	personally i think the 18month-2 years apart is perfect from personal experience from me and my younger brother

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MarineWAG Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: UK Posts: 4,590	Personally I think 3 years for us, I'd like LO potty trained, in a bed and with all his teeth lol so he's more manageable with a newborn not a young toddler and a newborn, also, I hope to keep working so it would make childcare more affordable as he'll have 15 hours pre-school paid by the time I am off maternity with the second if all goes to plan.

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EstelSeren Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Aberystwyth Posts: 1,937	Hoping for 18 months- 2 years between 1st and 2nd, so we're trying again from September. Would be aiming for a longer gap than that between 2nd and 3rd babies though as would want eldest to be in full time school first! Beca

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Apr 8th, 2012, 23:47 PM	#5
Guppy051708 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Outside of Boston Posts: 26,084	i love our age gap - 17 months...but then again, im bias tbh, i think an age gap of 15 months - 20 months would be perfect! i love having them close in age. From what i hear my friends with children with age gaps more than 2.5 years, it actually seems harder than a closer one, but i cant say that from experience, just my observations and their comments. also, i was so scared, about having two close in age, during my pregnancy. but then once he got here...piece of cake! its so easy if you babywear! thats one reason why i think its easier, babywear one and put the other in the stroller or whereever. now that ive had two under 17 months for 2 months now, i realize i wasted loads of time being anxious. i think the first is actually harder than having 2

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Apr 9th, 2012, 03:42 AM	#6
2011butterfly Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: West Midlands, UK Posts: 468	Me and my brother are 11 months apart! Where as between me and my younger sister theres 6 years!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 04:47 AM	#7
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 23,596	3/4 years for me. I want to give my children quality time with us which we couldent do with a small age gap.

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Apr 9th, 2012, 05:36 AM	#8
eddjanuary10 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Glasgow Posts: 3,346	I think whatever feels right for you is good I always think nature has a way of telling you its time, whether that be you feeling broody or for me I just got my AF back after 3 years lol and DH & I would like to ttc towards the end of the year now. My son is just starting to sleep good at night now and we would like to have him sleeping in his own room in advance of us ttc (we still co-sleep) so if we had another baby before now I think it would have been more exhausting with a toddler and new born both waking in the night and wanting bf! I just wanted to add, theres 12 years between my younger sister and me and we are very close, I used to change her nappys and looked after her alot but now we are like best friends and both mothers to toddlers now! My other sister & bro who are only a couple of years apart can fight like cat and dog! So you never know! x

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Apr 9th, 2012, 05:42 AM	#9
lepaskilf Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: I live in North Wales Posts: 3,282	I am hoping for a 4 year age gap (I'm still trying to pursuade OH for another!!!) I think that way Tom will be in school and I will get alone time with LO and Tom won't feel pushed out!!! And if I went back to work I would only be paying for one in childcare. Also, I don't think I have the patience or emotional strength to have 2 close together!!!!

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Apr 9th, 2012, 06:27 AM	#10
MarineWAG Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: UK Posts: 4,590	Yeah I'd just like to add the reason 2 under 2 wouldn't work for us isn't because of the strain of having a newborn and toddler, from what I hear that isn't the hard part, it would be a little later on having 2 toddlers I would dread lol. But that's just me we all cope with the different ages differently.

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