Personally I think 3 years for us, I'd like LO potty trained, in a bed and with all his teeth lol so he's more manageable with a newborn not a young toddler and a newborn, also, I hope to keep working so it would make childcare more affordable as he'll have 15 hours pre-school paid by the time I am off maternity with the second if all goes to plan.
Hoping for 18 months- 2 years between 1st and 2nd, so we're trying again from September. Would be aiming for a longer gap than that between 2nd and 3rd babies though as would want eldest to be in full time school first!
i love our age gap - 17 months...but then again, im bias
tbh, i think an age gap of 15 months - 20 months would be perfect!
i love having them close in age.
From what i hear my friends with children with age gaps more than 2.5 years, it actually seems harder than a closer one, but i cant say that from experience, just my observations and their comments.
also, i was so scared, about having two close in age, during my pregnancy. but then once he got here...piece of cake! its so easy if you babywear! thats one reason why i think its easier, babywear one and put the other in the stroller or whereever. now that ive had two under 17 months for 2 months now, i realize i wasted loads of time being anxious. i think the first is actually harder than having 2
I think whatever feels right for you is good I always think nature has a way of telling you its time, whether that be you feeling broody or for me I just got my AF back after 3 years lol and DH & I would like to ttc towards the end of the year now. My son is just starting to sleep good at night now and we would like to have him sleeping in his own room in advance of us ttc (we still co-sleep) so if we had another baby before now I think it would have been more exhausting with a toddler and new born both waking in the night and wanting bf!
I just wanted to add, theres 12 years between my younger sister and me and we are very close, I used to change her nappys and looked after her alot but now we are like best friends and both mothers to toddlers now! My other sister & bro who are only a couple of years apart can fight like cat and dog! So you never know! x
I am hoping for a 4 year age gap (I'm still trying to pursuade OH for another!!!) I think that way Tom will be in school and I will get alone time with LO and Tom won't feel pushed out!!! And if I went back to work I would only be paying for one in childcare.
Also, I don't think I have the patience or emotional strength to have 2 close together!!!!
Yeah I'd just like to add the reason 2 under 2 wouldn't work for us isn't because of the strain of having a newborn and toddler, from what I hear that isn't the hard part, it would be a little later on having 2 toddlers I would dread lol. But that's just me we all cope with the different ages differently.
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